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flower2007 -> Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:34:57 PM)
I got an email today that contained this: "While D/s doesn't have to include penetration it will require you to remove your clothing and provide "service"." I'm not necessarily opposed to removing clothing (although not willing to do it for a stranger), but it struck me as odd that D/s in general would "require" anything. Obviously I'm very new to this, so is this the prevaling thought process out there?

lovingpet -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:37:12 PM)
D/s will require things, but there are no rules from my perspective as to what those things may be. Any relationship requires xy and z to keep it healthy. These relationships are no different. lovingpet

Surrenderwithin -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:38:10 PM)
Although " X, Y or Z" does not have to equal " nudity" or even service....

FetishRose -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:38:43 PM)
D/s requires whatever that Dominant and that submissive in the relationship decides it does. Someone emailing you trying to force their definition of it on you...thats all it was. You can be submissive dressed in nothing, in lingerie, in a suit and tie, in a gown, in jeans, in pajamas, or in a banana suit or any other thing you wish. You can provide sexual service, domestic service, business service, etc etc etc. You must decide your definition for yourself :)

Rover -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:39:34 PM)
Power exchange relationship require only what you agree to one another. There is no blueprint by which all D/s relationships are constructed. John

lovingpet -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:41:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Surrenderwithin Although " X, Y or Z" does not have to equal " nudity" or even service.... Absolutely agree! lovingpet

Evility -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:53:34 PM)
A dominant can only require that which the submissive is willing to relinquish. In virtually all D/s relationships the submissive possesses the control. To what extent the submissive exercises said control is the variable. Some exercise little to none of it while others keep a firm grasp of it in real time. I believe the latter group far outnumbers the former group.

moonvine -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:55:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FetishRose D/s requires whatever that Dominant and that submissive in the relationship decides it does. Someone emailing you trying to force their definition of it on you...thats all it was. You can be submissive dressed in nothing, in lingerie, in a suit and tie, in a gown, in jeans, in pajamas, or in a banana suit or any other thing you wish. You can provide sexual service, domestic service, business service, etc etc etc. You must decide your definition for yourself :) I want to be submissive in a banana suit. Where can I get one?

lovingpet -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:57:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: moonvine quote: ORIGINAL: FetishRose D/s requires whatever that Dominant and that submissive in the relationship decides it does. Someone emailing you trying to force their definition of it on you...thats all it was. You can be submissive dressed in nothing, in lingerie, in a suit and tie, in a gown, in jeans, in pajamas, or in a banana suit or any other thing you wish. You can provide sexual service, domestic service, business service, etc etc etc. You must decide your definition for yourself :) I want to be submissive in a banana suit. Where can I get one? As long as your partner can be dominant in a banana hammock I will direct you to the nearest Banana Republic [8D] lovingpet

FetishRose -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 3:58:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: moonvine quote: ORIGINAL: FetishRose D/s requires whatever that Dominant and that submissive in the relationship decides it does. Someone emailing you trying to force their definition of it on you...thats all it was. You can be submissive dressed in nothing, in lingerie, in a suit and tie, in a gown, in jeans, in pajamas, or in a banana suit or any other thing you wish. You can provide sexual service, domestic service, business service, etc etc etc. You must decide your definition for yourself :) I want to be submissive in a banana suit. Where can I get one? Well, if I've been submissive dressed like a sheep, you can surely be a banana. Try goodwill after halloween! [:D]

littlewonder -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 4:09:11 PM)
The only thing that D/s requires is that one party lead while another follows..one is dominant and one is submissive. That's it..nothing more. The rest is up to the people involved.

flower2007 -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 4:15:46 PM)
Ok...I guess that answers my question as to whether this is the typical feeling out there. Or maybe people here just aren't typical....

yourMissTress -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 4:17:48 PM)
What D/s requires...Domination and submission. Who is doing what to whom, how many someones are doing anything or nothing is all based on the decisions made between the people in the relationship. The rules are for you and whomever you decide to partner with to make, no one else. Do what makes you happy, feel good/bad, fulfilled, or whatever it is you are looking for. Don't let anyone outside the relationship tell you what you "should" do or not do. If this person is describing his/her own brand of what goes on in a D/s relationship, take that for what it is, his/her opinion.

Rover -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 4:22:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: flower2007 Ok...I guess that answers my question as to whether this is the typical feeling out there. Or maybe people here just aren't typical.... If by "typical" you mean "average", then no... the folks here are not typical. Typical folks are vanillas. John

colouredin -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 4:25:43 PM)
You will find large disagreements and variatons of opinion about every topic under the sun on here there is very little that everyone will agree with

kiwisub12 -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 5:20:31 PM)
My Sir requires his submissives to be naked. I had contact with a dom that required his girls to be dressed to the nines, wearing 5" heels. Requirements eminate from the dom, and it is up to the sub to agree, disagree, walk away or negotiate. Its all up to the old mainstay of these boards - communication!

windchymes -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 6:01:43 PM)
It's just a nice way of saying "Get nekkid and give me a blow job!"

amaidiamond -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 6:36:18 PM)
Requirements of each relationship are set by the people in the relationship and no-one else :)

KatyLied -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 6:37:54 PM)
quote: It's just a nice way of saying "Get nekkid and give me a blow job!" What she said!

Missokyst -> RE: Requiring something (10/15/2008 7:33:03 PM)
Sounds to me like he believes that whomever he plays with should be naked. And that either there will be oral sex (if he does not see that as penetration), or you will give him a handjob. Actually, its not unusual. Many men would like that. No pressure to perform, and they get all the attention. I wouldnt call it standard practice, but saying you are dominant sure ups the odds of getting it done. Kyst

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