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when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 2:27:56 PM

Lairaimmortelle

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Have you ever been kicked while your down? I want to give up... my ex just left about two weeks ago and moved in with my now ex best friend- I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant, in the middle of moving, barley making enough to keep gas in my car.. well that doesn't matter anymore. Some jack ass mother fucker pulls out in front of me making an illegal left turn and i nail him at about 35-40 mph. My car is totaled, and no one got a ticket because he's a retired police officer. I do nto knwo what to do next. WTF?

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 2:32:44 PM

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What to do next? Call your insurance company and replace your car.

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 2:34:38 PM

Lairaimmortelle

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I didn't get a ticket, that's teh thing, neither did he.

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 2:39:43 PM

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I hope that the baby made it through ok?

Just remember there is always someone worse off than you out there even if it is hard to see right now.
Do you at least have somewhere to move to?

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 2:42:32 PM

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As my Nana would say "Pick yourself up by the bootstraps"

I'm sorry you are in such a hard time, a couple of years ago it seemed as though my whole life was falling apart. My then Dom made me drive to Maryland to get His check, although He knew I was sleep deprived. I totaled my car (and three others). Yes, maybe I should have told Him I needed a nap...but whatever. He didn't even come to the hospital to see me, and ended up kicking me out of His house less than 2 months later. I, too, was struggling just to keep enough gas in my car to make it back and forth to work and school.

Although it was a really shitty time, it made me stronger. The best advice I can give anyone is to take a few moments, let yourself get the emotions out, and then stop and get back to life. Nothing will get better if you don't push yourself as hard as you can. There are agencies if you need medical care, or money for your child. Try WIC, they tend to give out the main staples needed for both mother and child. Call the insurance company, and see how much you can get for your car...perhaps try and find one for less than that and use the rest of the money to help you move forward. Depending on your work, they may have an employee assistance program that can help you with a multitude of isses including financial and finding a counselor.

Oh, and ignore jackasses. They only make the situation worse.

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 3:54:46 PM

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try to relax. easier said then done. I hope things improve.

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 4:10:04 PM

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I know how you feel. I'm in the midst of a nasty situation right now myself, so you're not alone. Here's hoping things improve drastically for all who are suffering these days ~HUG~

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 6:49:19 PM

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Getting or not getting a ticket is not the means to the end with insurance. File a claim with their insurance company too, if you had the right of way on the road and the other made an unsafe turn, they are liable. A ticket isnt they only way to win a claim on liability. Your likely to get a quicker return if you file directly with their insurance co, and in the case its a older car and you dont have comp and collision coverage. Be ready with at least 3 seperate estimates. As an ex adjuster it would be an open and shut case if their driver turned with oncoming traffic. IF the estimates are reasonable they will settle, it its over the value of your vehicle they will work up a total loss, so do your homework on your car value. If they are at fault they should furnish you with a rental vehicle. I would ask for one if you report directly to their company.

Hope this helps.

Stiffen your spine even if you dont feel you can because all in all life could get worse. Even when you think your down at the bottom, grap the rope and dont let life beat ya.

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RE: when is enough enough? - 10/12/2008 7:52:30 PM

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Life has taught me that sometimes it really sucks, then it gets worse.
( this is not meant to sound like a pity party either, it get's better too )
First thing you need to secure is a place to live that will work for a semi long term. (think year or more)
Then job, figure out how you get back and forth daily, do not quit working.
Call insurance company, file claim, let them handle it, they may need pushed a little, do it.
Now breath....................
Your baking a UM, no Daddy I'm assuming? Life is going to change A LOT.
Think of Me as another `mother`. You have to make good life choices, it's hard, it's no fun and it's a lot of damn work.
Your going to want to quit .... often.
Will you be keeping this UM or is adoption an option?
Many, many things to decide.
I dont mean to piss you off, but it's time to grow up, stand on your own two feet and tough it out.
My suggestion is to grow the integrity you'd want in a Dominant, even Subs can be respected if you choose wisely.
What ever you have to offer once your through all this will be worth it's weight in gold.

I wish you well.

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