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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 5:49:14 AM   
monywildcat


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Status: offline 		All things bondage are not closed off to you simply because you aren't female, OP.  As many others have said, get out in the real world and get your feet wet.  I am sure that if you put your mind to it, you'll be wrapped up in a beautiful shibari-esque ball by someone.  And you didn't have to acquire your own vagina. 

Now, I am off to find some fluffy ears.  Stella needs a bondage bunny! 

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 5:55:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Gee, and I was recently lamenting (in my own head) that the male Dom's had snatched up all the girl slaves/subs! Leaving me to choose from a host of guys who don't *really* want to serve (i.e. do things they don't consider "hot" or "sexy").

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 11:57:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Normally I would advise the OP to man up and quite whining, go out and do it.  In this case however my advice is quit acting like a whining bitch.  Go get your balls chopped off cuz your not using them anyway.

Hope this helps. BadOne


The "hope this helps" made my day.  No, seriously.

Thanks. :)

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 12:01:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stella41b
If you can get to us in Battersea in London I'm sure we can stick fluffy ears on you and make you our bondage bunny. We don't have one.


I thought people who lived in Battersea called it "South Chelsea."  (Sorry, old Flanders & Swann reference....)

Just curious:  Are you serious about the fluffy ears?  Because, after a particular cartoon I saw some years ago, I have had an odd longing to have ears and cotton tail on and kept in a rabbit cage for a while, nibbling carrots....

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 12:16:12 PM   
pinnipedster


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Status: offline 		As a general reply:  Yeah, sorry about griping.  I was pretty damn depressed last night.

I am not saying that I can't engage in *any* bondage play.  Even some fairly elaborate bondage play.

It does seem, however, from what I have encountered so far, most toppish women are far more into inflicting pain than putting guys in bondage.  I haven't found one yet who seems to take any particular pleasure in what I think of as bondage for its own sake.  (Not that I have anything against some pain, but bondage really is my main kink.)  I've been fairly disappointed, at the play parties I have been to -- admittedly, not very many, but a few -- that the emphasis seems to be almost entirely on whipping and flogging.  This is fine, but some variety would be nice.  Particularly when you see some of the lovely bondage equipment available.  Last one I was at, there was this marvelous contraption in the center of the main room to which one could be bound in all sorts of interesting ways, but I didn't see it used at all that night except as a place for people to perch while watching the scenes going on around it. 

It's just frustrating to think that if I were a young, reasonably attractive and limber female, I could send a picture to any of several online sites where they'd not only be willing to put me into bondage far more elaborate than anything I am likely to find in the amateur scene, but they might even pay me for it.    (True, that would mean my pictures would be all over the net, but at this point I've pretty much ceased worrying about that; it's not like I'm ever going to run for President.  If I were actually a young woman, however, I admit I might feel differently.)

Anyhow, sorry for venting here, thanks for the various advice.  Part of what's really frustrating is my financial situation -- now is not a time when I can really do much exploring -- and, more generally, not having money just sucks. :)  Hopefully this will improve.

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 12:16:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinnipedster

quote:

ORIGINAL: stella41b
If you can get to us in Battersea in London I'm sure we can stick fluffy ears on you and make you our bondage bunny. We don't have one.


I thought people who lived in Battersea called it "South Chelsea." (Sorry, old Flanders & Swann reference....)

Just curious: Are you serious about the fluffy ears? Because, after a particular cartoon I saw some years ago, I have had an odd longing to have ears and cotton tail on and kept in a rabbit cage for a while, nibbling carrots....



That's true.. The fluffy ears are possible as it happens... in fact anything is possible.. Isn't that the idea of a munch, to make such things possible between people?

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 12:22:23 PM   
pinnipedster


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For example (and I hope this doesn't drop a nuclear bomb on the thread), pinnipedster, are you willing to be tied up by a woman who weighs more than you do?  A lot of guys are not.


Well, since I actually have been tied up by a woman who I think weighs more than I do -- close to it at least -- I weigh over 250, so she was by any standard a pretty large woman.  And yes, I was very willing. :) 

I will admit that I am somewhat intrigued at the notion of being dominated by a short, petite woman; the idea that she obviously cannot dominate me physically, but can get me to do whatever she wants anyway, is kind of hot (and I think probably would be for many smaller women, too).  However, I am open to most physical types.  The last woman I courted in this respect is about six feet tall and, while she weighs less than I do, she is not exactly slender.  But the time we played -- whoo! 

(Besides, I was blindfolded for most of it anyway.....)


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 12:24:18 PM   
pinnipedster


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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

Yea, I wonder if the OPs intent was bemoaning the fact that he was not female?  Was it only the bondage that you are missing?


It's some of both.  I have gender issues in addition to bondage cravings....


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 1:05:16 PM   
OttersSwim


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ORIGINAL: pinnipedster
It's some of both.  I have gender issues in addition to bondage cravings....


Well I hope you will embrace those parts of you that identify as female, integrate them so that they are no longer issues, but a wonderful, bright, and attractive difference in your person and spirit.  We have but a short time on the big ball-o-dirt, so you gotta be on the outside who you are inside or you will die a spiritual pauper.  Figure out what that is, and don't look back! 


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 1:11:04 PM   
Marion001


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 1:54:19 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Normally I would advise the OP to man up and quite whining, go out and do it.  In this case however my advice is quit acting like a whining bitch.  Go get your balls chopped off cuz your not using them anyway.


Aww, do you need a hug? It sounds like you need a hug.

Aside from that- ok, y'all have sold me. Since there's no scene that I could really call "local", I may as well take recommendations- where are all the "just go out and do it" folks living that there's this surplus of Female Tops who are into heavy bondage, prowling the halls looking for chubby middle-aged guys to scene with? I'm free for the rest of the weekend, so I can be pretty much anywhere east of the Mississippi in time for some Saturday night restraint & relaxation.


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 3:17:47 PM   
tweedydaddy


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 9:28:04 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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ORIGINAL: OneMoreWaste
Aside from that- ok, y'all have sold me. Since there's no scene that I could really call "local", I may as well take recommendations- where are all the "just go out and do it" folks living that there's this surplus of Female Tops who are into heavy bondage, prowling the halls looking for chubby middle-aged guys to scene with? I'm free for the rest of the weekend, so I can be pretty much anywhere east of the Mississippi in time for some Saturday night restraint & relaxation.


Almost 8 hours of travel time gone I sure hope all these places aren't too far away!


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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/17/2008 10:01:24 PM   
UmbraDomina


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Status: offline 		I see alot of whining that things are not getting done to submissives, while I do not see them offering any reason for a dominant woman to interact with them.
here's a clue....... as a dominant woman if all I was looking for was to play with someone and fufill those I was playing with's fantasies I could have 90000000000 partners, and play 24/7 every day until I died.
 BUT, dominant females tend to seek out well rounded men, who have more to offer then their bodies to play with or sexual fantasies.
 

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/18/2008 10:06:04 AM   
osocurious


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Normally I would advise the OP to man up and quite whining, go out and do it.  In this case however my advice is quit acting like a whining bitch.  Go get your balls chopped off cuz your not using them anyway.

Hope this helps. BadOne


LmaoOOOooooo .. I LIKE this reply
( just my impression maybe, but ... ) 
but it sounds to me like the words an Experienced, self secure, true Dominant man Would / SHOULD say!!!
..*thinking* ... Very Sexy!!!

Ohhhh sheeeeesh ... edited because I got so caught up in SailingBum's reply that I really Didn't pay attention to the OP ... my sincere Apologies everyone

< Message edited by osocurious -- 10/18/2008 10:11:22 AM >

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/18/2008 4:43:51 PM   
flower2007


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ORIGINAL: pinnipedster

It just seems there are many, many kinds of bondage I will probably never get to experience, owing to not being female....



I kind of get the frustration.  I *am* female, but because of my own personality, I'll probably never get to experience bondage at all.  Sure, that's partially my own decision, and as much as I want, it's not just something I can get out and do, as someone else said.  So yeah, I get the jealousy.

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/18/2008 5:18:29 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Heck - if i looked at all the thing i am not going to get in this world, i would put  myself out of my misery.

I try to look at the things i have, and want that are attainable - like world peace, and dying wealthy                                   -   oh, no, wait - those are the unattainable ones.    Silly me!

I'm not ever going to be slim, beautiful enough to be on the cover on Elle, or wealthy in any way that is legal. I'm also not going to be young and vibrant, and beloved of all, but,    i can be beloved of one, and happy and strive for what i am fairly sure i can get.   

being realistic isn't a bad thing, ya'know.

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RE: I get so jealous... - 10/19/2008 7:13:48 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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Status: offline 		See? Platitudes with no practical follow-up. And completely gratuitous fawning over someone who insulted you. What did your Uncle Wastie tell you? 

However, there is quite a bit that can be done with self-bondage. A lot of us hang out over at boundforum.com; it's obviously a bit of a sausagefest (depending on how you count lots of other guys who would rather be female), but a much more pragmatic view of circumstances.


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