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Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 10:02:40 AM

slavemick63

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I am what I am,I sometimes try and fight being a submissive sissy slave who craves humiliation.But this is who I am.I remember putting my mothers tights(pantyhose) on when I was a small boy,(in secret of course).I remember putting on my sisters clothes on in my teens.WHY,..I dont know.Girls I have dated wanted me to take the lead,to be a 'Real man' so to speak.I tried but failed.I even encouraged my wife to cuckold me when she really had no interest in it.Until she eventually had an affair and left me for her lover.That was all down to me being submissive,craving to be humiliated.Like I say,sometimes I wish I was vanilla,I think my life to date would of been a lot easier.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 10:28:28 AM

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Ok, I will be the first to tackle this one

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ORIGINAL: slavemick63
I am what I am,I sometimes try and fight being a submissive sissy slave who craves humiliation.But this is who I am.

Then if this is who you are, why fight it?

I remember putting my mothers tights(pantyhose) on when I was a small boy,(in secret of course).I remember putting on my sisters clothes on in my teens.WHY,..I dont know.

It is a fetish. Nothing more, nothing less.

Girls I have dated wanted me to take the lead,to be a 'Real man' so to speak.I tried but failed.

Define "Real Man"? What is your own definition of a real man? I tend to think it will not be the same as mine.

I even encouraged my wife to cuckold me when she really had no interest in it.Until she eventually had an affair and left me for her lover.That was all down to me being submissive,craving to be humiliated.

This was not a result of you being submissive in any way, shape, or form. It was due to your inability to contain yourself and your greedy need. You got what you asked for. She left you for another man...possibly a "real man"? She humiliated you by stepping out with another and eventually leaving you for him.
Like I said, this is not being submissive, this is being selfish. Maybe the two are the same for you.

Like I say,sometimes I wish I was vanilla,I think my life to date would of been a lot easier.

Ya think?

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 1:32:28 PM

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I have often wished I were vanilla. There are many more vanilla women out there to meet than dominant ones. Much easier to please as well.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 1:39:59 PM

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LOL! women are women are women. We are all hard to please. Just read how many female subs are complaining about how their male D isn't doing this or that or giving them this or that or all the other standard talking points that come from being born and socialized with your ovaries on the inside.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 1:55:18 PM

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Ah Mick, don't take it so hard...You my friend, are a boat load of eye candy. Just look at those gams. . Who could resist'em? What kind of a chick wouldn't dig a dude with legs up to his armpits?

If you wife had an affair I would blame it on those white stockings...Make your ankles look a tad thick. Stay with black, much more slimming as well as mysterious.. I do like heels but you kind of strike me as a dude that would feel more comfortable in a flat. Comfort often equates to confidence.

I wish you nothing but the best...May your panties endlessly moisten at the thought of all of these Dommes working you over but good.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 1:57:27 PM

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This is not an intentional hijack.......

However, i must say that in quickly scrolling through the posts i am somewhat disappointed in this particular topic....The only thing i read from the outset was "Sometimes I wish i was a va" and saw that domiguy was the last to have posted....
sad day really....

really really sad...

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 1:58:03 PM

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I rejoice in the fact that I am not vanilla. I'm not far from it, but being in the lifestyle allows me to live a much more fulfilling life than I can in the strictly vanilla world. I have had so many "magic moments" that I wouldn't trade it for anything, even though I may be a bit of an oddball to anyone outside of the lifestyle.

Look for the magic and embrace yourself.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 2:46:00 PM

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slavemick63,

I think you're precious.

I'm glad you're not vanilla.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 3:36:53 PM

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Damn I wish I was rich instead of good looking. At some point you just gotta deal with what you got! Quite whinning and be glad your not in Iraq getting shot at, or born in some 3 rd world shithole where you have to bath in the freaking river. Some ppl just don't realize how good they have it! SHEESH

I have my lucky sperm theory. I was born in the USA, My parents had a couple of bucks so we ate when hungry. They sent me to good schools and best of all they loved me. Compare that to being born in any 3rd world country. No elect No school living off the land herding sheep you get the idea.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 3:46:19 PM

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I think that self-loathing ought be saved for a negatively distinctive few. From what you've said, you don't meet my criteria.
Cut it out.
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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 3:56:10 PM

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I don't really wish I was vanilla, I moreso wish that everyone else was kinky.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 3:56:23 PM

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quote:

sometimes I wish I was vanilla,I think my life to date would of been a lot easier

Get over it already. And figure out what you have done to make your life so hard - which doesn't normally have anything to do with sexual orientation, but more with the way you behave and deal with it.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 4:04:23 PM

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And you'll think you'd be better off being vanilla right up until the point you finally meet someone who makes you feel very, very glad you're not. And when that happens you'll be too busy bathing in the utter joy of acceptance and understanding and indulgence to worry about all the past misery.

Most people get beset by doubt over their identities art some point, wish they were someone else or wired differently or with someone else and they usually feel this strongest when they're at a low point in their life. Loneliness, in particular, is like steroids when it comes to doubt and self-loathing; nothing like coming home to nothing of very much to reaffirm your own low opinion of yourself.

But the fact is you have at least an inkling of how indescribably wonderful it would be to find what you want. You know that if you did find it, it would be beyond anything vanilla could offer you. You know this or you wouldn't have made it this far, would you?

So if you know how good finding what you need could be for you then you also know that if you'd been born vanilla then that world would be all you know. This world, which you may not have fully experienced but is at least known to you, would likely be an unknown and unknowable one to you as a vanilla man. You would therefore never hope or aspire to anything like it.

Few things truly worth having are attained easily. Sometimes they're never attained at all and there are few things sadder than a life lived in hope and potential that goes unfulfilled. But that's simply the price you have to pay if you are to have any chance of getting what you need.

There are no guarantees but you cannot change either what you want or what you are without losing who you are.

And you're not vanilla.

Edit: typos and probably didn't get them all.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 4:50:40 PM

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quote:

LOL! women are women are women. We are all hard to please. Just read how many female subs are complaining about how their male D isn't doing this or that or giving them this or that or all the other standard talking points that come from being born and socialized with your ovaries on the inside.

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Oh I disagree, I am very low maintenence, and I am very easy to please!!! As a matter of fact, I love to do the pleasing! This is not to say I don't LOVE to be pleased but basic respect and affection will do it for me. Care about me, make me feel loved... That's about it... Not so hard, if you ask me!!!

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 4:52:35 PM

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Status: online Damn I wish I was rich instead of good looking. At some point you just gotta deal with what you got! Quite whinning and be glad your not in Iraq getting shot at, or born in some 3 rd world shithole where you have to bath in the freaking river. Some ppl just don't realize how good they have it! SHEESH

I have my lucky sperm theory. I was born in the USA, My parents had a couple of bucks so we ate when hungry. They sent me to good schools and best of all they loved me. Compare that to being born in any 3rd world country. No elect No school living off the land herding sheep you get the idea. [/quote]

BRAVO!!!!!! YEAH!!!!!! HORRAY!!!!!!! someone on earth is appreciative for all that we have here! Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 6:33:09 PM

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Welcome to the club!
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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/24/2009 9:18:15 PM

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Not me. I have known what I am since childhood. And I love it. The key is to never get deeply involved with a vanilla woman. That is not fair to anyone. When you have a Mistress and you're in love, there is nothing that can compare to it.

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RE: Sometimes I wish I was vanilla - 2/25/2009 6:43:19 AM

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Thanks for all the comments,I have to agree with a lot what has been said.I suppose I just havnt met the right Woman yet.

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grass is always greener cliche - 2/25/2009 7:01:09 AM

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It's such a cliche that the grass is always greener on the other side. But it's true. I'll bet that there are plenty of vanilla guys wishing they were kinky. They keep meeting women with sex toys who are asking them to bend over or to spank them or tie them up. Maybe they think something is wrong that they can't satisfy their girlfriend's kinky side. Vanilla guys might be thinking that they are the most boring lovers in the world because they can't get into the kinkiness and all the really hot chicks are parading around in leather carrying whips.

I'm sure vanilla guys look at you and think how lucky you are that you get to meet leather clad Dommes and do all that kinky stuff that they could only dream about. You live a life that many men and women fantasize about but are too riddled with guilt to even explore.

Once I lifted off the burden of guilt and embarrassment over what I really like, my life was so much better and fulfilling.

The only thing wrong with you is that you aren't meeting the right kind of women YET! I'm sure there are plenty of people on this board who can direct you to being where you'll find like-minded people and then you'll be glad you are who you are.

Now get out there, enjoy life and live it up!!!

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