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RE: If You HAD to Choose... - 1/24/2006 6:26:49 AM

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Because a loving committed relationship that actually works and lasts is D/s.

I think so too, otherwise, it generally doesn't work (in my opinion and experience). M

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RE: If You HAD to Choose... - 1/24/2006 6:38:29 AM

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A for me. No surprise there, right?

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RE: If You HAD to Choose... - 1/24/2006 7:42:32 AM

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I'd choose A as well. I lived a long time before I discovered my sub-self and I think I could find other ways to satisfy that side of myself other than sex if I had to.

Maybe we should define terms here, because I took D/s to mean Dominance and Submission and not kinky sex. The kinky sex was offered with the vanilla relationship. What I understood the choice to be was: Love with no power exchange but some kink or Power exchange and kink without the love and commitment.
Neither choice is what i really want but i think that was the point, right?
To me D/s is not exclusively about sex. If I choose A and say well I can still have D/s because thats the nature of a good healthy relationship, thats not answering fairly. Thats like saying I will choose B and secretly experience love also without him knowing. In order for there to be D/s, there has to be a Dom and the framework of the question implies there is no Domming going on, just occasional topping in the bedroom.
So all you peeps who cheated, no fair!
(I realise I responded to more than one post here, sorry for the blanket heading)

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RE: If You HAD to Choose... - 1/24/2006 7:49:36 AM

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I would have to go with B. Love is nice and all, but I could not do a committed relationship without the D/s dynamic.

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RE: If You HAD to Choose... - 1/24/2006 8:09:34 AM

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A It's not a big decision for me. I like D/s, but I'd rather have kink and love.

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RE: If You HAD to Choose... - 1/24/2006 9:20:44 AM

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OK... If you HAD to choose between one or the other (i.e., there is NO OTHER OPTION here), would you choose:

A - In a loving relationship without D/s (but 'nilla kinky sex is ok)

B - Non-committed D/s play from time to time, but no love/relationship

I'm just curious?

I'll start things off... If I HAD to choose, I'd choose "A" - love over D/s.

I'd rather be a nun than choose from between those two options.

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