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RE: Relocation - 10/20/2008 6:15:52 PM

silkncarol

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I suppose because they expect you to be at least open minded to the possibility?

I didn't check "willing to relocate" on my profile...because for me it would depend on the relationship... it's not something i'd do hastily or without great thought. I certainly wouldn't pass on the chance for an amazing relationship simply because we lived in different places.

What's that old saying...if there's a will there's a way!

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ORIGINAL: shewhoserves

Why do more than half of the Dom/mes here expect you to relocate, and looking at my profile i dont recall checking the lil box where it says "willing to relocate"

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RE: Relocation - 10/20/2008 7:27:29 PM

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the reason i expect a slave to be able to relocate is,,,, if you are serious about being owned, being collared, being controlled, giving yourself to another person.. if you are serious about all this, and your life would not be complete without it,,, then why shouldnt i expect a potential slave to be able to relocate? its not like i can go to the local bar and expect to find my next slave waiting for me there. matches are far and few between, if you are serious about the lifestyle relocation should be the least of concerns.

second reason i expect slaves to relocate is i own a business, and that is not relocatable.

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RE: Relocation - 10/20/2008 7:29:31 PM

masterlink65

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but at the same time, i do not expect a potential slave to drop everything and relocate with a photo exchange. if compatible, relocation should not be out of the question. i am also not into cyber scene.

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 1:38:10 AM

shewhoserves

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quote:

ORIGINAL: masterlink65

the reason i expect a slave to be able to relocate is,,,, if you are serious about being owned, being collared, being controlled, giving yourself to another person.. if you are serious about all this, and your life would not be complete without it,,, then why shouldnt i expect a potential slave to be able to relocate? its not like i can go to the local bar and expect to find my next slave waiting for me there. matches are far and few between, if you are serious about the lifestyle relocation should be the least of concerns.

second reason i expect slaves to relocate is i own a business, and that is not relocatable.

i agree, but what 'if' the sub/slave owns a buisness, has a great career, family matters that would prevent from moving away...... would a Dom/me relocate??

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 1:48:47 AM

RCdc

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i agree, but what 'if' the sub/slave owns a buisness, has a great career, family matters that would prevent from moving away...... would a Dom/me relocate??

It depends on the availability and position of the dominant. If the dominant has a job that is easily transferable etc - no commitments etc then the dominant can choose to move - just as much as the s-type can.

If you can't do long distance then don't. If you cannot move then do not. If you don't want to, then don't. Stick to your 'comfort zone' and only date within your chosen area.

I relocated to an area I knew would be benificial to my family and relationships. Darcy was still over 2 hrs away(that shortened down from 8). We had to wait until the oppotunity arose that we could be together when Darcy's employment altered and he moved to the area where I was now settled and children at school. It's purely choice and personal desire. It's nothing to do with rules or 'must does' its down to individuals involved and the circumstances of each person.
For us, the answer was yes.

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 2:31:29 AM

zakkan

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This is the advantage of living in a small country!

If I ever find anyone local, its impossible for her to be more than 2 hours away...

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 5:20:21 AM

juliaoceania

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fast reply

When I first met Sinergy he was 450 miles away. He moved because of his work and then was about 350 miles away. He was out of my zone, and I was out of his. He found my profile accidentally, and even though we were out of each other's search parameters we struck up some conversation...

Now mind you, I had "willing to relocate" on my profile...but my relocation was supposed to be on my terms and about my graduate school edu. Well, now I am in grad school close to where he lives, and the major attraction of going to this school is he is here. It is a good school, but he was the primary reason I applied here. Now it has been a long journey. I would never get involved with anyone so far away again, it took 3 years for us to work out the kinks, and some of that working out was painful for both of us. I am glad I am here, I am glad I relocated, and I am glad I struck up a conversation with him three years ago.... but it is not something that I would want to do again because it has been extraordinarily difficult

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 5:37:07 AM

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i have moved for lesser reasons than happiness...so i suppose its not out of the question...but honestly, the pull to move would have to be extraordinarily strong for me to pay attention to it. Stranger things have happened.

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 9:20:38 AM

CatdeMedici

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I agree with darcyandthedark----in the global world we live in, if one looks in other states, other countries and cyber is not the intent, well the question has to be asked--and asked early. I do not hold with this, I am the D and you will move to me, I mean it may work for some but hellooo---presume much. I am a firm believer that both sides need to address this upfront--I do, I can't and won't move, but I don't look at submissives who can't move either--for me that won't work.

This isn't rocket science.

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 10:02:31 AM

Venatrix

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shewhoserves

i agree, but what 'if' the sub/slave owns a buisness, has a great career, family matters that would prevent from moving away...... would a Dom/me relocate??

Not only would I relocate for the right sub, but I'm positively eager to, provided that he lives in one of the countries I really want to live in.

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 3:52:50 PM

whis31

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when i met Master i wasn't willing to relocate i'm a single mom and was doing the best for my daugther, well lets just say the universe has a very wicked since of humor! i was offered my dream job, but it ment relocating...hmm closer to Master, my daugther and i know live in a home that Master made the arragments on and takes care of...for reasons Master and i don't live together...kids being the primary reason...but i went from i'm not relocating to i'm here!

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 4:00:11 PM

masterforRT

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Why would I expect a sub to relocate?
Simple. I live in Hollywood, THE coolest place in the whole world (except perhaps for London, that is).

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 4:06:53 PM

StrictnSaucy

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I relocated to be with my sub. Now we are talking Ireland so it was only a 100 mile move. But it made more since for me to move than him. So to answer your question - some Ds do!

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 6:45:31 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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I don't expect relocation, but I don't get into serious LDRs anymore. What does it matter what most people want? It only matters what the person I'm considering getting involved with wants.

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RE: Relocation - 10/21/2008 7:29:57 PM

Icarys

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shewhoserves

Why do more than half of the Dom/mes here expect you to relocate, and looking at my profile i dont recall checking the lil box where it says "willing to relocate"

Maybe it's the whole your in this to be of service farce that's floating around

If there is a good reason for them not to move to me then, If I'm able I will move..I won't do long distance again and I have a business now so I'm not closing that up to move. The only other answer would be for her to move..If she can't then it would be a waste of time as i see it for us to continue.

Great new pics D&the.d.. Do you guys have a website for more pics

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