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lovingpet -> Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 7:58:34 AM)
We've all heard terms like pain slut, attention slut, and the like. Some may relate to some of these and not others. Others will be able to identify with all the possible ones I might be able to come up with and more. Then there's the intensity slut. This person likely identifies with a great number of the titles, but it really has nothing to do with specifically enjoying those things. It only when there is high energy and intensity attached to them that they really hold their appeal. Control is absolute, emotions deep, humiliation utterly complete, pain extreme, etc. They often will have tags such as extreme, heavy, and the like attached to the terms previously mention. It is the intensity that drives them, however. I best identify with this idea of the intensity slut. Lots of things a very enjoyable to me, but it is the focus and energy behind them that really stirs me. I could have fun in a light, casual manner, but it is not going to be the same. I feed off of the energy, focus, and attention of what is going on. It is those things that make the specific things going on pleasurable to me. Does anyone else identify this way? What is it like for you? I think this can be the case on either side of the whip, so I would really appreciate responses from both sides. lovingpet

maybeyours -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 8:07:48 AM)
I'm this way - intensity is very important to me. It's the depth of the emotions and the connection that really gets me. It's what leaves me wanting more and more. Light, casual play just doesn't do it for me. It scratches the itch for a short while, but it comes back more ... well, intense, lol ... than ever.

missturbation -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 8:19:12 AM)
I can totally see where you are coming from with this concept and agree with it in that i too need intensity in my scenes to get a full high from them. However i would say that if you identify as a pain slut or humiliation slut then the intensity involved in that is a given. Don't we have enough labels without adding more to the collection lol?

RainydayNE -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 8:27:54 AM)
i kinda have to agree with missturbation on this =p the unnecessary lists grow ever longer! intensity is nice, but i, too, assume it's a given. however i've never "played casually" so maybe i just don't have enough miles to necessarily know the difference.

lovingpet -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 10:13:34 AM)
I never intended this as a label, but more my musing on what exactly it is that I enjoy about things. It is not always that I enjoy the actual sensations or emotions in an erotic sense. It is the spirit in which they may be given that matters more. Take a look see at my posts and I am sure it will be clear I am not one to relish in labels either! :) lovingpet

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 12:57:58 PM)
Honestly, I've been calling myself an intensity addict or intensity slut for years -- topping, bottoming, outside of WIITWD, relationship-wise, in what I read, write, and watch on TV, it's all about the experience, and if it's not high-intensity on -some- level, I'm bored out of my gourd. In many ways, I think "intensity freak" and "control freak" in combination describe me better than almost any other individual or grouped moniker, including 'dominant', 'top', 'bottom', etc. Sometimes, those labels just don't fit me -- but 'intensity freak/slut/addict' always does.

Alighierisquest -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 1:36:19 PM)
I can see how intensity can become an important fixture. To me that's the difference between what you can do reasonably all the time and what you can do on special occasions. I don't know if I could ever play with or over an intensity slut for fearing of being burned out.

DesFIP -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 1:39:11 PM)
I need intensity in terms of emotional connection. But not in any activity. I can enjoy light bondage, light sensation play, etc. But only in a loving, committed relationship.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 1:45:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Alighierisquest I can see how intensity can become an important fixture. To me that's the difference between what you can do reasonably all the time and what you can do on special occasions. I don't know if I could ever play with or over an intensity slut for fearing of being burned out. Yup. This is kinda why being poly works well for me -- nobody gets burned out trying to deal with my intensity all by themselves. LOL

lovingpet -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 7:33:56 PM)
To be honest, I would be frightened by the person that could actually handle me singlehandedly. That's not necessarily a bad thing [;)]. It is difficult to create a high intensity level. It is something that really has to be a compatibility thing. If a person is naturally high intensity, then it is less of an issue. Also if the partners are able to honestly assess their ability to meet this need and make the necessary allowances in their relationship for it, the outcome is far better than trying to meet it when you are not able or thinking you will be able to accept it not being met. Intensity in its best form should not be created... it should just be. lovingpet

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 8:14:25 PM)
I go the typical route- I am greedy for intense balance.

Lynnxz -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 8:25:29 PM)
I like intensity in general. Sceneing, relationships, recreation, the gym... the downside is I put so much energy into something that I burn out quickly, like a little kid at a amusement park or something. :-/

KnightofMists -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 8:44:47 PM)
Intensity is a rather subject term . What one consider intense another could very well consider as relaxing or just boring. It is one thing to say that one desires intensity in their scene... but communicating what exactly is intense is another issue all together.

Lilith13 -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/3/2008 9:14:42 PM)
Heh--it has been said that I approach sex and relationships as an extreme sport. I do use the word "intense" sometimes, though I use the word "extreme" more. But I think we're talking about the same thing. Intensity, depth, focus, etc., are certainly parts of the extreme experiences I crave. It can take hours or days for us to prepare for a session and enter into it. When we get there we are entirely living it--there isn't anything else calling for our attention. When my domme reaches a hyperfocused state, I know I'm going to be taken away from the rest of the world completely and it's going to be intense.

silkncarol -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/4/2008 2:40:28 AM)
Very true Knight.......it's all relative to your own experience. Since i don't think of myself as a pain slut i've always liked the term "sensation junkie"....it doesn't have to hurt like hell, but i do need and want that mental and emotional connection with the person i'm with..... quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists Intensity is a rather subject term . What one consider intense another could very well consider as relaxing or just boring. It is one thing to say that one desires intensity in their scene... but communicating what exactly is intense is another issue all together.

lovingpet -> RE: Intensity Slut? (12/4/2008 5:27:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists Intensity is a rather subject term . What one consider intense another could very well consider as relaxing or just boring. It is one thing to say that one desires intensity in their scene... but communicating what exactly is intense is another issue all together. That is definitely true. I have seen many "intense" scenes and really it didn't do much for me personally. I don't even think had I been one of the parties involved it would have mattered. Intense and blase are entirely in the eye of the beholder and I think for most the activity going on actually does matter. For me, it simply doesn't. It is an energy thing. lovingpet

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