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What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:25:34 AM

LunaVenus

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What percent of the people you talk to fall off the face of the earth when it is time to meet after lengthy online conversations?

And of those you do meet, what percent ever see you again?

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:30:39 AM

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Everyone that I have set up a meet with has shown up. There are never any lengthy online conversations...(Hard Limit)...From there it is simply a matter of attraction, timing and connection.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:39:37 AM

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I'd have to go with domguy here, though lengthy conversations aren't a hard limit for me. I simply figure they aren't a comparable replacement for actual face to face contact. There is something to be said for chemistry--If I'm not feeling it, they're not gonna feel me. Ever.

They've always shown up, though. There just hasn't always been chemistry.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:41:12 AM

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I've talked with subs that I thought would be wonderful to meet with in person who suddenly seemed to fall of the face of the earth. For some there is a thrill in talking via the internet but they will never have the courage to show up in real life.

I had a rule as a Domme - the first meeting was in public for either coffee or a meal. The first session had to wait for 24 hours. Everyone that met with me ended up having a session with me except for one, and that was only because I ended up moving before we could meet again. The 24 hour rule was to make sure that we were both comfortable with each other and to make sure that it wouldn't end up being a one night stand with some horny guy. If they pressured me at all then I knew that they were not suitable for my needs.

No matter how good things seem online and on the phone they can be very different when it comes to face to face. People on both sides of the whip back out. As a slave I was once stood up by a Dom that had seemed incredibly interested. At first I felt ashamed, but then I realized that I had done nothing wrong. I had dressed as he wished, had my toy bag packed with the things he wanted in it, I had done everything I was supposed to. It was he that was unworthy, not me.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:42:58 AM

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I would say only 1 person out of 100 has shown up. The rest have disappeared the day of the meeting though they may have spoken to me 3 times a day a few hours beforehand.
An utterwaste of time.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:44:56 AM

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While I have not met a lot of people through the internet, all the ones I have made arrangements to meet have shown up. I am still in contact with all but 1.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 11:56:46 AM

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quote:

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I would say only 1 person out of 100 has shown up. The rest have disappeared the day of the meeting though they may have spoken to me 3 times a day a few hours beforehand.
An utterwaste of time.

Hmmmm. It sucks, but there is a difference in what we are seeking. You are looking for wrapped presents and a stipend. You are extremely photogenic and I'm sure that your picture has provided many a sub with some rousing wacking material. Is that your left aereola peeking out? Guys want to pursue you to the point of parting with their treasured dollars. Apparently those dollars are more important to them than the prospects of meeting you. Anywhooo, what you provide is a sort of fiction and appears to partcipate requires some sort of a financial commitment. I require sanity, attractiveness, good hygiene, intelligence, a healthy imagination and libido and an overall hottie.

You meet. it's no biggie. if things work they work. if not...Oh, the fuck, well.

You are attractive. I have a tux. At the moment short on wrapped gifts and stipends.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 12:01:31 PM

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I think I've met perhaps a dozen people via the net, and they've all shown up.

so, 100%.

3 I've ended up seriously involved with.

With the others there wasn't sufficient chemistry.

Now; as far as what percentage have replied to ads I've placed and turned out to be realistic possibilities for someone to meet (edit; for coffee...) - that percentage feels something like 2%.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 1:45:57 PM

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...contemplates what kind of wrapped gift or stipend it would take to get domiguy into his tux (or out of it)...

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 2:36:00 PM

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I am gonna guess that YOU would be the wrapped gift!

I think only one or two never showed. That was years ago. I've met quite a few people from the net, only a few I was meeting with any thought beyond friendship. One was the wild love of my life. After that, I waited a few years until I got my "give a damn" back.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 2:39:45 PM

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From my own experience of having met close to fifty people via CM, just two haven't shown but they at least notified me they weren't coming, albeit by providing bizarre reasons and no further attempts were made thereafter. Of those I have met, approx. 20 were far removed from the persons they claimed to be, the pictures they provided or the level of experience claimed. Prior to meeting, there was a cut-off three week grace plus telephone contact, if an arrangement to meet was made and cancelled, a further opportunity was provided, if that, too, fell through, no further opportunities were provided - I relented on that rule just the once and it bit me in the ass, so I have no one to blame but myself for that.

Of those I have met and connections made, several have become good friends, one became my partner, I am still in contact with a couple of former lovers, I am still in contact with a couple of former clients (from my days as a pro-domme) and some of them have drifted off as people tend to do. Now and again a familiar face that I've met will turn up to say 'hello' and disappear again into the ether. But that's okay, we're free spirits, we aren't tied to one another and it's nice to hear from them as and when.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 6:34:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LunaVenus

What percent of the people you talk to fall off the face of the earth when it is time to meet after lengthy online conversations?

None.

And of those you do meet, what percent ever see you again?

100%.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 7:28:53 PM

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everyone I've planned to meet has shown up. I don't really do the extended chatting thing with people I plan to play with though, I almost never wait longer than a week between first message and meeting.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 8:17:15 PM

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I estimate about 70% show and 30% are no shows over-all. There are a couple of restaurants and cafe's that I use for these meetings and pack a book or newspaper in case they flake. If they flake then they are blocked because begging just gets on my nerves. Some people are nice and we have a good conversation but no chemistry and stay acquaintances. A few become close friends, some move on in search of other horizons and a few last a long, long time.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 8:19:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LunaVenus

What percent of the people you talk to fall off the face of the earth when it is time to meet after lengthy online conversations?

And of those you do meet, what percent ever see you again?

Here is a twist on your question, how many of us WANT to actually meet?
I mean how many of us want to run out and make plans to meet someone we
have only chatted with a few times?
If someone can't take the time to get to know me prior to meeting, than I am
not interested in going out of my way to meet them.
I don't mean endless chatting for months or years, but I don't like to rush things.
Everyone moves at a different pace, if someone is in a hurry or pushy, than that
is someone I don't want to become involved with anyway.
It is nice being the Dominant party.
I can set the pace.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 8:21:41 PM

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If they arent ready to meet within a couple of weeks, I'm outta there.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 8:22:49 PM

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Only one out of a half-dozen or so did not show up.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/27/2009 8:46:38 PM

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I think, over the last 23 years, of the couple dozen people I've befriended and tried to start some kind of relationship with... only 3 vanished on me when it came time to meet somewhere.... several more showed up, and told me that they weren't interested, but for the most part, hooking up with folks from online has been a pretty positive experience.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/28/2009 4:36:19 AM

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One note, last weekend 2 other Dommes I know came over. The other girls do not ask anything of men except that they have a pulse.

We went through our cm mail together and our mailboxes looked identical.... All the same men wrote all 3 of us saying the exact same "unique" things to all of us. That was an eye opener. The 3 of us have nothing in common. That was very interesting too to see that the emails that I was reading with interest were being sent out in bulk to every female online. One guy offered to buy roses for 2 of us. Neither of them ever came.

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RE: What percent don't show up - 2/28/2009 4:43:15 AM

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That was very interesting too to see that the emails that I was reading with interest were being sent out in bulk to every female online.

I always assume that it's a bulk mailing unless something specific is mentioned about my profile or forum postings. Last week I received the same mass message from the same guy (he must've forgotten to check me off his list the first time) twice in one day.

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