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Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:20:44 PM

openmindedslave

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What does longterm relationship mean to you ? And so we all understand, if you are seeking a longterm realtionship , how long was your last realtionship that you though fit a longterm time frame?

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:27:22 PM

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I don't set a specific time frame to the definition. I am more the type that believes if the relationship impacted your life, it is significant.

This was a subject that was of some discussion during clip's recent visit. More than once, I found Myself reflecting on how long he's been with Me now, which is going toward the two year mark.

I am all for enjoying the moment with someone who can be with us for just a short time. There is a great thrill in someone who matches us for special moments. Yet, I've found Myself appreciating the long haul recently.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:27:50 PM

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isn't long term pretty much the antithesis of one night stands?

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:45:13 PM

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Something ongoing, continuous.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:48:03 PM

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Long term means it's been about 3 or 4 years and we're still dating, but not just cause we fear being alone or it's convenient but because we still very much like each other and love each other, and are still very much happy with each other.

My last long term was almost 4 years, but I don't count the last year, since in my definition of long term, I was not happy with him, and I was indeed only hanging around because I didn't know what I'd do with out him.

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What does longterm relationship mean to you ? And so we all understand, if you are seeking a longterm realtionship , how long was your last realtionship that you though fit a longterm time frame?

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:54:59 PM

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I have dawn for 15 years and sandi for 11 years and we've only just begun like it was yesterday.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 8:55:33 PM

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Long term, short term...I believe people come into our lives for a period of time, and to try to set definitions in advance doesn't make any sense to me. It makes sense to be together for as long as those in the relationship are fulfilled together.

My last relationship lasted just over 4 years. Sure, I consider that "long term", although defining that doesn't have much importance to me. My marriage before my last relationship was just short of 20 years.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 9:03:58 PM

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For me, longterm relationship means with a view to forever. Granted there are no guarantees that any two people will be together for the rest of their lives, but if both go into a relationship with that as the end goal, it should be easier to achieve it.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 9:26:07 PM

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I agree with LadyPact, MsWolfPrincess and manxcat when it comes to a long term relationship.
It is important to me and it is what I seek.
The real question is: does the dominant seek the same from me. I certainly would like to believe so.
As some dominants say, they are not into time wasters and I am most certainly into wasting their time either.
Long term only as I am too old for games and I believe some dominants feel the same way.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 9:36:43 PM

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As other posters have said, I view long term as an ongoing relationship with no end-date in sight. In addition, in my own particular case I'm looking for an exclusive relationship which gives us both the chance to explore our feelings for each other....perhaps even using the 'L' word if it becomes appropriate

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 9:38:27 PM

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Well, long term relationships are important to me because getting married is important to me, that's what I'm ultimately aiming for. I almost always go into a dating scenario with the thought that I'm looking for long term. So the relationships I enter, I always am aiming for something lasting (obviously it hasn't happened yet but I've been close a couple of times I think).

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they important to you? - 1/5/2009 9:39:21 PM

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For me, longterm relationship means with a view to forever. Granted there are no guarantees that any two people will be together for the rest of their lives, but if both go into a relationship with that as the end goal, it should be easier to achieve it.

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Imo, this articulates important distinctions extremely well. Intent and commitment pop up as key words for me as I contemplate this.
Yes, long-term relationships are important to me. I do not prefer transitory relationships; I prefer to hold people close with the goal of being a positive impact on their lives and they on mine.
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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 11:18:56 PM

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exclusive relationship which gives us both the chance to explore our feelings for each other

That would be highly desirable if it were even possible, found it once, perhaps it might find it again, it would make the investiture of the whole of me being worth the effort
but up to this point I have only ever been contacted by those that want a machine as a slave
or a creature that has the only purpose to satisfy another individuals need for physical gratification and euphoric addictions

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/5/2009 11:30:16 PM

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Yes long term relationships are important to me, and they are what I aim for when getting to know someone.
I don't have a definition of what long term means except that, it is not a one night stand as someone said earlier, and the goal is forever, or until one or both of us is sick and tired of one another (wishing death would do us part).

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/6/2009 1:08:30 AM

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quote:

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What does longterm relationship mean to you ? And so we all understand, if you are seeking a longterm realtionship , how long was your last realtionship that you though fit a longterm time frame?

thank you for your involvement

I don't seek a "long term"relation. I seek just a relation with a s..and hope it lasts.
It is unpredictable to know upfront it will be for ever.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/6/2009 2:52:50 AM

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Long term relationships are important to me.....either a romantic relationship or a friendship. When someone gets close to me...in whatever way works between us, i plan on it being long term.

I was married for over 25 years..and we still speak, i get notes and cards from a Man i saw 9 years ago and i'm still friends with other men i've seen in the past.......the dynamic might change, but the respect and friendship are still there.....

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What does longterm relationship mean to you ? And so we all understand, if you are seeking a longterm realtionship , how long was your last realtionship that you though fit a longterm time frame?

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/6/2009 3:01:46 AM

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longterm is hugely important to me. it hasn't always been and i valued those fleeting 'bursts' that were my previous relationships - they're all precious in their own ways, but 11 years ago i found where i want to be and i can only hope the only changes will be ones we share.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/6/2009 3:04:42 AM

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yes, they are important to me. I detest one night stands. My ultimate goal is to be able to share our lives together, to add to each other, & to be there for one another. The length of time depends. I am not a martyr. If something isn't working, there is no point in wasting life being miserable, and trying to stick something out. That is like beating heads against a wall. But long term for me, is measured more in quality & years, than in just months. It is measured more in how intertwined our lives become.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/6/2009 3:37:58 AM

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If I can't have long term I would rather not have anything at all. I date with the hopes that it will last for many years to come.

My longest relationship has been 8 years with us having been married for 5 of those years.

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RE: Long term Relationships -are they importain to you? - 1/6/2009 5:02:16 AM

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Long before this lifestyle became a part of me or visa versa, I was engaged. I was in my 20's and it was without a doubt the happiest time of my life. I left work early one day, a Saturday, and intended to spend it with David. Fate had other plans and he was killed while riding his motorcycle. Long term has no meaning for me since then, because I know first hand that whatever your intentions are--short or long--they can change in an instant. As far as a Dom, I had a two year relationship, I fell hard for him, but he turned out to be a liar and we parted ways. It is hard for me to committ and I don't know if that will ever change even if I hope for a lasting relationship.

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