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missturbation -> People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 12:46:00 PM)

Yanno i don't know whether it's because i'm getting old or what but my people tolerance is on virtual zero at the moment. I've always been outspoken and blunt but just recently the things of the tip of my tongue have been downright cruel.
I remember when my UM was small i had infinite patience with kids, a few years ago that turned to zilch. It seems my tolerance of people in general is going the same way.
Don't get me wrong they have to do or say something i find irritating to make me feel like i want to rip their heads off but still it doesn't seem to take much.
For example recently a show of jealousy on another subs part because i made a comment about her dom, usually i would just laugh it off. This time i wanted to (but refrained) ask her what the fuck she was jealous about ffs, for starters im in the uk, shes in the states with him.
Another one is whinging about not being able to serve whilst injured, making mountains out of mole hills. FFs i continued to run my business with a chipped ankle bone that i could barely put to the floor, stop whinging.
See what i mean, i've turned into the mean old lady who doesn't have a nice word to say about anyone!



subtlebutterfly -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 12:49:40 PM)

Peoples stupidity and just plain ignorance can be overwhelming, I kind of have to say it (I know I can be stupid too but I'm just talking about my point of view). After I started in the legal department I'm started to see stupid people in every single corner that drive me nuts (and I did have a short fuse before that lol) ....and they say the older people get the less tolerant they become (don't know about the truth in that one though) [8|]



sappatoti -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 12:58:22 PM)

In my own experience I've found that I've become less tolerant of other people's actions and words if I've perceived them to be dumb, stupid, ignorant, etc.

Is this phenomenon directly associated with the aging process? Or, could it be that the older I get the less need I have to be nice towards those who irritate me in the here and now (as opposed to tolerating it more in my younger days)?

I certainly don't have an answer, though I don't suppose it would be very helpful if I did. All I know is that certain actions and words are no longer "protected" by my former blanket of amnesty... if they're irritating and stupid, I'm going to treat them as such.



LaTigresse -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 1:17:28 PM)

Welcome to my world MissT.

It's a miracle I have any tongue left.



mefisto69 -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 1:26:43 PM)

Do Not Entertain Stupidity < a fools battle. The masses have been deliberately dumbed down through mis-education and the results are what you see all over the net. I rarely post or respond and have learned to just click away from the angst.



RCdc -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 1:35:48 PM)

If this is online then yes, you do need to step away from it.  Why get annoyed at people you don't know or will never meet?  Getting on top of your own issues you have is far more constructive than being intentionally nasty to someone when you're comparing them to yourself and your own coping abilities.



colouredin -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 2:12:39 PM)

I actually find ignorance in real life far far far easier to deal with, dunno why really I guess I just come across way more brands of stupidity online than real life possibly becuase the stupidity isnt real or I can be far more selective about who I grace my time with. Mind Misst my tolerance is lowering too, I was at an event yesterday with an uber dom type, normally im pretty good with him but yesterday i went a little mental and screamed a fair few unrepeatable words to him.

People gradually become jaded.



GreedyTop -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 2:29:23 PM)

Misst.. I think, maybe, you've just got too  much stress going on, and it could be that this is how it's manifesting?



NorthernGent -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 2:30:35 PM)

As an adult, you may want to reconsider your take on life. Holding people to your standards (high or low) is a recipe for isolation. After all, how many people do you know who are prepared to accept your way of life as the gospel?

The trick of evolution means people have choice, and choice means people will make an unwise decision from time to time, while making a wise decision at other times; meaning that you will see behaviour that you/I/everyone consider to be odd and behaviour that you/I/everyone will consider to be impressive. Your focus is your choice, but it doesn't detract from the fact that there is much to like about people and the world.



subtlebutterfly -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 2:46:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

As an adult, you may want to reconsider your take on life. Holding people to your standards (high or low) is a recipe for isolation. After all, how many people do you know who are prepared to accept your way of life as the gospel?

The trick of evolution means people have choice, and choice means people will make an unwise decision from time to time, while making a wise decision at other times; meaning that you will see behaviour that you/I/everyone consider to be odd and behaviour that you/I/everyone will consider to be impressive. Your focus is your choice, but it doesn't detract from the fact that there is much to like about people and the world.


agreed in a way..and no doubt the world would be hella boring if everybody would be on the same page I am[:D]



came4U -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 7:12:07 PM)

quote:

See what i mean, i've turned into the mean old lady who doesn't have a nice word to say about anyone!


I don't know how old you are but usually one gains more patience with age.

You are likely in a phase/a mood, some stressors or pressure or hormones, who knows...could be anything.

It will pass. Prolly short-term.

If not, plan on getting some long mormon dresses for your spinsterhood [8D] hehe.



rexrgisformidoni -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/16/2009 8:55:33 PM)

I am easily annoyed pretty much anywhere, online or off. People in class,the grocery store, work,etc, annoying. Class chats, people on message boards, family on im, annoyed. Might be why I am alone, eh? 



Vendaval -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 2:33:30 AM)

misst,
 
I think you need some quality alone time where you can let go of the stress you shoulder every day and recharge yourself.  You are running your own household and business, the economy is tight and the UK govern. is making new laws about pubs, etc.  If you internalize all that crap you will feel terrible inside and out.
 
Find a day or a few hours at least to get out or stay in and turn off all forms of communication with other people.  Read a book or zone out with a movie or soak in the tub, go for a walk, take a drive, etc.  You need some perspective to put all the petty annoyances in life in their place.
 
Take care,
 
Vendaval



persephonee -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 6:12:50 AM)

misst...you *cant* be the crabby old lady!...because, this month, *i* get to be her!....Actually, my bullshit detector just recently needed to be reset at a higher frequency as too many folks were getting lumped into the "just kill them, youll feel better about it if you just kill them"  catagory...i needed to take a deep breath and let the fools continue to live...hard to parent from prison and yadayadayada...In reality, people are no stupider than they were last month or last year...you are just hitting a wall currently...eventually you will adjust your course and navigate around them.[:D]



feydeplume -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 6:26:31 AM)

I know it was my turn yesterday to be the cranky witch of the west.

I hope i didn't usurp anyone's Queen Bitch day cuz that would just suck. Misst you rock. You are an amazing woman with tons to give, even and especially the much needed slap downs that HAVE to happen from time to time. We haven't had that much interaction but even a stressed out spaz like me can see how much you are treasured here. And i bet they (and i) will treasure you all the more when you are feeling more settled in yourself and less like taking a hatchet to us all, the local bobby, and that strange old lady and mumbles as she walks past you every day.

be well.





LaTigresse -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 7:16:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: came4U

quote:

See what i mean, i've turned into the mean old lady who doesn't have a nice word to say about anyone!


I don't know how old you are but usually one gains more patience with age.



Then I must be getting younger. I have wayyyyyyyyyyy less patience for stupidity than I used to.



Coldwarrior57 -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 8:35:09 AM)

Tolerance = a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own; freedom from bigotry.

Doesnt say anything about dealing with stupidity. I have no tolerance for closed minded people.



kdsub -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 9:04:35 AM)

I'd say you know the answer...maybe you just don't want to or can't face it. There is something in your life that is raising your intolerance of others. You are lashing out in frustration because of a situation you are having trouble controlling.

Doctor Butch



DesFIP -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 9:32:30 AM)

Had this discussion with the teen this morning while waiting for the bus. The conclusion we came to is that it's still winter and we are just tired of it. That until April and some better weather comes, everyone will be grumpy and nasty.

I really need a week of warm weather. I may just go for a tanning session instead to get the UV rays to improve my mood.



CatdeMedici -> RE: People tolerance - i need to step away from the pc!! (2/17/2009 10:13:55 AM)

Personally I find this most with strangers when they aren't as I expect them to be--family is a known entity-friends are friends because we have mutuality and duality-its outside that circle that I don't suffer fools well--I expect people to be calm, considerate; I expect children to behave as Mine did/does, I expect people to make informed decisions, be knowledgeable etc. When I do that, I get all in a ball---when I go about life with out those expectatons, My stress level decreases dramatically.



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