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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 7:40:21 AM

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Now, if this were me? I would sell my story to the highest bidder. Cuz I am looking for some new shoes. And my truck wants new side rails.

Mony, I'm sure a cyber CM affair with me would be worth several sets of side rails and a full outfit, with shoes, for you.

Not that my morals would ever permit me to suggest DOING such a thing. I'm just sayin'.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 7:49:04 AM

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Unless we resolve the socio-economic circumstances whereby millions find themselves in such and similar situations where life is something to be avoided, suppressed and replaced rather than lived, we can only expect such bizarre occurences to be repeated and to become more exaggerated.

That all this is occurring solely because a growing underclass find themselves disenfranchised in life, that it is financed by the taxpayer, that everyone finds it amusing - is no different to the situation that obtained in former times when sightseers would tour the lunatic asylums to laugh at the gibbering freaks who were also excess to requirements.

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I dunno .. how about the ex-wife, who is listed as a 'former waitress' get a job to support herself so that she no longer has to life on benefits? The husband is listed as being disabled. I don't find this story amusing in the least - it's just friggin' sad that these 3 people have sat around playing an online game and getting so involved in it. Get out there and live, people - we only get one shot at this.

Absolutely - on the face of it. But when the jobs available pay less than state welfare benefits, and have no opportunity for advancement whereby that reduction in income might be made up, it would be very few that would choose that way in the real world.

If we hadnt exported hundreds of thousands of good jobs for the sake of making additional millions for a few whilst the rest of us have to support the hundreds of thousands of unemployed - a net loss to the country - in favour of an economy based on the sorts of jobs that students used to do to supplement their educational grants, we would by no means be in the sorry situation we are now with such a sizeable and growing underclass.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:03:01 AM

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Ten years ago my (ex) husband walked away from his sons and his wife of 26 years because he had "met" someone on line and fallen madly in love. He moved to Texas from Maryland, never having actually met the woman, so sure that his on-line domliness would transfer to R/L and he'd found heaven on earth.

To reply to the O/P, however, cheating comes in many forms. Do i believe he cheated on me? You betcha!!! i think it would have been easier to accept physical cheating, that i might have seen the signs and been able to "do" something, but there was no way i could do anything to "fix" his in-love mind set -- just my 2 cents worth.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:32:24 AM

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I am wondering how many would get a divorce because they "caught" their partner
having an online cyber affair?

The question that comes to my mind, Mia, is whether it would be for "infidelity" or for lying and being untrustworthy. I got rid of my 10yr old spawn's father over similiar issues - lying, having an affair that started online but moved to offline (while I was pregnant with his kid), generally proving himself in the longrun to be completely unworthy of the least bit of trust. I didn't find out that the affair had been taken Offline until Long after I had ended my relationship with him. Nor was that the only affair he had prior to my ending things - it was simply the first, and the stepping stone onto that path. Sad, really, when if he'd simply been honest with me about wanting sex with others I wouldn't have minded or been upset in the least. (Though I Would have insisted on personally screening those whom he intended to fuck around with, for my own safety.)

The point, to me, not being "where" the affair started - but that someone has to neglect responcibilities, betray standing commitments, turn to unmitigated deceit, etc - in order to Have an "affair" at all. If they're willing to start doing such as a part of their prefered lifestyle, I don't consider them worth having around, and divorcing myself from their presence (whether it's an actual divorce, or simply telling them to bugger off and ending a non-marriage relationship) seems like a pretty positive step for myself.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:35:51 AM

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The grounds for the divorce here are unreasonable behaviour rather than infidelity as I understand

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:45:36 AM

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Makes sense. Although I'm guessing that "unreasonable behavior" would equate to "irreconcilable differences" on this side of the pond.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:52:20 AM

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There is also the argument that cheating on someone emotionally and mentally is more violating than just cheating on them physically.

My opinion exactly.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 11:32:00 AM

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Physically he didn't, emotionally he did. The Man sees cybersex as harmless, I don't. But he doesn't engage in it because I engage with him. If he was feeling without companionship, friendship, love etc he might well seek to meet his needs online. Because his needs are met, he doesn't bother.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 12:08:37 PM

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To me, cyber-cheating is still cheating, and I would be upset if I found my man having virtual sex with someone else. As some have said, it's the emotional disconnection that makes it upsetting.

On a different note, I know this may sound a bit harsh, but if both of these people are unemployed, why do they still have access to the Internet? If I lost my job tomorrow, there are several unnecessary things that I would have to do without -- and my Internet connection, cable TV, etc. are top on the list. In addition, I'm wondering if there isn't some kind of monthly fee for playing these role-playing games online? If so, then people who are without jobs damn sure need to stop paying for shit like that, get off their asses, and go out looking for a job, not spending all day on the computer. And yes, the economy is bad right now, but there *are* jobs available. Sitting on the computer all day playing games and having cybersex won't help them get one.

As one person commented, "...good to see hard working peoples taxes being used to finance them."

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 12:33:01 PM

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To me, cyber-cheating is still cheating, and I would be upset if I found my man having virtual sex with someone else. As some have said, it's the emotional disconnection that makes it upsetting.

On a different note, I know this may sound a bit harsh, but if both of these people are unemployed, why do they still have access to the Internet? If I lost my job tomorrow, there are several unnecessary things that I would have to do without -- and my Internet connection, cable TV, etc. are top on the list. In addition, I'm wondering if there isn't some kind of monthly fee for playing these role-playing games online? If so, then people who are without jobs damn sure need to stop paying for shit like that, get off their asses, and go out looking for a job, not spending all day on the computer. And yes, the economy is bad right now, but there *are* jobs available. Sitting on the computer all day playing games and having cybersex won't help them get one.

As one person commented, "...good to see hard working peoples taxes being used to finance them."

Well I can understand people being online a lot for a variety of reasons.
I don't begrude them having a computer and internet acess just because they
get state benefits.

What gets me is this.
From what I have been told about Second Life, when you want to get really nice characters,
own property, etc. you have to SPEND money, it is not all free!
Dave Barmy owned a bar on second life!
Maybe buying property and bling for your characters is more affordable than I thought.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 7:47:48 PM

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This is the third time this week I've heard/seen of 'second life'. Now I feel out of touch with reality. LOL. I have no clue what it really is; I thought it was just another site where you pick an avatar and have at it. hmm.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:03:02 PM

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See, there's people like this that give SL such a bad reputation. Even their characters look tacky. This is why it's so sickening when these stories come out. They are not a fair representation of all the people that participate there.

There are some very kick ass creative people who participate there and everyone is not gross or committing some sort of infidelity.

I have a character and make little mini-movies in game.

On a side note: I do believe that emotional infidelity is just as bad as sexual. I only distinguish between the two, in that, with emotional - at least you don't pass along STD's to your spouse.

But it's still just as loathsome.

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RE: Infidelity is getting stranger and stranger - 11/15/2008 8:07:56 PM

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I wonder if anyone has ever played 'lactate the man-boobs'?

I fear I will never eat again.

You can be sure there is nothing new under the sun. If you can imagine it, somewhere, probably right now, someone -- or more likely a group of folks -- are doing it.

*Passes came4U the air sickness bag*

It'll be okay. There, there, sweetie.

I know how you feel -- when I first heard about stuff like branding I had the same reaction, LOL.

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