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NuevaVida -> RE: Punishments? (12/26/2008 11:42:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cpK69 quote: ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss Daddy and I don't do punishments, We both believe if the problem can't be worked out after talking like two rational adults, then we have bigger problems. I don’t need to be punished in order to work out our problems either, nor would I expect it to be the solution to an offense, which is good, cuz that’s not what it’s for. Kim I agree with cpK69 here. I've been punished in the past and it wasn't used as a solution to the problem. It was a consequence for breaching my agreement and commitment to obey and be respectful. Words like what YHMA wrote above (and we've seen these words time and again from many) always strike me as blatant put downs for those who do not live as they do. "I'm an adult and don't need to be punished" translates to "If you need to be punished you're not an adult." Nice. Very nice. Punishment was part of the dynamic with my former owner. It is not part of the dynamic with the man I am seeing now. Neither dynamics has anything to do with anything other than adult behavior. To imply otherwise is to be, if I may blatantly say, really ignorant.

Focus50 -> RE: Punishments? (12/26/2008 1:20:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer I have what is probably a very silly question, what have you done to be punished? I am curious, as I have never needed punishments yet but am rather new to the M/s dynamic... Anything she does that actually makes me angry is subject to punishment. Since that's not an easy thing to achieve, it works out quite well that I loathe the need to punish.... A bit of corrective discipline is a different matter. Overstepping or forgetting her place or manners etc will certainly get my attention without angering me. Most things are fixed with the dreaded "stare" (esp if we're out in public) or a menacing "excuse me!?!", or both - except I'm in the mood to make her squeal or squirm a bit for me.... Focus.

agirl -> RE: Punishments? (12/26/2008 2:07:58 PM)
It's almost impossible to disappoint or anger M. Just as I know what to expect from him, he knows what to expect from me. I am myself.....with his full encouragement; he can handle the fall-out and I thrive with the freedom. A look, a finger to the lips, a knowing shhh aren't punishments, they are the little tugs on the string while I'm busy flying free. agirl

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Punishments? (12/26/2008 2:51:04 PM)
In three years, I've been punished once. A very unpleasant experience. It was for an act of willful disobedience, doing the exact opposite of what I'd been told. I won't go into specifics. Needless to say, it will never happen again.

T1981 -> RE: Punishments? (12/26/2008 3:00:44 PM)
I have only been "punished" once, and that was for letting a vibrator slip out of me when it was supposed to stay in. 25 clit lashes with a riding crop later, I decided to NEVER EVER EVER let that happen again.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Punishments? (12/26/2008 9:17:03 PM)
No, I'm not putting down any one else who wants or needs a punish dunamic, but to me and our relationship if things broke down so far as needing punishments it'd mean I didn't care to behave, or I didn't care to listen to Daddy the first time I did something wrong and he talked to me about it. And I still maintain we have bigger problems, if I am to the point or getting to the point of not careing what he says and him talking to me doesn't fix the issue.. quote: ORIGINAL: NuevaVida Words like what YHMA wrote above (and we've seen these words time and again from many) always strike me as blatant put downs for those who do not live as they do. "I'm an adult and don't need to be punished" translates to "If you need to be punished you're not an adult." Nice. Very nice. Punishment was part of the dynamic with my former owner. It is not part of the dynamic with the man I am seeing now. Neither dynamics has anything to do with anything other than adult behavior. To imply otherwise is to be, if I may blatantly say, really ignorant.

satansmurf69 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 12:29:54 AM)
CHANGING MASTERS profile got me in trouble

satansmurf69 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 12:31:36 AM)
25 clit lashes.......Yes that would help with the muscle control

MistressRouge -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 12:52:42 AM)
It is quite wise for a Dom/me to punish their sub/slave at least once, to ensure they know where their boundaries lie. A punishment is not a mamby pamby playtime, it should be a serious emotional & physical boundary. Some of my subs also test my Dominance by being late etc, however I am adept at that, and simply do not punish them physically, but in other ways mentally [:D]

T1981 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 7:27:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: satansmurf69 25 clit lashes.......Yes that would help with the muscle control lol - it did makes things a little difficult afterwards, thankfully they gave me a break before it was reinserted. To make things easier on myself, I'm working on doing kegel excersises. I'm not one to needlessly search for uber painful punishments, so I'm definately working on making that one better! To be perfectly honest, while it hurt like hell and brought me to the sobbing point, it was interesting because it was the second time my pain limit had ever been brought to threshold. Made for interesting discussion the next day!

sblady -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 8:15:41 AM)
I'm such a good girl that I never require punishment. [:D] [sm=stickineye.gif] Oh wait, now I remember. The only time I was punished was for being very passive aggressive and having a sarcastic tone. My Dominant (friend) is very laid back and I honestly wasn't trying to take advantage, but I supposed I'd "relaxed" a bit too much. I tried to back peddle when I realized my grievous error, but nope...it didn't work. It was a lesson well learned.

naughtyprincess3 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 12:35:23 PM)
I am curious, if you don't mind sharing, what some of the punishments were for different offenses. I myself am a girl who needs punishment. I need to know that if I get out of line my Daddy will have no problem getting me back in line. The problem that sometimes arises is selecting suitable punishments for the infraction.

mc1234 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 12:42:58 PM)
I'd rather think that's for your Dom to decide ....

Focus50 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 1:11:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtyprincess3 I am curious, if you don't mind sharing, what some of the punishments were for different offenses. I myself am a girl who needs punishment. I need to know that if I get out of line my Daddy will have no problem getting me back in line. The problem that sometimes arises is selecting suitable punishments for the infraction. Hi and welcome to the Boards.... :-) What you describe is not necessarily "punishment" per se' but the setting of boundaries of what's acceptable behaviour and what isn't - and the consequences of it. To elaborate on my earlier post, if she's made me angry to the point that I'll punish her, then I don't want her anywhere near me and she's banished to the nearest corner until after I've cooled back down and then we'll talk. But if she's just overstepped a little or been disrespectful etc, then I'll discipline her with whatever seems appropriate for that time and incursion. Often, just "the stare" suffices, esp in public. When we have privacy, it'll probably be something that stings or (a pet favourite) I might haul her up on her toes with a pinch of pubes and really get in her face about whatever she did or said. Did I mention I loathe shaved pussy? ;-) The difference between deciding whether to discipline and punish is entirely the internal response her actions cause me - and I reeeeeeeally don't like being angered! Focus.

cpK69 -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 1:36:41 PM)
Getting to our meeting place late (5ish min) = kneeled in front of mirror 5 min… front of shirt and hands behind head Bit his nipple too hard = spanking 10 strikes w/hairbrush Wore the ‘wrong’ type of clothing = preformed oral until ejaculation, which was unloaded onto my chest and then instructed to wear offensive shirt over cum until specified time Shared too many pics with someone = disassociated for the day Looking at what he was doing, instead of focusing on what he had me doing = face slapped (I wasn’t really looking at what he was doing L ) Not paying equal attention to two or more tasks at one time = I was told I would receive a purple ass if this were to keep happening. Kim

sblady -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 2:21:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 But if she's just overstepped a little or been disrespectful etc, then I'll discipline her with whatever seems appropriate for that time and incursion. Often, just "the stare" suffices, esp in public. When we have privacy, it'll probably be something that stings or (a pet favourite) I might haul her up on her toes with a pinch of pubes and really get in her face about whatever she did or said. Did I mention I loathe shaved pussy? ;-) Focus. I think the stare, pinch, and tone of voice must be #1 through #3 in the Dominant training manual. [;)] As I'm now fully aware of my boundaries, these are all warning signs I rely on to adjust my attitude. However, we were chatting online when I became very passive aggressive and tossed in a bit of sarcasm. I had to learn how to recognize online warning signs and no further "correction" has been required.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Punishments? (12/27/2008 2:27:38 PM)
Like I said we don't do punishments in this relationship, but my punishment for being rude and ill behaved and lying to one Dom, was being released from my then Dom. He had had enough and he was done with me and washed his hands of me. With the Daddy I have now I willfully broke one of his requirements of playing with others, because I cared more about what I wanted than the rules Daddy had in place, and I chose to take my profile down for a month and not meet any one at all for a month, Since I couldn't be trusted enough to do what Daddy said I didn't deserve the privilege. And I said I chose to, because he didn't believe my act needed punishment, since I had fessed up and had not chosen to keep shut, Plus his sheer hurt and disappointment was enough for me to never do that again. quote: ORIGINAL: naughtyprincess3 I am curious, if you don't mind sharing, what some of the punishments were for different offenses. I myself am a girl who needs punishment. I need to know that if I get out of line my Daddy will have no problem getting me back in line. The problem that sometimes arises is selecting suitable punishments for the infraction.

Decadentpleasure -> RE: Punishments? (12/29/2008 7:52:25 PM)
In 5 years i've only been punished twice. Once for being sassy resulting in 24 hours of silence and the second time for using a restricted word, which resulted in 48 hours of silence. The silence wasn't me not being allowed to speak, but not being allowed into Master's company for the length of the punishment. (this has to be the most absolute worst punishment ever!) There have been several times (like recently) that i've come close to another punishment as i've been given 12 blondie points per year. Prior to Master, due to my occasionally doing or saying goofy things without thinking (and yes i'm blonde) i would give myself 365 blondie points per year in an effort to train myself to watch what i say or do for self-improvement. Once i became Master's, He challenged me by reducing that amount to 12 blondie points per year. Normally i average around 4-5 max, but this year i actually got down to 1 remaining blondie point and boy was i in fear of the punishment..2 months of silence. Never fear though, because i've got a great Master that admits His own faults and has a great sense of humor, He gave me back several points for His own goofyness.

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