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hejira92 -> Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:27:10 PM)
....the um (over 18 now), not Master....(never Master!) My oldest, the one who nearly died from peritonitis when his appendix burst 6 months ago, has left for Parris Island. He's going to be a Marine Officer (the first step in his plan for world domination- not the BDSM kind). This kid was my mainstay through a terrible divorce where I nearly lost the other two kids to lies and manipulation. I have cried and cried over his leaving. But, as I've said before, I have to help him follow his dreams, not mine. And now he's gone. I'm sitting here waiting for the call that he's arrived safely at Parris Island. He has to read from a script- no conversation. And that will be the last time I hear his voice until January when he graduates. And then he will be a Marine- hardly my little boy any longer. I know a good mother pushes them out of the nest when it's time for them to fly, but why doesn't anyone ever mention how awful it is for the mother when the time comes?

GreedyTop -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:28:18 PM)
hugs Hejira

christine1 -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:29:07 PM)
big hugs, i could hardly get through your post.

sujuguete -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:33:50 PM)
He's not gone, just a little farther away for a while. You must be so proud of him for what he is doing. Hold onto that, and the time will fly between now and his graduation.

Darias -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:33:55 PM)
Cause Its just as important for the Mother as it is the child..... The child learns to soar high alone with no safety net. to rely on their own wings and eyes. The mother has her own lesson to learn... for her its more difficult because she has to learn to accept that her job is done. shes done her best to teach them what they need. and now she must learn to trust the skills she passed on . theres always going to be doubts when your child steps out into the world... and there will also be pain that seems like the greatest loss imaginable. however all it takes is that first visit home... when the child returns full of the experiences they gained on their own wings. and pride and love will wash that pain away Sweetie you did your job... you raised him as best you could. trust yourself and trust him. he`ll come back soon enough. better for his experience and boosted by the strength you gave him since birth Tell him canada is the best place to start for world domination....they`ll never see it comming

impishlilhellcat -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:35:39 PM)
As a child who moved well a good 2000 miles away from all family and plans on moving pretty far away again.. We come home from time to time. We don't ever leave for good we just grow up. But every once in awhile something happens and the first person you turn to is your mom.

hejira92 -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:36:03 PM)
Thanks everyone. Darias, you've made me laugh through my tears!

Darias -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:38:18 PM)
that was the plan dear........ like i said Trust yourself....and trust him... any boy who was a rock for his mum while her life fell apart was raised right and is sure as hell gonna be strong enough to overcome whats ahead of him

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:40:48 PM)
awww....your 44...could still have another one.... or...a sub who likes age play... (im up for that) lol... and hey...he'll get good medical care where he's going too....

masterofdrkness2 -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:43:32 PM)
I know you must be sad.. but some where in there you are proud too.... you have a young man striking out on his own to help change the world to a safer and better place for us all...and that is really something to be proud of.... if you get the chance tell him there are many people out here who thank him for what he is doing and support him with all we have .. I wish nothing but the best for both of you .

Daddysredhead -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:44:22 PM)
Hejira, I remember when you told us that he was going to join the Corps. I told you how I felt your sadness, but such enormous pride. Anyone who has read my posts or my journal entries (not the naughty ones, lol) knows how much I love this country's service men and women. I come from many generations of military people and some that are continuing. I know how a mommy loves her son - Thing 1 was part of my rock when I got divorced, too, though he's younger than your son now. Take care and God bless you and your son. Semper Fi!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 5:53:06 PM)
Hugs, and WOW what a great job, Mom!! You must be so incredibly proud to have such a wonderful son. I know he'll continue to be a credit to you in his adult life, and you know he will be thinking of you every day while he swats skeeters at Parris!

soul2share -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 6:23:36 PM)
Hejira.....yeah, it's tough having to let them go, but like Daruis said, you teach them the skills to get through life and hope they will use them when the time comes. I let my son go twice....the first time at age 4 to live with his Dad, because he needed to, and the second time, more permanent, when he finally graduated and struck out on his own. It's hard to think of him as a 22 year old man.....he will forever be my baby. You never really let them go......you just lengthen the apron strings......and they will always follow them back home when they need you the most. BTW, Lady H, from all accounts I've ever heard, they don't swat the skeeters at Parris....they shoot them outta the sky with heavy artillery! Also, like imp says...they will always want their mommy.....that was the only constant thought I had while having my appendix removed this last weekend! And I STILL want her to kiss everything and make it better!

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 7:36:11 PM)
I have to push this out of my mind because I can't fathom the thought of possibly facing mine leaving home one day, You are such a wonderful person hejira and you've raised a wonderful son. Sending lots of hugs and kisses your way...

hejira92 -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 7:36:55 PM)
I got the phone call. About 15 seconds of official words- "Hello. This is Recruit M**** calling to say I've arrived safely to Parris Island. In 7 to 10 days you will receive a letter with my address and contact information. Please do not send perishables or food items." etc. Then, "Goodbye." and he was gone. It was his voice, but really robotic. I just know he's loving it. The bum.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 7:38:33 PM)
Thank G-d! Are you feeling any better since the call?

hejira92 -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 7:49:07 PM)
I was actually on the phone with Master (He allowed me to call Him back when I saw the "private call" ID). I called Him right back and just cried. Transitions are so hard! Master is dealing with His own sadness this week- a very close friend is being moved to hospice. We were out riding (Harleys) with this man a month ago- it's been that fast a downhill slope.

everhope -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 7:49:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hejira92 I just know he's loving it. The bum. hold that thought....you'll be ok, mom. hugs

GreedyTop -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 7:55:56 PM)
prayers to Cuffkinks, you and your friend, Hejira, as well as for all his friends and family

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Well, he's gone... (10/14/2008 8:08:55 PM)
Hugs to all of you. I have no doubt that he will be a fine marine and a wonderful man with a mother like you.

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