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leashme999 -> how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 7:16:57 PM)
im just wondering if there is a better way to meet a dominant woman than just scanning profiles and sending introduction messages. any ideas? am i doing it wrong? any help would be appreciated. im a little new around here and to this stuff. thanks

GreedyTop -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 7:25:13 PM)
Check for munches in your local area, and scene related events.

slvemike4u -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 7:26:02 PM)
I hang around outside of their union meetings,if all goes well inside.....who knows i just might have a shot....

bluepanda -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 8:21:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Check for munches in your local area, and scene related events. Yup. And network, don't just use the events as venues for meeting dommes one on one. Because the one you're looking for may not be there that night. Just like when you're networking for a job, let people you meet know that you're looking and give them an idea of what you're looking for. They may know someone. Or they may run into someone next week who's also looking and who fits what you're looking for. Don't be pushy or obnoxious about it, but anyone you meet at the munch and get along with, just mention you're looking for a partner and ask them if they know of some good upcoming events where you might meet some interesting people. As long as you come across as a decent, sincere sort of guy, and not some would-be romeo cruiser, other people who are decent and sincere are usually going to be only too happy to help out.

leashme999 -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 8:28:45 PM)
thank you. that helps

Coupleofwhats -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 9:15:03 PM)
Parties might be a good place to start!

yourMissTress -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/14/2009 9:34:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leashme999 im just wondering if there is a better way to meet a dominant woman than just scanning profiles and sending introduction messages. any ideas? am i doing it wrong? any help would be appreciated. im a little new around here and to this stuff. thanks 1. Step away from the computer and get out where the kinky folks are. 2. Don't look for a Domme/Domina/Mistress look for a woman. 3. Get involved in the local community. Not just attending events, but becoming a part of them. Volunteer your time on a committee or just to help set up and tear down. 4. Be honest and straightforward about what you want, what you need, and who you are. 5. Don't be a walking kink seeking missile. Be a person. Dominant women are usually viewed as life support systems for strap ons, whips, shoes, feet, name your kink, it's a huge turn off. that's all I can think of for now, I may be back with more.

DelilahDeb -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 1:09:18 AM)
Be prepared to negotiate simple play sessions, one-time experiments, when you do connect with someone of interest. Sometimes a mutual interest doesn't prove a good match-up when the two of you scene, and sometimes that overweight grey-more-than-blonde mid-life mama in the flat-heeled boots can take you places in subspace you never imagined were out there. Munches and volunteering at kinky socials is a good way to make yourself noticed in a positive light…if, of course, you "play well with others". Believe me, offering to help instead of gluing to a wall and watching wide-eyed will earn you significant brownie points that you may not even know you have for some months. Lady Delilah Deb

MsFlutter -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 3:02:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress quote: ORIGINAL: leashme999 im just wondering if there is a better way to meet a dominant woman than just scanning profiles and sending introduction messages. any ideas? am i doing it wrong? any help would be appreciated. im a little new around here and to this stuff. thanks 5. Don't be a walking kink seeking missile. Be a person. Dominant women are usually viewed as life support systems for strap ons, whips, shoes, feet, name your kink, it's a huge turn off. LOL - that is classic !! (and now I have to clean coffee off my screen !). Very well said !

beeble -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 5:01:25 AM)
quote: yourMissTress wrote: Dominant women are usually viewed as life support systems for strap ons, whips, shoes, feet, name your kink, it's a huge turn off. You've got it all wrong. The shoes are the support system for the feet, the feet are the support system for the Domme, the Domme is the support system for the strap-on and the strap-on is a handy support to hang whips from. beeble.

chezzy71 -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 5:22:41 AM)
i met Mistress here on CM however as some of you know by now,it took a long time before she asked me if i would be hers.i am retired and can no longer work even if i want to.Mistress has a job which at times can take up a good 12 to 16 hours a day.She also has a daughter and pets so there are many real life issues there.In other words although there is no doubt who is in charge,she is a Mother and a woman first.I care very deeply about that part of her life and if i didn't..well i would be searching in vain because i wouldn't be acceptable to anyone.

Venatrix -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 6:59:27 AM)
I'm going to add a different perspective. Even though I do attend classes from time to time, I no longer go to any social events in the community. As soon as submissive men find out you're dominant, they're all over you and you can't get rid of them even if you've told them very politely but firmly that you're not interested. They just keep telling you why you've got it wrong and why they would be just the absolutely bestest, most perfectest, fantastickest sub for you. Frankly, it ruins the evening. So, becoming known in your community is a good thing, because at least others can pass along that you're looking for someone, but bear in mind that a lot of dominant women don't attend social activities for the reason I outlined above. I wouldn't give up on online venues just yet. I'm not particularly looking at the moment, but it is the only place that I'm browsing.

thetammyjo -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 7:03:48 AM)
Normally I'd go through my entire list of suggestions again, but today, I just don't feel like considering this same question was asked like last week I think...

Dnomyar -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 7:08:39 AM)
Like Venatrix stated try browsing here first. There are many avaliable beautiful(they are all beautiful)Dommes here in the forums. Be nice. Be a gentleman. Some them respect. Be yourself. Do not try to make yourself fit someone. Good luck.

YoursMistress -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 7:18:35 AM)
...decides not to go to any events in an attempt to win Miss Venatrix's favour... yours

Madame4a -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 7:26:20 AM)
ok.. dose of Lisa's tough love coming... First.. there are tons of threads on how to meet a woman around here, how to write a good intro letter, and lots of discussions about what we like. There are also several threads on how to write a good profile, and I believe you need to change yours, including your picture. You'll find that many of the women here are interested in whole people, not just a collection of fetishes or activities. Your profile doesn't say a thing about you as a person. Change that picture... put something up that shows you doing something you like, rather than your underwear... no body parts either. and finally, take all the advice given here and for my money, use this as a tiny part of looking -- you said you are looking for someone local; in that case, turn off the square headed girl friend and go outside your house... you live in an area with offline resources.

gumshoe -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 8:02:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Check for munches in your local area, and scene related events. What go out and actually meet people R/L!!! [sm=wtf.gif]

Venatrix -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 11:30:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YoursMistress ...decides not to go to any events in an attempt to win Miss Venatrix's favour... yours There's a smartarse in every bloody thread, isn't there? [:D]

slavekal -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 1:14:25 PM)
I am not going to "shill" as one moderator accused me of doing, but there are a LOT of ways. You should use every possible method. I have met Mistresses on sites like CM, at school, at work, at parties, in personal ads in print, and on telephone personals. There are a lot of DOs and DON'Ts.

ALAstella -> RE: how to meet a Domme? (1/15/2009 3:57:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats Parties might be a good place to start! For example the Republican Party, for example somewhere like Alaska.

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