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RE: swinging stuff... - 11/1/2008 1:36:20 PM

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Yes...You would be correct. I hope she has much success with it.

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The party tonight is actually a BDSM one. It is her first as Cat's house, so I am excited to hear how everything goes. :)

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RE: swinging stuff... - 11/2/2008 12:26:10 PM

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I'm potentially confused: I noticed you're asking about swinging but on one of your posts, it references polymatchmaker.com in your signature line. Do you identify as both? If so, have you checked out your local poly groups? There's a HUGE overlap of D/s in the poly community.
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RE: swinging stuff... - 11/2/2008 1:22:34 PM

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I talked to a friend today who is heavily into the swinger's lifestyle. It's all fine and dandy if that works for him, but as far as myself it's not something I feel comfortable exploring. I only have issues with people who try to push it off on other's or guilt someone into it by saying well "you aren't open minded if you don't do A, B or C." I say, if I choose not to participate in swinging that does not make me less open minded or sexually liberated as anyone else. To each their own.

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RE: swinging stuff... - 11/3/2008 1:04:22 AM

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I no longer identify as poly, no... that was a brief excursion into trying something new, and it didn't work for me.

I have done the swing thing before, all on my own, and with other partners... and I have played at Power Exchange many a time and love it there. I used to go almost every weekend.

Traveling isn't so much a matter of distance, as it is a matter of time (though they go hand in hand)... because he wants to be within range to return to the area quickly, should his ex call to say something has happened with his children.

There was a party last night locally, that we decided not to attend, because it was with the people I mentioned in the first post. Apparently there were a lot more people at this one, and we might have had fun there. Had I known there would be more than just the same hand full of people in attendance, I might have been more likely to want to go...

The issue with me is respect. I'm younger... and I don't get as much respect in the swing scene... because I'm seen as not having much experience. Little do these people know, I've been swinging since a month after I turned 18...4 years is longer than some of the couples I've met... and just because I'm young, doesn't mean I'm stupid.

I was laughing at something someone had said at one of the parties we went to, and I was told to grow up and not giggle so much. I was also told "can't you let him go for just a minute?" regarding me talking with my partner at the same party.

We're not like the couples who play separately. We're there for the experiences of playing with other couples, or single males or females TOGETHER. I don't think most in the swing scene understands that. I think it's pretty expected that we go our own ways, and do things separately, but neither of us have the desire to do that.

I've checked the sites that have been recommended. I guess there's just not a lot in the area... We've decided to try going to one of those dance things, just as a social kind of thing to see if we can find others in the area who might be into playing at a different time and location. That's still not what we want, though. It doesn't match our "play party" type scenario. I guess it would be nice to just meet the right people, for now.

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RE: swinging stuff... - 11/3/2008 3:20:43 PM

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I was laughing at something someone had said at one of the parties we went to, and I was told to grow up and not giggle so much. I was also told "can't you let him go for just a minute?" regarding me talking with my partner at the same party.

(Rolling my eye's at stupid people.) People like that aren't the ones you want to be swinging with. They don't respect what you have decided as a couple, and I never understand people like that. Being in the scene long enough though, you understand that isn't everyone's kink and need to understand that might mean there are people you won't play with. And trust me, with statements like that, why would you want to play with them? LOL

As for age, you are right. For me personally, anyone who reminds me of my younger sisters who are 25 and under is off limits. It is allllll weird, but that doesn't mean younger people haven't found swingers who are interested. I have met young people in the scene both BDSM and Swingers who bring in drama, so there is that precaution. Though I know a couple of younger, beautiful, and fully mature ladies at your age be involved in the scene. Finding someone who will vouch for you is step one.

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