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satyrsnymph28 -> RE: swinging stuff... (11/3/2008 1:04:22 AM)
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I no longer identify as poly, no... that was a brief excursion into trying something new, and it didn't work for me.
I have done the swing thing before, all on my own, and with other partners... and I have played at Power Exchange many a time and love it there. I used to go almost every weekend.
Traveling isn't so much a matter of distance, as it is a matter of time (though they go hand in hand)... because he wants to be within range to return to the area quickly, should his ex call to say something has happened with his children.
There was a party last night locally, that we decided not to attend, because it was with the people I mentioned in the first post. Apparently there were a lot more people at this one, and we might have had fun there. Had I known there would be more than just the same hand full of people in attendance, I might have been more likely to want to go...
The issue with me is respect. I'm younger... and I don't get as much respect in the swing scene... because I'm seen as not having much experience. Little do these people know, I've been swinging since a month after I turned 18...4 years is longer than some of the couples I've met... and just because I'm young, doesn't mean I'm stupid.
I was laughing at something someone had said at one of the parties we went to, and I was told to grow up and not giggle so much. I was also told "can't you let him go for just a minute?" regarding me talking with my partner at the same party.
We're not like the couples who play separately. We're there for the experiences of playing with other couples, or single males or females TOGETHER. I don't think most in the swing scene understands that. I think it's pretty expected that we go our own ways, and do things separately, but neither of us have the desire to do that.
I've checked the sites that have been recommended. I guess there's just not a lot in the area... We've decided to try going to one of those dance things, just as a social kind of thing to see if we can find others in the area who might be into playing at a different time and location. That's still not what we want, though. It doesn't match our "play party" type scenario. I guess it would be nice to just meet the right people, for now.
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