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MissLaura1973 -> RE: Online vs RealTime Relationships (3/8/2009 3:37:32 PM)
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ORIGINAL: laura2161
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ORIGINAL: MissLaura1973
I've had on-line relationships, but only in terms of that being where the person and I met before we moved into real-time.
I dont consider that an online relationship because you had every intention of meeting in real time. I've met a few people online,if the basics are there, then I like to meet real time as soon as possible. For me, I dont see it as an online relationship because the relationship doesn't start until we meet real time. The online stuff is just getting acquainted :-)
*grinning* You're quite right - I don't think any of that "counted" as being an on-line relationship - I do know that it was frustrating having to wait (the joys of logistics) before we could move into real time.
I'm actually currently involved in a "getting to know you" relationship via CM - we've been conversing since last December and have yet to meet (again, bloody darn logistics), but everything is in the context that we will meet and will move into real time. There's a definite infatuation on both sides, but we don't know each other well enough to be anything more than acquaintances - whatever dynamic happens between us will happen in real time, what's being bantered back and forth is just bantering - there's flirtation and serious discussions, yes, but there's not a relationship. (I have no idea if this makes any sense.)
At one point this person said that they wanted to give themselves to me; I told them that I was not interested in owning a figment of the ether and that I wouldn't even consider discussing something as serious as ownership until we were face-to-face and I knew that he was making a real offer to a real person, not to a fantasy that he'd undoubtedly built up in his mind.
ETA: There's one really oddly intimate thing that I have done with this person, on-line ... he turned on his webcam, directed it toward his bed, and I watched him sleep (well, until the connection timed out). It was so much more meaningful to me than cyber sex or anything along those lines and just increases my desire to know this person in a tangible manner.
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