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Stealth - 2/16/2009 1:44:12 PM   
slavemick63


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Status: offline 		Can you get someone to Dominate you by stealth ?
and if yes..how?
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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 1:48:55 PM   
Lynnxz


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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 1:50:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Can you be more specific?  You can find someone to do just about anything... but it might help to know what you actually mean.

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 2:00:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

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I think it is Ninja subs, in the OP's case. 

You mean to trick someone into dominating you by asking for mentoring or some other form of instruction (like a personal trainer or yoga instructor might give)?  It has been tried with me on a few occasions by slaves or subs who belonged to someone else but had a little crush on me.  Yes, if they are not very observant, or on guard against being manipulated in this way, it is possible.  The first one who tried it with me managed to get something out of it for a while. I will even go so far as to say I enjoyed the feeling of having a dominant relationship with her at the time but did not really connect all the dots. Then she slipped up and called me 'Master' and I realized what was really happening, backed off and sent an apology to her owner explaining what had been going on.

But then I was relatively new to the community and protocols at the time and it seemed very innocent to me.  I am more aware of such things now. 


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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 2:00:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Can you be more specific?  You can find someone to do just about anything... but it might help to know what you actually mean.

A girlfriend of mine(and I mean just friend) sent me a text,something so simple which read "get your butt to the shop and buy me something to eat now'..It was just a joke on her part but me being submisive,it got me all excited..She is toatlly vanilla and dosnt know of my submissive side,as our friendship is not of that nature..but it got me thinking she made me feel very submissive without even knowing it...Do you understand what I mean?

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 2:10:03 PM   
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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 2:12:19 PM   
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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 4:59:50 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		You can for a while. But if they aren't into this, you are going to eventually poison the relationship by manipulating them into doing things that make them feel bad. Is this what you want, to get your needs met at any price, including hurting someone and ruining the relationship and getting yourself a reputation as someone underhanded?

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 5:18:11 PM   
Lockit


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ORIGINAL: slavemick63

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Can you be more specific?  You can find someone to do just about anything... but it might help to know what you actually mean.

A girlfriend of mine(and I mean just friend) sent me a text,something so simple which read "get your butt to the shop and buy me something to eat now'..It was just a joke on her part but me being submisive,it got me all excited..She is toatlly vanilla and dosnt know of my submissive side,as our friendship is not of that nature..but it got me thinking she made me feel very submissive without even knowing it...Do you understand what I mean?


I don't think she made you feel anything.  You had a natural submissive response to what she said.  I think that it can be a dangerous thing to friendships, and even to you, if you project anything more than a momentary response to something said.  You could find you get into a habit of looking for more and maybe even making it happen more often since you liked your own response.  Especially if you feel rather needy to submit to someone and for that type of attention.  It might not even be something you are aware of right off, but by the time you catch yourself, it could be hard to stop doing.

It also could open doors for people to take advantage of you seeing your need to give or do for them.  I have seen this happen in totally vanilla setting's where someone likes someone for whatever reasons, and the other can see that and will reap the benefits.

Enjoy the moments when they happen and take them for what they are worth to you, but don't promote it or encourage yourself to find yourself in further situations.  It is far too easy to project when you have a need going unmet and many will have a fantasy or two and pretty soon you could find you are trying to make the fantasy a reality.

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 5:24:45 PM   
feydeplume


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The only thing i would add is that, because some people see d/s as a form of intimacy/sex, if you try to get people to stealth dom you, you are engaging in non-consensual sex. That has another name, a 4 letter word, i might add.


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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 6:57:31 PM   
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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 7:00:30 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		Like over a intercom like in Charlie's angels??

Sure, but it would be no fun without Chuck cumin over to slam one in ya once in a while.

or like these guys: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_9iXFeu5ZA, no thanks.

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 7:23:45 PM   
slavemick63


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Status: offline 		Interesting comments..I take it the answers no then.

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 7:27:37 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		Sure it is possible. It might just be harmful to you, your future relationships, your emotional health, your loved ones, and your sense of self worth.

But hey, sometimes it is a kick, isn't it?


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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 7:32:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you have some sort of non consent kink thing, maybe, though I couldn't even begin trying to explain how it would still work out to consent anyway.  I am interested to know why a submissive wants to manipulate in such a way.  Call it topping from the bottom or whatever.  It just seems underhanded and would be against my own inclinations within my submissiveness to engage in such a thing.

On the flip side, I can get a real kick out of watching a person's subbie side come out at some of the simplest "requests" I may give.  Is it stealth domination on my part?  Yes, I suppose.  At the same time, since it is a dominant role I AM the one in control.  Consent is given in the form of obedience in my view.  Let it also be clear only a few folks do I do this with and they know full well if they stop and think about it what I have done.  They usually come back with a little crooked grin as they realize it halfway through whatever task I had them doing.  They complete it and it is just unspoken between us what has occurred.

Double standard, yes, I know.  My mind works in confusing ways sometimes.

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RE: Stealth - 2/16/2009 7:37:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, if you are got at burning DVD's, you could try subliminal messaging. Slipping in images of leather clad Dommes and bondage scenes, lets say 1 out of 24 frames. Too quick for the conscious mind to catch but the subconscious can recognize it. Slow Motion might bring a suprise though.

Old movie theaters (60's) used subliminal messaging to get people to buy popcorn. Images of popcorn would be shown in the frames. Again too quick for the conscious mind to catch. But the subconscoius caught it. It boosted concession sales by a good 10 to 15%. It was then ruled illegal to do that.

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RE: Stealth - 2/17/2009 4:31:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		So it is really more like flirting or, to use a female example, fixing your lipstick and crossing and uncrossing your legs just to see who notices.

Not so stealth/manipulation if they are in on it, but as i said it can be a real kick to kink in public.


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RE: Stealth - 2/17/2009 6:04:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		The more I read the more I become confused. Why is it that the OP can't be dominated by stealth? It's her fantasy not yours. Of course you can be dominated by stealth, any way you want sweetheart, all you have to do is ask. I'll bet you would just love being treated as a pampered pet, as if you were the most priceless and adored.........Then.......................  

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RE: Stealth - 2/17/2009 6:08:13 AM   
MG4Apuppygirl


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RE: Stealth - 2/17/2009 6:14:02 AM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		I think the stumbling word here is "stealth". Manipulating your vanilla friends into doming you is manipulation and sort of frowned on when they find out that you have been using them for sex games and objectifying them and all sorts of things that can and do really piss off women especially.

now stealth doming from someone that is into it and KNOWS that both you and they are doing it is way hot and tons of fun. It is practically a lifestyle all in itself. 

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