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marieToo -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 8:24:53 PM)

The guy sounds like a jerk.  Why bother to have a profile if you don't want it to draw compatible prospects?  Makes no sense to me.

I am contacted more than *I* contact.  But it has worked for me both ways.  I have no problem contacting someone if their profile interests me.  I will write a note and tell him what drew me in his profile and why.  I have never had anyone be a jerk to me, though there was one who didn't care for my approach, not bad odds, I'd say.  Mostly though, the men are the first to contact the women.  Maybe it's a supply and demand thing.  I really don't think it matters ego-wise who initiates.  The most important thing is to make the connection, I think,



monywildcat -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 8:25:18 PM)

If I were single, I would grab faery and hug her, and squeeze her, and call her george...[;)]

How funny, Mr. Domly Dom must have thought your crystal ball was working that day.  Mine rarely does.  And I broke my telepathy button.  I would occasionally initiate contact with a dominant person, if I felt that something in their profile or a message board posting made me sit up and take notice.  If they didn't like that, oh well.  I'm not a mind reader. 

*and I'll hug her, and love her, and squeeze...*  lol!



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 8:33:36 PM)

thats what they tried to do to me  at tnt's....i couldnt breath...



monywildcat -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 8:35:03 PM)

oh noes!  I won't squeeze too hard, promise! 



DesFIP -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 9:09:18 PM)

Idiot, plain and simple. If he didn't want to talk to you, then he should have just not responded. I wouldn't be surprised if he's one of the types that rants and raves when subs he sends form letters to don't answer.

I've written doms in the past. Asking questions based on forum posts, compliments on their clear writing, questions about photos. Never a come on, obviously a friendship only thing and have been fortunate enough to always get friendly replies.  If he doesn't want anyone writing to him, then the onus is on him to state that in his profile.



theobserver -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 10:24:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: laura2161

Hey all,

Something has been on my mind for the past day or so that for some odd reason I can't seem to shake. I usually do not initiate contact with dominants, (Call me a chicken) but from time to time I will especially if he has written something in the forums that I really took to heart, or if it was something that made me laugh out loud (I love to laugh) . Anyhoo, I digress.

I recently initiated contact with a Man because of something he wrote in his profile that caught my eye. I wrote a 'nice' 5 or 6 sentence email regarding the specific passage. I received an email back from him telling me in no uncertain terms that I was out of line for emailing him first. Ummm  ...okie dokies.

But that started me thinking. As dominants, either male or female, do you want to be the one who initiates contact? Do you not like it when an s-type male or female writes first?

And for the s-types, do you initiate or do you view their profiles and take a wait and see approach?

Thanks,
laura



Not to say I'm either, but on CM I usually do not initiate a first contact, like I stated in the thread I started, but from the responses, some felt that was kind of counter-productive; especially if it's just to initiate a conversation without expectation for anything beyond.



moonvine -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 10:28:26 PM)

I dunno, when I initiate contact it is always pretty much without expectations other than that we might have a good conversation.  I have cmailed people about all sorts of stuff including what price I should pay for lactated ringers solution, so if I am asking a specific question like that I would hope they would answer.  



WyldHrt -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 10:58:02 PM)

I've only initiated contact with people from the boards, and only to comment on something they posted or compliment them on their posting style. So far, I haven't gotten one rude reply, although some did not reply (which is cool with me). If you writing a polite note to him was an issue, he should have simply ignored the mail, IMO. To reply as he did marked him as a bit of an asshat.



GreedyTop -> RE: First email contact (10/31/2008 11:11:17 PM)

*snort* you contacted me to perv me, Wyld *grin*

I'll initiate contact when I find someone interesting for any number of reasons.  I agree.. the dude was a fucktard.



Rogue86 -> RE: First email contact (11/1/2008 12:45:07 AM)

I welcome emails from anyone who is polite and respectful and not 'trolling'.   Those get deleted without a second thought.  I respond with a polite "no thank you"-type message if I"m not interested in continuing a dialogue, and I'm irritated by those who can't muster even that when I email them.  I've made some good friends over the years with folks, both Dominant and submissive, who've responded to something in my profile.



came4U -> RE: First email contact (11/1/2008 12:50:28 AM)

The guy doesn't pay your internet bill nor did he buy the computer you use to access this FREE site.  He also has the faggedy option of sending all mail from females to his bulk folder thus never needing to even see a mail from a chick. 

Don't lose sleep over it.



WyldHrt -> RE: First email contact (11/1/2008 1:05:25 AM)

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*snort* you contacted me to perv me, Wyld *grin*

LOL! Actually, I lured your hottness in with a post about aquarium keeping.... but I was perving you long pefore that... [:D]



JustDarkness -> RE: First email contact (11/1/2008 1:06:34 AM)

If I didn't want contact... I should not be on a website where contact is the thing people look for (Unless stated different in their profile).

I know there are/were online rules where it was indeed not decent for a slave to contact a Master, but personally I find that stupid.
IF I amlooking for a slave...she can contqact me....I prefer that above dying alone  [:D]


so..mail me your pics and other sexy stuff   grin



moonvine -> RE: First email contact (11/1/2008 2:03:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness



I know there are/were online rules where it was indeed not decent for a slave to contact a Master, but personally I find that stupid.
IF I amlooking for a slave...she can contqact me....I prefer that above dying alone  [:D]





I would say about 40-50% (wild ass guess) of the d-type profiles I look at explicitly state they are not going to contact submissives, they want submissives to contact them, so they must not be aware of these rules.[;)]



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