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RE: point of departure - 2/17/2009 3:31:34 AM   
MG4Apuppygirl


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Status: offline 		If your not pushing yourself to extend your limits and growing to experience different aspects or thresholds then your not really playing the game of life, just marking time waiting for death.   

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RE: point of departure - 2/17/2009 8:04:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I'm curious as to why you have to become someone else, why you chose someone who doesn't like you the way you are now?

Changing me would require a great deal of work for very small changes. I found it better to find someone who enjoys who I am now.


hi DF-,

Sir enjoys my personality and has no desire to change me.  who i am is a strong part of why he has chosen to take my submission.

what i am right now as the process of becoming his slave creeps into me, is chaotic, irresponsible, self destructive and undisciplined - its these things he wishes to change and i will be forever grateful to him for helping me - its no fun.

but also he wants to introduce things to me that are latent elements of who i am, such as whore, massochist and slave - i add slave as latent because ive only really considered myself fairly submissive at best and yet with him im finding that i welcome and am starting to respond well to the level of control he is exerting - so i am changing in that way, yes - but im open to it and we've talked about it alot.

but i also like to be challenged with new things, so for me, to accept new things for him is just fine.  i trust him not to push me into something that would harm me emotionally or psychologically.

so it isnt about becoming someone else, its about building and developing from here and if i become someone else through a sense of greater confidence, self worth, focus and from a background of support then thats not going to be a bad thing.  but it will still be from the roots of me -

< Message edited by InTonguesslave -- 2/17/2009 8:12:52 AM >

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RE: point of departure - 2/17/2009 8:09:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks lally. I was confused because your op is so focused on all of these negative traits, that it read as though there wasn't anything about you he approved of.

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RE: point of departure - 2/17/2009 8:31:27 AM   
InTonguesslave


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... actually i was feeling really calm as i wrote that.  the post was in a way provoked by OWl, who mentioned in her thread that she was afraid of - and i forget the exact words - dissappearing as the person she is as she steps closer to what her Master asks of her.

i was attempting to say that we all change whoever we are, but that we always carry over who we are and what we've learnt, and that can never go away - short of suffering a thick thump to the head followed by comprehensive amnesia

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RE: point of departure - 2/17/2009 8:37:10 AM   
InTonguesslave


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

I will put it this way.  Plenty of people love me as is.  A rare few love me as is, but love me too much to let me stay that way.  There are things to be improved on and hopes and dreams that deserve life and attention.  Change is not always a negative.

I think I remember as you were headed this way and you both realized that the time and experiences and all of it was just right for the two of you to enter each other's lives.  Sometimes life is that way.  Often it is.  We are not ready for the good stuff until we have the criteria to base it upon.  You really seem thoroughly happy!  Congrats love!

lovingpet


just wanted to highlight those bits, nothing to add just what youve said says it all.

hugs. xx

< Message edited by InTonguesslave -- 2/17/2009 8:38:24 AM >

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RE: point of departure - 2/17/2009 8:43:01 AM   
InTonguesslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MG4Apuppygirl

If your not pushing yourself to extend your limits and growing to experience different aspects or thresholds then your not really playing the game of life, just marking time waiting for death.   


thats my philosphy too  - its going to take some pushing though - im very comfy in my wellie boots, floppy jumpers and fuzzy armpits - it has to be done though, im in danger of turning into a mad country bumpkin hippie with too many animals and hay in my hair  - maybe when im 99, but not yet.

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