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missturbation -> One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 7:16:15 AM)
I have dated approximately (mumbles a figure) men. Some nilla, some kinky, some plain weird [:D]. Taking one for example, my ex husband. He is an arrogant, pig headed asshole. Well to me he is. To his second wife he is obviously something completely different, shes still married to him and happily apparently. So my junk was her treasure figuratively speaking. Sir and i have had some problems recently, nothing major but enough to make me consider releasing myself. Part of the problem was i didn't talk to him and sort it out, but thats by the bye. Anyways most of my friends, people i have spoken to about the issues have said 'walk away.' They wouldn't stay in a relationship with the issues we have. Again another case, but slightly different of one persons junk, another persons treasure. In the first case, my ex husband, i don't like arrogance (ill placed), i don't like pig headed (ill placed) but obviously his second wife does or she doesn't see him like that. The second Sir and i, i see things that noone else does about him and know it's worth working out. What happens though when things are base issues, actions such as your 'junk' is a cheat, wouldn't know honesty if it bit them on the ass or even an abuser. Can these kinds of people really go on to being someone elses 'treasure?' After all i always say 'a leopard can't change it's spots'.

pahunkboy -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 7:40:07 AM)
cool. Hopefully within the day, I will be able to unload a ton rotted wood. ERRRRRRRR. I mean a lovely quaint "antigue" white picket fence. [freecylce} save me $30 in land fill charge. lol

NuevaVida -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 7:49:41 AM)
Considering, according to my ex husband, I turned into his "junk", I sure hope and plan to be someone else's treasure! I'm not sure it's a matter of a person changing their spots, but others might have different perspectives or experiences with them/us.

Anarrus -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 8:07:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation I have dated approximately (mumbles a figure) men. Some nilla, some kinky, some plain weird [:D]. Taking one for example, my ex husband. He is an arrogant, pig headed asshole. Well to me he is. To his second wife he is obviously something completely different, shes still married to him and happily apparently. So my junk was her treasure figuratively speaking. Sir and i have had some problems recently, nothing major but enough to make me consider releasing myself. Part of the problem was i didn't talk to him and sort it out, but thats by the bye. Anyways most of my friends, people i have spoken to about the issues have said 'walk away.' They wouldn't stay in a relationship with the issues we have. Again another case, but slightly different of one persons junk, another persons treasure. In the first case, my ex husband, i don't like arrogance (ill placed), i don't like pig headed (ill placed) but obviously his second wife does or she doesn't see him like that. The second Sir and i, i see things that noone else does about him and know it's worth working out. What happens though when things are base issues, actions such as your 'junk' is a cheat, wouldn't know honesty if it bit them on the ass or even an abuser. Can these kinds of people really go on to being someone elses 'treasure?' After all i always say 'a leopard can't change it's spots'. "...nothing major but enough to make me consider releasing myself" If it's truly nothing major, then why consider release? Too, I'm not sure of the dynamic in place with your Sir, but how does a slave release herself? I would think she'd ask for release...at least to me she would. "What happens though when things are base issues, actions such as your 'junk' is a cheat, wouldn't know honesty if it bit them on the ass or even an abuser. Can these kinds of people really go on to being someone elses 'treasure?" Junk ...is junk ....is junk. A cheat and abuser by any other name is still junk. Some just happen to get off on junk and like having it around for whatever reason. just sayin.. Anarrus

RCdc -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 8:12:54 AM)
Well, I am totally into recycling. Does that answer the question any? the.dark.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 8:13:13 AM)
US $ is junk...but ill take it.

PanthersMom -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 8:13:26 AM)
my "junk" has turned into someone else's nightmare. he treats her even worse. i tried to warn her. guess not everything can be recycled. PM

pahunkboy -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 8:18:28 AM)
a certain piece of junk banged 6 partners in my bed when I was out of town. worse yet- the next door nieghbor watched that parade on the Friday night. so some junk simply doesnt belong in the home, on the couch, or near the home. :-)

kdsub -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 8:32:59 AM)
My first wife has gone on to be married 4 more times...lol.. I guess she is just obviously junk to eveyone. Are you beginning to doubt your own ability to assess people? Many times I have wondered what people see in others…why they can’t see the faults that are so obvious to me. I’ve thought…maybe it’s me …maybe I am seeing faults that aren’t there. Then I understood…. it makes no difference if the faults are true or not…it is how I perceive them that count. Butch

MadAxeman -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 9:00:29 AM)
MissT only you have the ability to see the things that you see in him. It takes those outside to see things dispassionately. When my feelings are involved I always err on the side of trying to make it work. In different circumstances we can all be considered of great worth or little value. Talk to him.

kittinSol -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 9:06:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation After all i always say 'a leopard can't change it's spots'. MissT, I'm not sure that's necessarily true. A leopard can't change another leopard's spots; but a man can change himself if he so chooses. Change happens: it's just got to come from within.

pahunkboy -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 9:07:13 AM)
I do think that with various personalities that some simply wont work for more then 7 years. maybe 3 years.. and in some cases, 20 minutes. ;-0

LadyHibiscus -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 9:34:13 AM)
I have always firmly believed that you cannot change your SELF, only your behaviour. A leopard is always a leopard, even if you dye its fur.

JumpingJax -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 9:57:19 AM)
But isn't there suppose to be this thing called Unconditional Love... Says no matter what spots you might being carrying with you that special someone will love you regardless?

TreasureKY -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 10:27:11 AM)
Mist... do you consider yourself to be the junk from however many past relationships you've had? Would any prior companions you've had (who may truly feel you have insurmountable flaws) be correct in believing that no one would ever find you acceptable? My point is that I believe people are not quite as easily pegged as we would like to believe. Although there are exceptions, I'm sure, someone who is "a cheat" with me may not be "a cheat" with someone else. In the same respect, just because someone lies to me that doesn't mean they lie to everyone else. Some people just bring the worst out in us. If we're lucky, we find someone who brings out the best... and we do the same for them.

TreasureKY -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 10:29:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JumpingJax But isn't there suppose to be this thing called Unconditional Love... Says no matter what spots you might being carrying with you that special someone will love you regardless? JJ... unconditional love isn't really that hard. Unconditional like, on the other hand, is much more elusive. [;)]

slaveboyforyou -> RE: One person's junk, another person's treasure!! (10/14/2008 10:40:30 AM)
quote: MissT, I'm not sure that's necessarily true. A leopard can't change another leopard's spots; but a man can change himself if he so chooses. Change happens: it's just got to come from within. .....and women can change too. I have an ex girlfriend that I didn't talk to for nine years. Now we talk a couple of times a week. I consider her a close friend. She is married with 4 kids, and I am happy for her. We were horrible as lovers, but we are great as buddies. I have yet to meet a woman that I hate. I have yet to meet any person that I hate. We all go through periods were we are at our worst. I try to follow the Golden Rule. I treat others how I would want to be treated, even when I have been a bastard.

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