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MidMichCowboy -> RE: The appearances of pretensiousness - (3/16/2009 1:13:26 AM)
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pretentiousness:
1. Claiming or demanding a position of distinction or merit, especially when unjustified.
2. Making or marked by an extravagant outward show; ostentatious
People who make claims to be what they are not (my boiled down version). I used to do a lot of presentations. I always got a kick out of folks who got up and introduced themselves. They would start out with their name and degree(s) and then start adding a bunch of alphabet soup. I was so amused. So I would get up, introduce myself: Good afternoon, I'm (insert name), G.E.E.K. and continue on. The audience usually laughed and clapped. Yea, I had the degrees, authored some books and belonged to the alphabet organizations. But who cares?
I see the same thing when I read a lot of profiles. First, their nicknames. Lots of masters and mistresses, references to cock size or endowment, how mean they are or how greedy, how cruel they can be or how many years they have been "the best". Then they talk about what they are going to do, guys that can turn a lesbian into a whimpering heterosexual, woman who can make a strong man kneel, people who are worth so much you should come crawling, send them money or gifts or just plain worship the ground they walk on. Get real people. If they were so great, would they have to advertise?
Then there are those who talk about all their skills, their years of experience. I have years of experience, but I'm alone. So I will never claim to be "all that". If you are that good, there should be a line forming outside your door.
We are people who like to do certain things others don't. It doesn't elevate us to some mythical level of existence. Many times, it dooms us to loneliness, because finding someone who can put up with us or actually enjoy us, is very hard. When talking to people, just be yourself, not the image you are cultivating. If you like a good wine, fine. If you like good food, wonderful (both terribly expensive habits I've acquired). We are who we are based on life experiences. Most of us still have a lot of growing to do. Finding someone to share our life is hard enough without putting on fake airs.
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