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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

She is going to school right now, usually people do that to provide a better life for themselves and ones that they love.

I would think that if you truly care for her that you would stop being so self absorbed about your needs to be touched and try to remember the sacrifice that she is making for the future.  She has stated that she is aware of your cravings, but what do you really expect her to do?  Quit her job. drop out of school?  Do you think that she's having the time of her life?

Were I in her shoes I'd worry about how deep your committment to her is.  If you can't be sated for just the temporary time that it takes for her to expand her education, what would you do if she was unable to provide for your physical desires permanently, due to sickness or accident?

And, in my opinion, listing all the things that you do for her sounds like you expect be a part of an immediate gratifigation conditional relationship.  Did you tell her that you'd only love her during the pleasent times?

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

She is going to school right now, usually people do that to provide a better life for themselves and ones that they love.

I would think that if you truly care for her that you would stop being so self absorbed about your needs to be touched and try to remember the sacrifice that she is making for the future.  She has stated that she is aware of your cravings, but what do you really expect her to do?  Quit her job. drop out of school?  Do you think that she's having the time of her life?

Were I in her shoes I'd worry about how deep your commitment to her is.  If you can't be sated for just the temporary time that it takes for her to expand her education, what would you do if she was unable to provide for your physical desires permanently, due to sickness or accident?

And, in my opinion, listing all the things that you do for her sounds like you expect be a part of an immediate gratifigation conditional relationship.  Did you tell her that you'd only love her during the pleasent times?

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ORIGINAL: Mastersdawn

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

She is going to school right now, usually people do that to provide a better life for themselves and ones that they love.

I would think that if you truly care for her that you would stop being so self absorbed about your needs to be touched and try to remember the sacrifice that she is making for the future.  She has stated that she is aware of your cravings, but what do you really expect her to do?  Quit her job. drop out of school?  Do you think that she's having the time of her life?

Were I in her shoes I'd worry about how deep your commitment to her is.  If you can't be sated for just the temporary time that it takes for her to expand her education, what would you do if she was unable to provide for your physical desires permanently, due to sickness or accident?

And, in my opinion, listing all the things that you do for her sounds like you expect be a part of an immediate gratifigation conditional relationship.  Did you tell her that you'd only love her during the pleasent times?

Where to begin...first off we were in a relationship before beginning a Ds relationship.  So this has nothing to do with me not being committed because times are tight.  I love her no matter what.  It isn't that I can't be "sated for just the temporary time"... my requests for physical attention for about 4-5 months now have just been acknowledged and then forgotten....I am referring to our relationship in general...not just the Ds aspect.  I am not looking for "immediate gratification" but to be honest, the last time I had sex was in 2008, and I don't mean November or December.  I don't care what kind of relationship you are in...unless that is an aspect of your relationship/involvement with someone, physical contact/sex is typically the norm....at least it is for ME and always has been in my almost 20 years of relationships.  Again, I am talking about ME....not someone that is in a ldr and never has contact with that person, not speaking in general terms, not talking about all subs...ME.  I simply came here to vent a frustration....to seek advice....not to be slammed becasue I apparently have human needs of having affection shown to me.

I am in school as well right now... I also stay home and take care of our ranch and close to 30 some animals.  So it isn't like I sit on my butt and munch on chocolates all day.  I help her with her homework, I do my homework, I train our horses, I keep the house clean, I handle all the bills, I cook all of our meals, I watch the neighbor's kids, I make sure the house is stocked with groceries for us and all the animals....so I understand the being tired at the end of the day.  We both want to better ourselves so we can get a bigger place.  You know what....I'm not going to continue to defend myself....

Thank you to the people that have emailed me privately.  Those emails have meant a lot to me (you know who you are).  I have read them several times and wish I was closer so we could go out for a coffee.  You were truly the type of person I would hope would respond.  I will take your emails to heart this evening when I go to bed and when She comes home.

good night
   

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

She is going to school right now, usually people do that to provide a better life for themselves and ones that they love.

I would think that if you truly care for her that you would stop being so self absorbed about your needs to be touched and try to remember the sacrifice that she is making for the future.  She has stated that she is aware of your cravings, but what do you really expect her to do?  Quit her job. drop out of school?  Do you think that she's having the time of her life?

Were I in her shoes I'd worry about how deep your committment to her is.  If you can't be sated for just the temporary time that it takes for her to expand her education, what would you do if she was unable to provide for your physical desires permanently, due to sickness or accident?

And, in my opinion, listing all the things that you do for her sounds like you expect be a part of an immediate gratifigation conditional relationship.  Did you tell her that you'd only love her during the pleasent times?