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leakylee -> real time community. (9/22/2008 6:45:34 PM)
now i guess that ever since i got into the lifestyle up and around the Pitts. i have been really lucky in the avaibility of the local community. when i was up north, it seemed like there was a munch nearly every weekend of the month somewhere in the Tri-State area. i didnt take advantage of them. listened to the 'oh god the drama speach'.. pfft.. having come home, it is more previlant. i mean within an hour, hour and 15 minutes. i can hit 3 huge munches on three different weekends. that isnt counting the Daddy/babbygirl munch that has started recently. the 3 smaller groups here in Orlando that are 35 and under. the Poly group, the MaST Group in Jax, the WOLF gourp, the local Bear community here in Orlando. it also isnt taking into the account the Daytona Munch, or anything going on in Tampa. when you start factoring in the special weekend events that happen here at the Shed, it is alot to take in. really to much to do in most months. i know i have been trying to make the VIPER meeting in St Augustine ever since July. ok so my rambling done. i think we are incredibly lucky here in Central and South FL. we do have places to meet and to learn. if the public and local scene is for you. my question comes for those of you that do have a vibrant active community does it make an impact in your life? for those of you that dont have the access, do you think it minuses something from your individual lifestyle experience? this really wasnt meant as a whoring.. a honest interest. thank you smooches lee

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: real time community. (9/22/2008 7:06:37 PM)
I get a lot out of being involved in the local community. If it weren't for the community, I may not have had the opportunity to explore some of the things that other members of our household weren't into. I've learned a lot, and had an opportunity to share a lot, through being involved in the local scene, and, despite the occasional drama and the occasional need to let the "Introvert" in my INTJ have a bit of rein, I am actually glad to have the scene that we have. Calla Firestorm

VivaciousSub -> RE: real time community. (9/22/2008 10:53:09 PM)
I haven't, until now, had the opportunity to participate in the local scene. But now that I'm close to Lee, Greedy and others, I sure as hell am planning on doing so! They're great people and I'm thrilled they're local.

leakylee -> RE: real time community. (9/22/2008 11:57:59 PM)
yes yes, like i said we have our monthly meetings on world domination schemes. you think we have earned the collective title of subby brigand because we are all sweet and cheerful and helpful or something. perish the thought. that is just to lull them into compliance. we even have special shirts!! hehe lee hijacked my own thread..

leakylee -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 12:05:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW I get a lot out of being involved in the local community. If it weren't for the community, I may not have had the opportunity to explore some of the things that other members of our household weren't into. I've learned a lot, and had an opportunity to share a lot, through being involved in the local scene, and, despite the occasional drama and the occasional need to let the "Introvert" in my INTJ have a bit of rein, I am actually glad to have the scene that we have. Calla Firestorm oh i can soo understand this one. i mean with fits in so many areas to mesh up, the S&M can be tricky. with the opprotunity at your back door, that isnt near as much of an issue if some of your kinks make your partner/partners, just say nuh huh!! personally it works great on either side of the slash. thank you so much for pointing that out. i totally had forgotten about it. smooches lee

DMFParadox -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 4:52:34 AM)
Honestly, the few munches I've attended here in Tampa didn't do much for me. I think that I should probably get more involved in the community, or in a community, if only to avoid the Plastic Bubble Relationships Of Doom, where you get so wrapped up in each other that you lose perspective; but the 'groups' around here don't feel like much of a peer group, so much as a bunch of awkward moments with people 10-20 years older than me. No offense Lee, I'm sure you are cool people, but I don't think you were there those nights I went, so I didn't benefit from that. That said, I DEFINITELY will be attending Masquerade in october, at Chambers. I know for sure that it won't be awkward so much as it will be AWESOME. I'll ask around there for where the action is, I think.

leakylee -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 3:18:31 PM)
i have had the pleasure of meeting the Chambers staff. they have been up at the munch and the Shed a couple of times. really great people. i havent had a chance to get down there. i know i wanna.. hehe.. the Masquerade sounds incredible. you know i wonder if part of it is finding those friends and people that you manage to click with. that you are able to find your comfort with. i dont knows if that weighs into things or not. it sounds like you are going to enjoy next month. cool thank you and smooches lee

persephonee -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 3:44:45 PM)
FR Fla sounds like the place to be lately...all the kinksters that i hit on mercilessly are from there and from the list of public things to do i would be a very busy girl indeed. Personally for now i like my little pond. im within a stones throw of Manhattan so if the water in the pond here got muddied i could easily hop the train and viola im a stranger again...a newbie...blinkblink. Just dont spend too much time examining my marks from the cuttings and piercings and beatings oh my. The suspension of disbelief is a marvelous invention. My friend in Nebraska has a great local community and is involved, but really once a month in a hotel conference room with portable equipment is not the same as having a steady homebase dungeon....to augment the private parties etc. NELA is great for demos and other forms of continuing education...the big Flea is out here...blahblahblah. She feels kind of jealous that i have more opportunities than she and i keep trying to get them to come out and visit.... i could go broke attending every single event out here but Florida sounds like a great place to go...especially if im at risk of running into Greedy...hehe. i love my community...warts and all. im not going anywhere. im here to stay.

silkncarol -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 3:52:07 PM)
As lee has stated, here in Florida we're lucky to have an active community and over the years attending munches, classes, events and clubs has added to my life in so many ways. It has added knowledge on different levels and has helped me find and define my own path in the Lifestyle. Probably the thing i am most greatful for is that i have met some wonderful people along the way....some as acquaintances, but so many as dear loving friends who have enriched my life in and out of the Lifestyle. quote: ORIGINAL: leakylee my question comes for those of you that do have a vibrant active community does it make an impact in your life? for those of you that dont have the access, do you think it minuses something from your individual lifestyle experience?

DesFIP -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 4:18:49 PM)
I've got a two hour drive either to NYC or to Albany, NY. There's no way I can do a two hour drive, two hour meeting, and two hour drive home without coming back stressed out, and without suffering from sleep deprivation the next day. Can't tell you if I'm missing anything, because I've never had an opportunity to go to one. For a while there was someone trying to start a munch a mere hour away, but I don't think he ever got it off the ground.

kyraofMists -> RE: real time community. (9/23/2008 8:00:45 PM)
We live about 5 hours from any regular munches and play parties and it does not really detract from our life much at all. We are very family orientated and much of our time is spent doing things for/with the family and the house. The three of us are introverted to varying degrees, so parties and socializing is not something we want on a regular basis. He does make the time for us to go to play parties every now and then, but we have a home dungeon so it isn't really needed for SM. We enjoy interacting with people who have similar interests as we do on a limited basis. For the most part, reading and posting to the boards and interacting in private email with people we have met from here satisfies our desires. When he wants more face to face interaction then he tends to take us to large weekend events. Knight's Kyra

Jeptha -> RE: real time community. (9/24/2008 7:43:42 PM)
I've been to munches a couple or three times, and though the few people I spoke to were pretty nice, I didn't feel much of a connection to the scene generally. Maybe part of that is the restaurant setting. It just doesn't feel quite right to me to waltz on over to stranger's tables to mingle and chat. At a party I can do that reasonably well, but at a restaurant it seems more intrusive, or something, I don't know. There was no group discussion or other organization at the munch I went to; just walk in and ask some strangers if you can join them at their table. Like I said; it was ok, and they were nice enough, but it just isn't my thing. I do appreciate the classes and workshops that the local community puts on and supports, though.

angelslave77 -> RE: real time community. (9/24/2008 8:50:40 PM)
Finding fellow kinsters is hit and miss here, they exist and I am contact with many, but trying to get everyone together is a huge challenge because it is a small town (and even smaller minded) and word travels fast ....people worry about their reputations. The biggest local scenes are around 4 and 6 hours away and well worth the trip, but not easy for Sir and I to get to given our other commitments. Sometimes I feel we are missing out because we are still in the learning stages it would be nice to be around others we can learn from bit we do the best with what we have, we use the net, we experiment and we have the wonderful maamjay as a mentor

DomDolf -> RE: real time community. (9/24/2008 9:29:34 PM)
The local community is not as "local" as I would like it. I used to live in NJ and there was a lot of community in the tr-state area as you know. Here there is some, but nothing I have found great interest in. I used to go to the Orlando munch about six years ago but then I moved an hour further south. This would make my trip 2.5 hours in each direction. I need to get up there to the "Shed." I understand an old friend of mine is up there stirring the local pot! C is a good man. I do miss the interaction and feel less connected than I'd like to. Now I miss O town and Jersey! Dolf

tia111 -> RE: real time community. (9/24/2008 9:53:54 PM)
My local group is pretty active for a smallisher city. I am very lucky because it has given me the opportunity to see things that i thought "i want to try that" and some things i thought "i am not interested in having that done to me". Either way i was grateful for the opportunity to see it. I love the local munches as they are a chance to visit with everyone.

persephonee -> RE: real time community. (9/24/2008 10:01:19 PM)
~Another Fast Reply~ As the new girl in this community, i would have never met anyone at all in real life without our local community..the munches and demos and the club. i think back to how i felt as a youngster of 23 when i decided to admit that i was a lesbian...and how lonely i was for a while before i realized that if i were gay so probably were a few other girls...and got out there and forced myself to socialize. When i read kyras post and others about how they are family oriented and dont really get out much...i feel all warm and fuzzy and i cant wait until thats me...nestled cozily in my family's arms... But when youre single and looking for the other side of your personal slash, getting out and playing and socializing is one way to do it...and to me, your odds are better in person as you can use your gut reaction to help you decide if this could be the person you want to get to know. If not for the support of some experienced friendly and ethical members of my community, i could easily have given up and gone home...or been horribly hurt or emotionally crushed. No matter where i am in my life next year...and all the years after, i can always dial the knob back to 2008 and find my heart.

Alumbrado -> RE: real time community. (9/25/2008 6:13:31 PM)
My time in Memphis has been enriched immeasurably by the local community, I've found good friends, a social circle, playmates and more, seen and done things that just flat out aren't going to work in the spare bedroom, and been to many wonderful events. Nothing is perfect, and it isn't the be all and end all of my entire life, but I've enjoyed it a lot so far.

daddysliloneds -> RE: real time community. (9/25/2008 6:28:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leakylee my question comes for those of you that do have a vibrant active community does it make an impact in your life? for those of you that dont have the access, do you think it minuses something from your individual lifestyle experience? how could something impact my life negatively if it was never desired to be a part of my life?

possessedone -> RE: real time community. (9/25/2008 6:39:16 PM)
Before i met Master, i didn't know a "community" existed. Since i have been owned by him, he has "forced" me to attend social functions with him. i can honestly say that i have met some wonderful people and learned much from them.

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