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RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion - 3/6/2009 4:44:14 PM

MidMichCowboy

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What you seem to suggest here is that rituals equal, if not apathy, then a certain coolness; that passion cannot be expressed through protocol. Take ballet as an example. Every step, every move is scripted. Yet the story the dancers tell with their bodies has the power to make us feel deeply.
Ritual can be a fervent affirmation of the relationship. A few years ago I was involved with a dominant who had scripted a greeting ritual for me. Every time we met in private, I knelt and spoke 3 short sentences. We called it our mantra. The words were powerful in their simplicity and as I spoke them, I felt them every time. And the best part? When I looked up at him, his eyes were shining with pleasure and pride;;;every time.
There certainly is beauty in the raw and hungry beast we sometimes feed on. But do not doubt that there is ardor, too, in ritual and protocol.

What I said is that for me, formalized scenes are boring. I would never judge what they are for others. IT'S NOT ME.
I don't deny that there are many who can express their passion through ritual. I didn't say that was wrong. I said it was wrong for me.
I don't doubt the passion for those into ritual. I've seen it and admired it.
But why am I considered inferior if I don't want that?

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RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion - 3/6/2009 5:40:29 PM

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Hi, MidMichCowboy----
I think I am going to have a moment contemplating your op.... :>
Both are cool. At this very moment, if I had to pick one, I'd go with raw barbaric passion (And, it'd be my preference) but a level of ritual and structure is nice sometimes too. :>
Thank you for the nice thoughts! :>
Davan

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RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion - 3/6/2009 6:25:34 PM

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What I tried to do was get you to look at it in a different way; there is no ‘superior’ or ‘inferior’ to it. It works for some but of course not for all.

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RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion - 3/6/2009 6:41:13 PM

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What I tried to do was get you to look at it in a different way; there is no ‘superior’ or ‘inferior’ to it. It works for some but of course not for all.

I understand that. I do respect the opinions of others, and I love your responses (your such a wonderful lady).
What people don't understand is the sheer freedom to let passion rule.
I"ve been told I'm too smart for my own good. My strength is my intellect. I'm usually very tightly controlled, playing the odds, working to make thing work in my favor. Yes, many call me manipulative. At work, I do well. I don't play the politics game, I do my thing. But, it's all very controlled and deliberate.

In my personal life, I relish just letting go. I want to find someone who doesn't flee from the passion and strength I bring to my life. Someone who will feed off that passion and desire.
Someone who can accept the part of me ... that just is.

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RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion - 3/6/2009 6:55:10 PM

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I feel very similar about D/s. It's not that I don't like rituals but that I prefer that they grow out of the relationship rather than being imposed on it.
Spontaniety is what makes life special for me. As long as it's with the right person.
I think the whole point of D/s and BDSM is that the people in the relationship can search for their particular kind of freedom in a world that is full of constraints.
I still find myself living in the hope that one day I will find the person who completes me.

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RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion - 3/7/2009 9:51:12 AM

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If you try that with someone new or nonconsentual. who does'nt want that much barbarian affection..
here's whats going to happen. First She's going to get Wrist control. and peel your hand away from her throat.. and Second She's going to Pull out her gun.. This is very important that she pulls out her gun and then She's going to stop you from raping her... next she's going to take that knife and put it in your hand and call the police.

Being a serial rape artist unconsentually is not any part of this lifestyle.

consentual rape play maybe okay.. but if you rip her clothes everytime you come home from work.. Pretty soon she's going to get the idea or not have any clothes left and walk around the house naked..*WEG* is this your goal ?

Love it.