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I'm new and need help - 9/17/2008 7:57:14 AM

steelman1

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Hi everyone, I just got invovled with BDSM and want to go from curiousty to much more. But I am having trouble meeting women to chat with. Is it my profile, my messages?

Can anyone give any tips or crticism for a rookie to make it in this lifestyle and on this site?

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RE: I'm new and need help - 9/17/2008 8:46:55 AM

CalifChick

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You're 21, you're a male submissive, and you're... well... 21 and a male submissive.

The profile? Kinda lacking. You want to capture their attention, not tell them in your journal it's empty because you want them to ask for more info. There is nothing there that inspires me to ask for more.

Our good friend Stephann wrote a little piece about how to find a woman. You can find it by clicking here.

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RE: I'm new and need help - 9/17/2008 9:15:36 AM

KCherry

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Welcome. As Cali said, your age works agains't you. Being that we are the same age I can say that you have to work twice as hard to gain the same amount of respect from most people. The fact that your profile is totally empty isnt going to earn you any brownie points. Try adding something in there about who you are and what you are looking for.

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RE: I'm new and need help - 9/17/2008 1:07:28 PM

steelman1

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Ok, I took some of your advice. And since my age is working against me, I will just to work that much harder to get attention, I am eager to impress. So check out my revised profiile and tell me what you think. Any other tips anyone can provide is greatly appreicated.

Thanks guys, your awesome!

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RE: I'm new and need help - 9/17/2008 2:50:18 PM

monywildcat

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Okay, I caught your profile after you made the changes. Now, I know that you said you want women to ask you for a picture, but my main suggestion would be to include a picture anyway of this fresh meat that you refer to.

AND NO I didn't mean a cock shot! lol Just a face shot would do nicely, I think. I'm just sayin', is all. And initiating contact as well wouldn't be a bad idea. The worst you can hear is "no thanks" right?

I wish you much luck finding what you are looking for!

< Message edited by monywildcat -- 9/17/2008 2:52:22 PM >

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RE: I'm new and need help - 9/17/2008 10:42:58 PM

monywildcat

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See? Nice pic! Ya'll look happy! But wait...

Which one is you? THAT question may spark some interest. Hope you get some bites!

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RE: I'm new and need help - 9/18/2008 11:21:00 AM

Deliena

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You've had some great advice, Stephan's post on how to meet women is awesome. My other piece of advice is do a search for other males like yourself and read some of your competition, think about how you would respond to what they write and perhaps that will trigger some ideas for self improvement.

Best of luck in your search and welcome to CM.

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