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WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: May you discuss personal problems here (11/8/2008 8:27:31 PM)
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I generally don't give up too many specific details about current issues or problems, just enough that is required to get feedback from other people.
Ironic as it is, I've actually had somebody make a post involving me on the message board. As soon as I read it I knew without question that it was about me. It was a little humorous to read some of the posts coming in from other members. Her and I were somewhat amazed at how far and extremely off based it got on the thread.
But seriously, it was somebody that was a friend of mine, and I was keeping things very vanilla between us. She had practically baited and thrown submission to the nth level at me as well. I just was not biting! I got compared to a fish nibbling on the bait on the end of a hook but never actually taking a bite. LOL. It was kind of funny to read people jumping to conclusions. As if I was trying to use her for phone sex and stuff like that, when we never even went there to begin with.
I supposed 1/2 the things posted on that thread I could have taken offense to, but not really, was sort of entertaining to read the twisted directions that thread took. It took on a life of it's own. I often see this sort of happening at times in many threads people start, asking or looking for advice.
I think what is important is for somebody to read and figure out what advice applies or does not to the current situation at hand. I actually trust my girls mental reasoning in this area, and I don't have any problems if she was to pop onto the message board with an issue or problem. Ask some questions. Even for me to read the thread as well.
She just recently read one of my threads where I made a bit of a jackass out of myself with an issue. For me the issue was very troublesome and very real in my mind. Regardless of how others precieved it, or whatever else. Not very often that I sort of have a bit of a emotional/mental melt down like that, but I did. I'm over it now. Fessed up to my wrong doings, did not like the feelings my own actions caused within me, and well. I had more of an issue with me, compared to what I imagined she had with me about it. Still something to nip in the ass. Basically, just knocked it the Hell off. I was thinking way too much about it, and worrying way too much about it for my own good and her own good even.
Back to the question, I think the message board is a good place to get advice on things at times, it's also perhaps the worse place at times as well. What is important, most important thing, is communication between two people in the end, not just a few posts other people make in response to a message board thread. This is a tool to sort of let it all out, vent and share the issue with other people. Makes one stop to think a little more about the issue, and get some additional input to think and reflect upon.
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