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questions about anal sex - 12/13/2008 6:37:44 PM   
michelle1227


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Status: offline 		I am very curious about anal sex. The invitation to try it has been purposed to me. I have a few questions.

What is the appeal?

Do butt plug help prepare people?

Can you wear a plug all day to prepare?

How can it be hygenic? Like do you have to cleanse your colon first?

I read somewhere and it said lube lube lube and when you think you have enough lube somemore, do you agree?

To the women: Is it worth it really?

Thanks so much
M
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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/13/2008 6:56:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are a few awesome threads already open on this subject, this one, in particular, is really definitive for the most part.  A lot was covered on it that wasn't really covered in others I found.  Give it a look-see. :)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2299938/mpage_1/tm.htm


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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/13/2008 11:55:30 PM   
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What is the appeal? 

Submitting ALL of yourself to the One who owns you.


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How can it be hygenic? Like do you have to cleanse your colon first?

It isn't, unless you prepare ahead of time. 
 
 
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I read somewhere and it said lube lube lube and when you think you have enough lube somemore, do you agree?


Most definitely!  There's no such thing as too much lube
 
 
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To the women: Is it worth it really?

YES!



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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 5:06:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		no it isnt worth it.

a but plug can help open up.

dont believe any of the porn films.

most mens cocks are too big for it.

an enema to be cleaned out is a good idea.

the trouble is while the receiver might want it in, once it is in, until one gets used to it- if feels good briefly, but then it doesnt.

an experienced partner tho will be able to open you up. 

dont be in a hurry for anal.   I am not saying it is never worth it...simply that much of the time, circumstances, it is over rated.   BTW- if you do get that far, have the dude pump sorta sideways circular.  The side walls stim feels great!!

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 6:07:34 AM   
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http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html

http://www.puckerup.com/




http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Women/dp/0940208202

http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Women/dp/1573442216/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_b

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:13:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I love anal!  Feels so decadent...so wrong...

And I get awesome orgasms from it too...

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:14:26 AM   
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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:19:29 AM   
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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:21:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are times I really want it and other times its just not empty, But definately do not go back and forth between vaginal and anal. Unless you are wearing a condom and then removing the dirty condom.

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:23:25 AM   
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slut...


pot.. kettle...

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:25:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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slut...


pot.. kettle...


virginal little me?  Noooooo......

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 8:39:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Buttplugs and such don't train the ass to be more open, that is bullshit.  They are training wheels to help your MIND learn to relax the sphincter muscles.  But they only work if they relax your mind which they clearly don't, so you need a different set of training wheels.  Also, think about that time you did feel pleasure, how much was "real" pleasure and how much was pain felt as pleasure?  That is another key although I think one that leads to a bit of a dead end.

Forget penetration for now.  Learn about how to enjoy the sensations caused by simply touching and caressing your sphincter from the outside.  When he is going down on you and you are near orgasm, have him simply start touching (with lube, which as someone said VERY important) and just play with it, let you feel pleasure without any physical penetration.  Then once you are relaxed and enjoying that, when you get close to orgasm slowly stop other sensation and increase the external play with your ass and with time, try and take you over the edge with just that, or keep you near the peak by alternating clitoral and anal stimulation.

As your mind begins to relax and the connection between anal play and pleasure strengthen, with a finger with a closely cropped fingernail, add the tiniest bit of penetration, again, the secret is giving you less than you want.  Make you beg for more.

That does all sorts of things to your head.  Gives you control over it, strengthens the whole anal=pleasure connection, and gets you in a headspace where you forget you need to relax cause you already have.

Its slow but trust me, it isn't a pain in the ass.

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 9:35:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		Can't say I agree with that.  It's a lot easier to enter an asshole that has been opened by a 45-minute buttplug session than an asshole that's tight and clenching.

And to the OP: What's the appeal?  Well, it's twofold.  First, there's physiology: some women report that the best way to have their G-spot stimulated is through anal sex.  OK, some people deny that there is such a thing as a G-spot, but hell, thousands of women all say the same thing about anal and their G-spot, so they're feeling SOMETHING.  Second, there's psychology: you're being entered in the tightest and most taboo hole available.  There's a reason why it's called "sodomy" (although, theologically speaking, oral sex is sodomy too).  Anal sex has been considered slutty ever since Greek prostitutes offered it to their clients in order to avoid pregnancy--in other words, long before the Church Fathers declared that it was sodomy (for the same reason).  Anal sex was the way of the whore.

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Buttplugs and such don't train the ass to be more open, that is bullshit.  They are training wheels to help your MIND learn to relax the sphincter muscles.  But they only work if they relax your mind which they clearly don't, so you need a different set of training wheels.  Also, think about that time you did feel pleasure, how much was "real" pleasure and how much was pain felt as pleasure?  That is another key although I think one that leads to a bit of a dead end.


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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 9:48:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: michelle1227

I am very curious about anal sex. The invitation to try it has been purposed to me. I have a few questions.

What is the appeal?

Do butt plug help prepare people?

Can you wear a plug all day to prepare?

How can it be hygenic? Like do you have to cleanse your colon first?

I read somewhere and it said lube lube lube and when you think you have enough lube somemore, do you agree?

To the women: Is it worth it really?

Thanks so much
M


Pretty much what Michael wrote is correct. The biggest thing is the person should be relaxed as much as possible and the sensations are highly pleasurable. Butt plugs are great for playing with prior to anal sex, they can help the sphincter muscles relax enough so a finger or other insertable can penetrate easier.
Anal sex can be messy and most people will give themself an enema or two to flush out the rectum and colon. Just make sure you allow yourself enough time for all the water to be expelled before being penetrated!

As most will state lots and lots and lots of lube is essential then use more...lol.
For men who enjoy being anally penetrated, the sensations are amazing as our prostate gland gets stimulated coupled with that feeling of being "full" produces a very intense orgasm that feels different from an orgasm from penile simulation.


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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 10:43:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: michelle1227


What is the appeal?


For me, it's a turn on physically, and on a psychological level it feels very submissive and like I am being "taken".  I also enjoy discomfort mixed with pleasure.

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Do butt plug help prepare people?


I've never used one before anal sex, so I don't know, but I would imagine it can help open things up.

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How can it be hygenic? Like do you have to cleanse your colon first?


My first anal sex was with my ex-husband with whom I had no inhibitions or embarassment, so I never did an enema beforehand, as it wasn't really a concern of mine or his, but no waste ever came out anyway.  With subsequent doms that I've been with, I've always done an enema before meeting with them just to be sure.

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I read somewhere and it said lube lube lube and when you think you have enough lube somemore, do you agree?


Yes.  I can't imagine being able to do it without the lube.

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To the women: Is it worth it really?


Yes, absolutely.

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 11:23:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

slut...


pot.. kettle...


virginal little me?  Noooooo......


I think I love you both.

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 12:30:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you wear a condom, I feel it's more hygenic, even if you don't prepare ahead of time.

Simply take the condom off and the lube and any bits of pooh or other ickies are instantly gone. Then if you want simply have her sponge bathe your cock and you're all clean, no fuss no muss no mess.
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How can it be hygenic? Like do you have to cleanse your colon first?

It isn't, unless you prepare ahead of time. 
 
 



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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 1:12:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michelle1227

I am very curious about anal sex. The invitation to try it has been purposed to me. I have a few questions.

What is the appeal?

It gives me mind blowing Os. Its naughty appeal.

Do butt plug help prepare people?

While having played with plugs, for me they are not required.

Can you wear a plug all day to prepare?

Sorry - I dont know

How can it be hygenic? Like do you have to cleanse your colon first?

Its only been "messy" once in all the times I have done it. I prepare in advance by having a "movement" and a good shower. If your partner is into anal he/she will be aware of the messiness factor and it obviously isnt worrying him/her

I read somewhere and it said lube lube lube and when you think you have enough lube somemore, do you agree?

Yes - definetly

To the women: Is it worth it really?

Oh my god,YES!!!!! I get a completly different O from anal - wont say its better than Vaginal but its equally as good for me, in a different sort of way (sorry if that is not clear)

Have Fun!
 
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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 1:14:03 PM   
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I think I love you both.

Uncle Nasty


Hey GT - I think he's trying to crawl into our panties!!!

Bad Uncle Nasty...

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RE: questions about anal sex - 12/14/2008 1:17:20 PM   
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