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came4U -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:18:24 PM)
quote: So, any comments on how to avoid people like this, and moreover, her friends writing me are now telling me that she is writing some nasty things about me to others I have not met. If by age 37 you haven't learned how to handle or avoid crazy people....you are in for a lifetime (or at least 10 more years of crazy people trampling at your doorstep. Learn how to turn your 'welcome crazy people' doormat upside down aka quit tolerating it and ending up askin public opinion on something that should come naturally. quote: I am getting mails from others about it now. Likely the 'others' are her too?? If not, even crazy people enjoy the friendship of other loons. Same advice for them nuts, delete and block. When you stop playing their game, they lose interest and run along to terrorize another. Do a search on forums to see just how many start similar threads. Start your own 'poor me' group.

QuixoticErrant -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:21:27 PM)
I truly hope that she is not following me around the internet. Believe me, I am happy that I was smart enough to not give her any personal details.

TheHeretic -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:21:39 PM)
You are all saying "crazy" like it is a bad thing. Psycho-bitches tend to be pretty awesome, in the sack, or on the rack... At least a time or two. Have fun. Wear a rubber, and never tell her you real last name.

MyWorldCT -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:23:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheHeretic You are all saying "crazy" like it is a bad thing. Psycho-bitches tend to be pretty awesome, in the sack, or on the rack... At least a time or two. True dat. (had to say it again... sorry)

DesFIP -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:26:17 PM)
So the op was so desperate to get laid he kept giving more and more chances to someone he knew he didn't like. Next time don't be desperate, it attracts bottom feeders.

laura2161 -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:34:55 PM)
Maybe it's the 'almost' full moon or some such nonense; You're getting quite a few nasty replies. That being said, chaulk it up to a lesson learned; remember that block and ignore are your friends, Always remember to never 'feed' an internet stalker (IE: letting them know they got under your skin) and have a good time :-) laura

QuixoticErrant -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:38:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP So the op was so desperate to get laid he kept giving more and more chances to someone he knew he didn't like. Next time don't be desperate, it attracts bottom feeders. There is no call to assume that. You do not understand the volume of mail on my part (few) compared to the volume on hers (many). I've had this account less than two weeks and I blocked her in a few days. I am not so desperate. What I would be interested in knowing though is, since I am new to the idea of tracking them down through this site - or any site, what others have done when they have unfortunately corresponded with "bottom feeders" as you put it, who seem to still be bothering them after they have been blocked.

QuixoticErrant -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 5:50:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laura2161 Maybe it's the 'almost' full moon or some such nonense; You're getting quite a few nasty replies. That being said, chaulk it up to a lesson learned; remember that block and ignore are your friends, Always remember to never 'feed' an internet stalker (IE: letting them know they got under your skin) and have a good time :-) laura Well said and thanks.

oceanwynds -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 6:17:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: QuixoticErrant You are quite right. I know, I really get that I should have just blocked her from the first sense that things were not quite right. I made a newbie mistake there. The partners I have met before have been in a more face to face way in the past. Normally, I have many more queues to go from before talking with them. It is normally my nature to at least give people a chance before rendering judgment. Don't fret to much about all this. You made a mistake, and wont be your last one. Life is for learning and if we don't make mistakes how do we learn. Now you will discern better and in the end that is a good thing to learn:)

oceanwynds -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 6:21:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: QuixoticErrant I truly hope that she is not following me around the internet. Believe me, I am happy that I was smart enough to not give her any personal details. Paranoia can make you crazy. What I dont get is why you devoting so much energy about all this. You screwed up. It is done. Best you move forward, and get rid of this paranoia.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 6:26:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: QuixoticErrant I truly hope that she is not following me around the internet. Believe me, I am happy that I was smart enough to not give her any personal details. Your name here is the one you were using when you were communicating with her...right? So why wouldn't she read this thread? Honestly, I'd like to hear her side.

Jeptha -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:26:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laura2161 Maybe it's the 'almost' full moon or some such nonense; You're getting quite a few nasty replies. Yeah, I don't get that. Maybe I'm crazy too, but the OP doesn't sound that unusual to me. In the past it's been my experience that because I've gotten so few leads, I'm reluctant to rule any out without fairly conclusive evidence. A lot of things get stalled because of people's varying notions of internet communication protocol, a lot of which are more often assumed than discussed. For instance, what further info did the OP need? That could be weird, depending on the details. I can understand wanting to meet in a public place before getting into personal information. Sometimes you can't really know if you find someone trustworthy until their sitting across the table from you. People are paranoid about giving any to all kinds of info over the net, or meeting someone off the net, etc. Sometimes our criteria to feel assured about something just doesn't match up - it doesn't necessarily mean one or both people are crazy.

QuixoticErrant -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:42:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeptha quote: ORIGINAL: laura2161 Maybe it's the 'almost' full moon or some such nonense; You're getting quite a few nasty replies. Yeah, I don't get that. Maybe I'm crazy too, but the OP doesn't sound that unusual to me. In the past it's been my experience that because I've gotten so few leads, I'm reluctant to rule any out without fairly conclusive evidence. A lot of things get stalled because of people's varying notions of internet communication protocol, a lot of which are more often assumed than discussed. For instance, what further info did the OP need? That could be weird, depending on the details. I can understand wanting to meet in a public place before getting into personal information. Sometimes you can't really know if you find someone trustworthy until their sitting across the table from you. People are paranoid about giving any to all kinds of info over the net, or meeting someone off the net, etc. Sometimes our criteria to feel assured about something just doesn't match up - it doesn't necessarily mean one or both people are crazy. I asked for such ridiculous things as what she was interested in outside of BDSM and to see her photo before meeting her. After the apologetic mail, she told me that she would not IM or reveal herself with an IM. But, she demanded we meet. She refused to send a photo. I suggested that I would see her face if I met her and that I was getting rather annoyed at clearly being played with. She demanded we meet again. She finally tripped my red flags enough that I blocked her. Those that have written that I should not waste any more energy on this are correct. I would like very much to redirect the discussion a little more towards the: OK I really am new to the idea of looking online for partners. I have had many partners that I met through more face to face means, but, I am rather new to the whole doing this online thing, and I am mostly here out of curiosity. Clearly, there is a matter of trial and error, and just as clearly, I should have not played along with this person in even the slightest and just obeyed my gut. The question I would like to repose is, how many truly unpleasant people have you encountered on here? I can say in my short time here, that I have met some very kindred spirits that I like quite a lot. That said, what are other's experiences with the "bottom feeders" as it was so well phrased in someone else's reply.

Lynnxz -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:44:41 PM)
Heh... welcome to the internet?

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:48:07 PM)
How many unpleasent people? Hundreds! Thousands! Too many to give a rats ass about. Out of the dust came one, and that's all that matters. If you're curious about peoples bad luck on the internet, there's a nifty little search feature here on the forum, AND you can google it too!

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:49:11 PM)
You mentioned that her friends are e-mailing you. I wonder why none of them are commenting here?

Tinkerer -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:50:01 PM)
I'v been fairly lucky and not met many at all. Maybe one or two at tops. Then again, I'm a guy, so I have to do a lot more legwork and choose who I message, people tend to not message me. I also am fairly picky about who I even bother contacting. They have to have a detailed profile, similar interests, and sound half-way intelligent. Watch your 6, Tinkerer

oceanwynds -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 7:59:40 PM)
quote: The question I would like to repose is, how many truly unpleasant people have you encountered on here? I can say in my short time here, that I have met some very kindred spirits that I like quite a lot. That said, what are other's experiences with the "bottom feeders" as it was so well phrased in someone else's reply. Hi Quixotic First let me state that I am not searching for a Dom, so without that worry I see things in a different light. Let's say you go to dungeon or a munch and introduce yourself. Shortly after you start complaining about unpleasant people there. Tell me who are you going to attract to you, by doing that? It makes no sense to me to come to the internet, hit a message board with complaints about the people that use this program, or any other program. You are not the only one that does this. Each time I see someone doing this, I think are they seriously wanting to find someone? All they do is complain. I know for me a complainer would not have a minute of my time getting to know me. Yes it is hard to find the right combination, but why starty with a hinderance as your lead in. oceanwynds

bamagirl4u -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 8:06:10 PM)
Move and know you learned a good lesson...hope it improves for you. I have met someone from here and he is really nice! But only after talking a longgggggggg time...best of luck to you..[;)]

QuixoticErrant -> RE: Question about Crazy People (2/7/2009 8:11:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: oceanwynds quote: The question I would like to repose is, how many truly unpleasant people have you encountered on here? I can say in my short time here, that I have met some very kindred spirits that I like quite a lot. That said, what are other's experiences with the "bottom feeders" as it was so well phrased in someone else's reply. Hi Quixotic First let me state that I am not searching for a Dom, so without that worry I see things in a different light. Let's say you go to dungeon or a munch and introduce yourself. Shortly after you start complaining about unpleasant people there. Tell me who are you going to attract to you, by doing that? It makes no sense to me to come to the internet, hit a message board with complaints about the people that use this program, or any other program. You are not the only one that does this. Each time I see someone doing this, I think are they seriously wanting to find someone? All they do is complain. I know for me a complainer would not have a minute of my time getting to know me. Yes it is hard to find the right combination, but why starty with a hinderance as your lead in. oceanwynds Your points are well taken. No, when I meet people, I generally do not go about being negative. I suppose I had a lot of motivations for making the OP. Part of it was to gauge the tenor of the crowd. As I read the responses, you have not been rude, some people have been genuinely friendly, others have been quite obnoxious. Call it an experiment to see what the place is like.

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