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I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 6:44:31 PM

abrown28

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 6:46:22 PM

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I had my first experience as a Dom just the other night. It's actually my first experience with anything relating to D/s. Now, unfortunately, I think I'm hooked. I can't stop thinking about it.

I was already in a narrow enough market for women and this just narrows it even further.

And so, why does that make you screwed?

Seriously?

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 6:52:38 PM

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Why does it narrow your search for some one as your newly discovered enjoyment does not have to control your life or be part of it all the time unless you are meaning that you are looking for a wife and even then it is something that should be talked about anyway to see what her feelings are on the life style.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 7:03:18 PM

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I was already in a narrow enough market for women and this just narrows it even further.

I was curious about that comment, so I had to rush over the other side and read your profile.
Of course this begs the question....did she use her safeword?

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 7:13:56 PM

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*nodsnods vigorously* Inquiring minds wanna know...did she? and was it the first date?

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Of course this begs the question....did she use her safeword?

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 7:17:53 PM

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I've been trying to start relationships with women that more or less match me in philosophy/politics. I get tired of rehashing the same arguments over and over again. Being an atheist/conservative makes that difficult.

On second thought maybe I'm not as screwed as I thought. If I continue to enjoy doing what I did the other night then why should I care what their views are on God. I should only care that we're both getting what we need out of our time together.

After about 15 minutes of being timid and her encourging me it was like something in me just gave way and I came uncoiled. She never used her safe word as much as I wanted to hear it. I tried everything I could think of but no luck. She did say I was the most sadistic man she had been with in serveral years. I enjoyed hurting her way too much and it's a little worrying.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 7:20:26 PM

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It was the first and only date. She was killing time before moving to another town to live full time with a Husband and Wife.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 7:28:18 PM

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and your issue is? this is no different than finding a woman who listens to Gershwin--only she has to listen to it while she is bound and gagged---

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 7:54:22 PM

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dayummm....she let You beat her on the first date???

*leafs thru my Subbie Handbook*

*thinks she misread the directions on page 12*

"Never, EVER place yourself in a position to have to use a safeword on the first date or outing"

scarpers off, singing "I touch Myself"

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 8:23:45 PM

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I must say, you have a TALENT.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 8:30:41 PM

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I imagine the flash, come-and-go, unexpectedness of it all will haunt you for quite sometime. For some reason I'm now thinking of Richard Dreyfuss who was never the same after just a brief glimpse of Suzanne Summers in that T-Bird. (American Grafitti)

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 8:33:36 PM

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*nods sadly* He was never quite the same after his Encounter of the Fourth Kind, either

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*still thinks of it, when i mash potatoes*

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 8:39:23 PM

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I had my first experience as a Dom just the other night. It's actually my first experience with anything relating to D/s. Now, unfortunately, I think I'm hooked. I can't stop thinking about it.

I was already in a narrow enough market for women and this just narrows it even further.

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Hmmm, you've had your first experience and now you are already interested in:

Begging
Cages
Collars
Corsets
Face Slapping
Hair Pulling
Mental Bondage
Shibari
Spanking
Ass Play
Blindfolds
Bondage
Obedience Training
Chastity

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Color me suspicious, or then again, maybe with a DOM, its all about one time ignition ------- and the line of interests just pops out like a full, ready made menu. I'm still leaning toward suspicious.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 8:47:38 PM

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I just clicked on what sounded like fun. I had to lookup Shibari.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 8:54:16 PM

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The Dreyfus tie ins are cracking me up ;)

The only thing I can think of is "I'm letting my inner shark out"

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 9:11:17 PM

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quote:

something in me just gave way and I came uncoiled. She never used her safe word as much as I wanted to hear it. I tried everything I could think of but no luck. She did say I was the most sadistic man she had been with in serveral years. I enjoyed hurting her way too much and it's a little worrying.

Beautifully worded, but you sure scared me.

Being a dom is all about being in control. Your next step is clamping down on that control of self.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 9:11:22 PM

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*singsong voice*

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 9:13:35 PM

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scarpers off, singing "I touch Myself"

(laughing) You're too much, miti.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 9:23:30 PM

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Being a dom is all about being in control. Your next step is clamping down on that control of self.

I agree.

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RE: I'm screwed - 1/5/2006 9:39:19 PM

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Welcome to D's.

Good luck in your search......... Oh, and welcome to the boards.

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