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Ok, time for a lil rant. (As if that'll come as any sort of huge surprise to anyone, coming from me, huh? LoL) But hey, gotta get things off my chest Somewhere in a non-violent manner. Especially since my couple of hours on the gun range this afternoon to blow off steam didn't completely do the trick. The real miracle, it Wasn't dad who Caused my frustration and aggravation this time.
When dad moved home with me, I knew I wouldn't be able to do Everything myself. I would need help, at least a few hours a week, so that I could get "time off" to do things for myself, run errands, etc. So for a couple of days, while I'm screening potential folks that I know and trust, I use an aide from one of the Agencies - works well, always on time, pay the agency once a month, they worry about paying aide and dealing with any employment tax issues, everybody's happy. Sounds great, right? And it was/is to a certain extent. Only I felt a bit strange about leaving a stranger in my house while I went and ran errands and did things for myself - and there was no way the agency could guarentee that it would always be the Same aide that got sent on a given day. I wanted someone that I knew, that I knew it would always be the same person, so that some trust would be there and I wouldn't feel skittish about leaving that person in my home without me being here but simply not the one answering when dad called for something. So I find an aquaintance with the certifications which my state now Requires (yes, legally requires) of any sort of adult babysitter type - one who is currently without job, and could therefore Really use the pay coming in.
I'm thinking it'll be an "I scratch your back, you scratch mine" situation where everyone gets what they need with minimum fuss and mutual cooperation. I get 20 hours a week to me, she gets $200 a week towards her bills, someone who the state is satisfied with is here with dad so they aren't screeching about neglect for me leaving him home alone while I run errands and get time off.
And then reality hits. She shows up late most days - if she shows up, rather than calling and saying that there are other things that she "needs" to do. I'm lucky if I get a full 10 hours a week of help, rather than the 20 that we agree to at the outset. She spends her time while over here on my computer and my phone, pretty much leaving dad to his own devices and telling him he should be able to do for himself everything that he asks for her help with, and not doing a couple of very Specific things that she was hired to do like help him get showered and such. Yes, I COULD do that myself - but it's My Father - I really do NOT feel at all comfortable with the idea of having to help him do something like that!!!That's part of the reason that I admitted to myself up front that I was going to Have to have Help.
She calls in "unable to work" on Monday - there are things she "has" to do for herself/her S.O. So instead, she works Tuesday of this week, while I go to my weekly shrink appointment. And of course bitches when I get home from that, because I was 20 minutes later getting back than I estimated, even though she's only been here and "on duty" for 4 hours total - and part of that 4 hours I was still home. (And of course, I wasn't supposed to say a Word about the fact that she got here almost an hour later than she'd agreed to be here on Tuesday.) Her hubby/S.O. gets there to pick her up - a half hour later, since she'd told him when he dropped her off that she'd call when he needed to come pick her up, not at a specifc time - and we agree that she's going to work Today, and be here At Noon. I make plans based on her being here At Noon. She calls at 11 am this morning, tells me that her S.O. (her only way to work) has been sick all morning, dosed himself with medicine, and proceeded to fall asleep - so it'll be at least 2 or Maybe 3 before she gets here. I proceed to alter my original plans based on the later time. Then she calls again at 2, when she said she'd be here, only to find out that - oh, if I want her to work at all today, I'm going to have to drive across town and pick her up, bring her back here, go take care of anything I've got planned, and then take her back home again once I'm done! Well, I Really needed to get outta the house and get a couple of things done, so I leave a Different friend of mine (who is involved in the now twice altered plans) here with dad - go pick her up - head back here with her to drop her off, pick up the friend waiting with dad, and go out for a bit. I get home 3 hours later, get dad's night meds given to him (because she's failed to do that while I was gone, even though they were due while I was gone - and again failed to help him take his shower, despite the fact that it's Obvious that he needs one, and part of the agreement is that she's to help him get one every time she's here.) Again the friend that my plans are with stays here at the house in case dad needs something, while I take her home. Only to have to listen to her snipe all the way back home about whether I'm going to be able to pay her "on time" and "in full" tomorrow - because she's made plans based on what she's "supposed" to make every week. When I pointed out to her that she'd put in less than half the time she'd agreed on - only 9 hours out of 20 - and that all of those hours she'd showed up Late - so I saw no reason for her to get paid the full amount, when she hadn't Worked the full amount - she threw a fit. First she attempts to foist a lot of it off on her flakey S.O. - it's not her car, she can't force him to get her here on time, I'm not being fair when I know she doesn't have a car of her own and has to rely on him for transportation, wah wah wah. Then she proceeds to call me a couple of rather ugly things, accusses me of "using" her, and screechs (figuratively) about how I'm "trying to cheat her" and "stressing her out."
So I paid her for what time she Did actually work this week and proceeded to fire her. I'm thinking I can pretty well consider our friendship ended as well - as I doubt that she's going to be particularly friendly after getting fired for not doing the job she was hired to do. Not that I'm feeling particularly friendly Towards her right now, either.
So I'm back to square one, and have to put in a call tomorrow to the Hospice company and perhaps a couple of the other agencies, to find out whether I can get one of them to guarentee that it'll always be the same aide and whether we can work out a schedule that I can deal with. I'm frustrated. I'm aggravated. I'm MORE than fed up with people thinking they should get paid whether they do what they were hired for or don't do it. I'm annoyed with "friends" who think that because I knew them prior to them becoming my employee (of whatever sort), that good work habits and being on time and doing what they're getting paid to do aren't actually Required of them - that because they're Friends, they're somehow Immune to getting Fired for Incompitance. And above all - dear gods above all - I want some semblance of Normalcy to return to my life!
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