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No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 3:46:10 PM

LadyPact

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Ok folks. Those of you who know Me from around these boards know that hubby has been deployed to Korea these past seven months. In less than two weeks, he will be home on leave for a month. I get to spend Christmas and New Years with him and I am literally counting the days until he comes home.

My husband isn't a sub, but he has mentioned to Me that he is willing to bottom to Me one time while he is home. I've been sitting here kind of wondering what I can do that would really rock his world on the other side of the kneel. He's no masochist, so I know I can't unleash My full sadist on him. He's watched me play with others countless times, so I know I don't really have any tricks to pull from My sleeve to send him reeling. Mind fucks are absolutely out.

So, as the title says, just a question. If you were going to play with someone after being separated for seven months, what would you do?

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 3:51:39 PM

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First thing that comes to my mind would be some highly erotic bondage with sensual teasing...perhaps incorporating some food play like chocolate

Now i am hungry and horny!

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 4:02:58 PM

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Along time ago, i was in your place, only the war was Viet Nam and i'd never heard of any kind of kink. All i wanted was to make made passionate love and to be held closely. He wanted a hot shower, a home cooked meal and to watch a football game on TV (which shoulda told me a whole lot..lol). He did what he wanted, first, then i got my turn. Personally i think you could rock his world any way he wants, then it's your turn..but then i'm a sub, so my pov probably isn't the same..lol.

Good luck.
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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 4:08:59 PM

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LadyPact
I have no advice to offer on your question. I just wanted to say that I am happy you will have him home with you for a month.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 4:12:30 PM

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Sensation play. Blindfold and then different sensations; silk, feather, fur. Oil him and then pour wax on - if he isn't too furry. You can always go do heavy play at a dungeon, make this something he'll enjoy. Bondage and tease him for a long time so he finds the eventual orgasm intense.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 4:25:43 PM

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Hi, LadyPact----
Let me first say, I am soooo happy for you both that he's coming home for a month of leave. My ex- was in the MC and was in Japan for a year, so I truly understand.
Hmmmm...don't know if you're into strap-on play but, if he's not too homophobic about the enterprise, it would strike me as really hot, and a great way to get him into a bottom-ey mindset by walking upto him while wearing one, running your hand down his chest, then grabbing his shirt, pulling downward, and telling him to get on his knees and suck your c*ck. Not treating him roughly, but being very difinitive about who's in charge.
After awhile, some soft eroticism, then from there, go with the flow....
Have a wonderful time!!! :>
Davan

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 4:28:31 PM

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Everyone pretty much said it, tying him to the bed and slowly just working him all day. It doesn't need to be rough just sweet, light, savoring. Maybe a shower together, where you wash eachother down... or maybe a bath for you LadyPact... um... there is always the sweet romantic thing blind fold him (i guess well have to leave the ties and cuffs out but that could be an idea) and take him to a sacluded location and have a midnight picnic (but it's getting cold so that might not work and that is if its an all day thing) or go to the top of a mountain and look out over the town or city depending where you are with the same concept of suprise.

i am glad he is coming back and im excited for you both! =D

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 4:29:58 PM

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I think if I were you Lady P, I'd just use my body to wrap around him and not let him go for a whole month.

I hope you two have a wonderful Christmas and New Years together!!!

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 5:42:22 PM

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I hope the 2 weeks go by quickly for you

I can't give you any better advice than what you've already received. I'm just happy for you that yall will be together after being apart for so long.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 5:44:54 PM

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Sit on his face.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 5:49:13 PM

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Edit> *Shakes my head*

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< Message edited by CruelDesires -- 12/5/2008 6:03:18 PM >

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 6:04:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
So, as the title says, just a question. If you were going to play with someone after being separated for seven months, what would you do?

Tease Him..... after months he is going to be wanting it.. and wanting it bad! So make the scene long and drawn out... foreplay in slow motion. make pause to feel the moments of the touch. Raise him to heights one bar at a time and but all very slowly. but also keep him focus on that big prize at the end! I suspect this just might feed you sadistic tastes as well as be one hell of hot prize when you get him there... The only question.. what is the hot prize... what is that HOT fantasy or desire that he craves.... figure it out...that is your bait. And no it's not just a hot fuck either... look deeper into his desires like you know how. Tap into his lust and love all in one. Tap into Him!

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 6:20:24 PM

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I think he wants you to "dom" him into sexual submission.
In other words, he wants you to treat him like a play-toy, without the pain.
Think of all the ways you can do this, and have at it.
I'm sure he'll love it.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 6:33:05 PM

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First of all, congratulations LadyPact on your great news. How exciting it is!

If it were me, I would have him lie on the bed, with his hands bound (I have cuffs on the wall above the bed) and his legs bound (I have eye hooks on each side of the bed), put some very sexy music on (Sexual Healing, Shake You Down, and #1 Crush) and I would dance for him, slowly. Letting him see your desire for him in the fire of your eyes and the movement of your body. Tease him visually. Make the moment about him and no one else. While the music is still playing, and you have removed your clothing, stand over him while dancing, bringing yourself lower and lower to him, where he can't touch you, but he can smell your scent. Then sit on his face (As L & M said). When you are done, or he is, oil his body up and just use your hands to tease him further. It will make whatever fantasy's he had about coming home a reality for him. Put him in a position of having to beg for you, but be careful here, as most who are not into this, do not like the idea of begging anyone. Take him to the place, just before begging begins.

I understand that he has "seen" it all and watched you do things to subs a dozen or more times, but it was never for or about him. Let him see the woman behind the Domina and at the same time, the Domina that is his woman.

Hope this helps..it is what I would do, if I were seeing someone I love that I hadn't seen in 7 months.

Hugs!

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 6:35:56 PM

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I can't believe you need IDEAS, LP, isn't it more of what you can do first?

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 7:15:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

I understand that he has "seen" it all and watched you do things to subs a dozen or more times, but it was never for or about him. Let him see the woman behind the Domina and at the same time, the Domina that is his woman.

Hope this helps..it is what I would do, if I were seeing someone I love that I hadn't seen in 7 months.

Hugs!

For some reason, I found myself crying as I read this. Maybe I could feel the raw emotion in your words, or maybe I just understand missing someone.......

Whatever it was- it touched me. And Lady P, I hope your homecoming is wonderful, as full of delights and frolic as it is intimacy and renewal.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 7:32:30 PM

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All I can suggest is start with a long hard deep kiss when you first see him then everything else should fall into place.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 7:34:30 PM

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We suggest doing what we do when slaves leave for whatever reason and then return (they ALWAYS return to us for more). Take it slow and read him the way you'd read a book. See how little hints trigger a reaction and take it from there. For example if he's looking at your feet and says how sexy your feet look today take him to take your shoes off for you and maybe he'll offer to kiss them next. Lay out his collar and see if he wants to put it on. Watch a kinky movie together then lay out toys after or see if he asks to try some of the stuff he saw in the movie. Read your partner.

Hope this helps.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 8:26:47 PM

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Why not have him give you an erotic bath? I am not a masochist and love service and I think this would be incredibly arousing - candlelight and lots of bubbles, your favorite music, and let him just love his time touching you. After that you can move into anything you want.

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RE: No catchy title, just a question - 12/5/2008 8:33:25 PM

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First thing that came to my mind was a bubble bath, and letting him shave your legs, or massage you. After that, let him towel you off, and then rub you down with lotion everywhere. A manicure and pedicure to follow, and if he is a good boy (which of course he will be) you can have fun ruining your nails and working up a sweat to need a shower. And of course, afterwards, letting him wash you down in the shower again is always a possibility.

Enjoy

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