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obedient4ltr -> spirit of S/s and contract rules (11/24/2008 5:28:18 AM)
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Spirit of a DOMinant.Well… since I have been in search of a LTR long term relationship as a sub slave I have found the nominations DOM sub slave switch etc to mean very often very different things to all the different people out there that applying these titles to themselves!A distinction I make is between professional services where kinky play and remuneration are required as the goal and those persons that seek ‘relationship where emotional satisfaction is the goal as well as a shared life path!Then the motivations to be either DOM or sub has to be examined….Some are probably socially inept in other aspects of their lives and seek solace in acting out lack of responsibility or aggression in an environment they feel will accept their weaknesses.However a lack of personal quality and character will never be compensated for by hiding it under some role play whether fantasised in the mind or played out in real actual life. As will all things there is often a priced to be paid…for what is ever totally free in life, for the sub it has to be doing things he or she does not want to when called upon to. For the TOP or Dominant it is maybe an added responsibility in decision making and managing.Do look at the downsides to this too if you really want to know ‘how it will be’I think I bear little self deception where this is concerned.. Many of my ordinary presently met needs and likes will not be met again, and I am aware of this. BUT have decided to traded them in as it were for the greater goal.The greater goal for me is being in simpatico with a DOMinant and after a while become as it were a part of her will. Her happiness and pleasure is then just as mine… were are as ‘one’Most couples want this in the beginning at least, i in the suppose vanilla world also!But personal struggles come in, one want ones ‘space’ and separateness grows.The old wedding vows attempted to incorporate this holy union with terms such as ‘love honour and obey’With all my world good endow (ie you become as part of my worldly goods).An agreement is made at the outset.(and it MUST be an joint agreement and understanding of how it will be and what is expected). Written down in full detail it can then be referred back to as ‘law’ The law can of course be changed as things evolve and develop possibly monthly or quarterly refers can be part of the agreement.If agreements cannot be reached then the LTR has little change of surviving for long However if agreements are made they can be good and binding and be a major force for strength and ongoing possibility.In my view the DOMinant for here part does not need dominance or control over every aspect of his life BUT she may want to control him, manage him, in many otherwise un-thought of areas.. BECAUSE she ENJOYS to! and for my part, having a mistress or master derive ‘please and enjoyment would mean everything to me and re-enforce my devotion.What are your views? [sm=yesmistress.gif]
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