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Amaros -> RE: I need to cut on online conversations (2/15/2009 2:59:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici
I really walked away this morning to ponder this post before I responded and 4 hours later, it still irritates Me:
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The issue is that I actually look too "awesome" online for my own good. yeah it sounds arrogant..
Yep, that's probably one of the most arrogant things I've heard lately---better be sure you have two bathrooms so you don't have to share the mirror. I'm glad I wasn't the only one that saw that. My thought was...."Could you move to left? Your ego is blocking the sun."
Maybe he could tell the rest of us why we're submissive, since he's so damned good at it.
I can see his point, it's easier to remain detached online, to feed somebody what they want to hear - it's harder when they meet you and you finally fix them with your steely gaze, especially if your fly is open.
I mean please, women with unrealistic expectations? Unheard of. There is a difference between a "cool" medium, like chat, that requires you fill in the gaps with your imagination, and a "Hotter" medium like cyber, and real life is the hottest medium of all - if you go into it with very specific fantasies, following a script that only you are privy to, disappointment is practically guaranteed, you have to leave the cozy, cotton comfort of fantasy, and deal with physical reality - some people love that, others freak out - too stark for some, not stark enough for others, maybe.
Personally, it's phenomena that this generation is in the position of having to pioneer, there really are no precedents to this level of connectivity. The way I grew up, and most of us oldies, is that when you were stuck somewhere around people, there were only two choices: talk to them or ignore them, the only guy in the world with a video phone was Dick Tracy, and you rarely interacted with anybody on such an abstract level - pen pals, maybe your Grandmother.
Nowadays, you can just flip open the old cell and call your friends - I have literally seen entire tables of people at bars, out together, but all engaged in private conversations on their cell phones - it strikes me as very odd, I have to say, sort of like being together just so you can avoid each other - like if the person you're out with isn't interesting enough, you just call somebody more interesting - why the fuck did you go out at all? There is just no way something like this cannot end up having an effect on peoples interpersonal social skills and social expectations.
In real, analog life, that some level of give and take communication is necessary, is the the only thing you should take for granted; and that usually means that there are times when you're gonna have to drop the script and improvise. The whole charm of it is that it isn't all seamless and predictable - real experience isn't like TV, it isn't canned or perfect, it's live and sometimes it get's messy and complicated, that's what makes it interesting - deal with it.
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