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MischiefSF -> Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 2:22:28 AM)
Way under-rated as far as I am concerned. But then again, it's my favorite. It seems generally from my experience that in the BDSM community there is a skew towards Sadomasochism and flashy bondage. Prove me wrong and shout out for sensual D/s!!

Sunnyfey -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 2:38:04 AM)
whats sensual for you may not be sensual for everyone else, what sensual dominance to you may be boring to others. Frankly I think cutting is very sensual, bondage even that "flashy" stuff is extreamly sensual, as with flogging and such like. there been no death of sensual D/s, its not even under the weather. besides pokeing me with a feather and tieing me up with silk only means i get itchy and ruin a good scarf.

catize -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 2:56:01 AM)
I don’t see where they are mutually exclusive. S+M is sometimes referred to as sensation play; I can’t speak for anyone else but I find a good whipping/caning/flogging to be quite sensual. The same holds true for bondage; the texture of rope, the smell of leather, the bite of metal are all physically arousing to me. I have also been the happy ‘victim’ of sensual torture, all he used was a piece of silk cloth. R. juxtaposes tender massaging touch with the sting of whatever instrument he is using at the time; when that is done I get to touch him, kiss him, from head to toe. S. is not quite as touchy/feely, but he often takes me to dinner and I find great food and drink and lively conversation to be sensual also. There is something very sexual about sharing a dessert while I’m still feeling floaty from sub-space! It’s all intensely corporeal for me.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 3:01:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MischiefSF Way under-rated as far as I am concerned. But then again, it's my favorite. It seems generally from my experience that in the BDSM community there is a skew towards Sadomasochism and flashy bondage. Prove me wrong and shout out for sensual D/s!! Personally I find pony play very, very sensual. O/other won't, but as the saying goes "it takes all sorts". Horses for courses and all that (no pun intended).

pompeii -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 3:28:37 AM)
Sensual D/s, I define, as BDSM only in the boudoir as a form of foreplay, generally timed to precede mutual orgasm and likely disappearing as soon as the bedroom door is opened to the outside world. The opposite, in my definition, of sensual D/s would be 24/7 lifestyle D/s play.

RCdc -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 3:55:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MischiefSF Way under-rated as far as I am concerned. But then again, it's my favorite. It seems generally from my experience that in the BDSM community there is a skew towards Sadomasochism and flashy bondage. Prove me wrong and shout out for sensual D/s!! The problem you are going to encounter, Mischief, is that unless you define what you mean by sensual D/s, you are going to come up against the usual. I am going to take a guess from your statement that you are speaking of non BDSM practises(well duh). Yeah they rock. But then pretty much all that Darcy and I create together does, because we commit them together and for each other and because we rock at what we do. I believe that anything can be sensual providing you are in relationship(s) with someone compatable. the.dark.

eyesopened -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 4:10:45 AM)
First munch I ever attended the subbies were all gushing about pain this hurt that pain pain pain to the point where I wondered if that was all there was, was there a place for me, someone who is not a masochist. When I found a play partner I discovered that in the normal course of things, many other sensations were offered. Hot, cold, hard, soft, easy, intense, thud, sting, sweet, sour. It encompassed sight, sound, smell and taste, not just tactile sensations. Pain and torture is more interesting to talk about than bunny fur and hot wax, but that doesn't mean sensual D/s is underrated. I would suspect most couples include some sensual play as part of their overall repertoire.

chamberqueen -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 6:27:59 AM)
I found the post amusing because I often have people ask me why so much of BDSM seems based on sex. My personal preference is mental play when I am working with a sub. The wonderful thing about it is that the people in each relationship can choose what is most pleasing and fulfilling to them.

natasha66 -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 6:32:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened First munch I ever attended the subbies were all gushing about pain this hurt that pain pain pain to the point where I wondered if that was all there was, was there a place for me, someone who is not a masochist. When I found a play partner I discovered that in the normal course of things, many other sensations were offered. Hot, cold, hard, soft, easy, intense, thud, sting, sweet, sour. It encompassed sight, sound, smell and taste, not just tactile sensations. Pain and torture is more interesting to talk about than bunny fur and hot wax, but that doesn't mean sensual D/s is underrated. I would suspect most couples include some sensual play as part of their overall repertoire. For me, pain is a part of this, but i can't and won't live without the everyday hugging, etc. Been there done that. There is nothing so comforting as being held after a good belting.

OttersSwim -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 7:25:18 AM)
I don't see that pain is exclusive of sensuality at all. Still new and all, but last night I got spanked over Her lap till tears flowed, and all the while Her other hand was caressing my body and playing with the plug in my ass, while Her voice led me along with praise and encouragement... And providing oral pleasure while your bottom is just on fire is just the BEST.. Heh, my first wank post....is it hot in here? Two naked bodies, a plug, and a paddle...a totally sensual experience, at least for us. [:)]

softpjOS -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 10:19:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MischiefSF Way under-rated as far as I am concerned. But then again, it's my favorite. It seems generally from my experience that in the BDSM community there is a skew towards Sadomasochism and flashy bondage. Prove me wrong and shout out for sensual D/s!! The Sensual aspect of D/s comes from the chemisty between the people involved. Between some couples it may be seen during a bondage scene, with others it will be observed in service....

leadership527 -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 10:43:20 AM)
Well, I'm not sure what is meant by "sensual". But I use the authority I have in our relationship for the purpose of building love, not sex. It seems to me that everyone is going to take the dynamic as a tool then make of it what they will... be it hot sweaty SM based sex or a Taken in Hand style marriage or whatever else they may happen to want beyond just the simple dynamic itself.

MischiefSF -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/17/2008 11:13:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened First munch I ever attended the subbies were all gushing about pain this hurt that pain pain pain to the point where I wondered if that was all there was, was there a place for me, someone who is not a masochist. When I found a play partner I discovered that in the normal course of things, many other sensations were offered. Hot, cold, hard, soft, easy, intense, thud, sting, sweet, sour. It encompassed sight, sound, smell and taste, not just tactile sensations. Pain and torture is more interesting to talk about than bunny fur and hot wax, but that doesn't mean sensual D/s is underrated. I would suspect most couples include some sensual play as part of their overall repertoire. Bingo. My apologies for not being clearer. I consider sensual D/s play to definitely be BDSM, and for me it definitely doesn't stop when the bedroom doors close. That said however, erotic submission is definitely (for me) at the core of my definition. Being given orders, restrained, teased, pet, collared, interrogated, orgasm control, worship, service, etc. Essentially D/s that is focused on pleasure as opposed to pain would be a good way to sum it up. I recognize that for some people that distinction is meaningless; pleasure and pain are closely linked for them. This is not the case for everyone. Also, BDSM without relationship intimacy has never personally appealed to me; I find my submission to be one of the most romantic and intimate parts of myself, and my desire to surrender to someone is fueled by my love for them. That does not make someone vanilla; I can see myself in a 24/7 situation with a sensual Domme without a doubt. Specifically regarding my statement that this type of play is under-rated: nearly every workshop seems centered around pain techniques, and play parties are filled with folks looking for a public place to play out SM scenes. Maybe I have misunderstood what I have heard/experienced, but it seems to me like there is an elitist sentiment that pain play is somehow better, more real, more BDSM than play that doesn't involve pain. Thanks everyone for responding thus far. I appreciate the what was said about pain play being sensual for many; it makes a lot of sense. Perhaps someone has a better term to describe non SM play that is D/s?

brokenmind -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 6:11:49 PM)
Wrapping my hand in her hair tighter and tighter until my knuckles grind into the nape of her neck then yanking her head to the side and laying my teeth into the soft flesh… inch by inch biting my way up. Breathing heavy hot breath in her ear and then taking her lips to mine… forcing her teeth apart with my tongue as my free hand buries nails in her ass making her tiptoe against the predicament. -- some call that sensual D/s and others call it prom night.

KnightofMists -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 6:24:05 PM)
I am a sensual sadist!!!

MsMillgrove -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 6:38:58 PM)
My sub and I have a fascination with language, we're very attuned to each other's words/phrases. We have so many in-jokes that we have to be cautious in company not to confuse the others. Most of our in-jokes require long involved explanations that leave the listener dumb-founded and sorry they ever asked. They're not the least bit funny to anyone else either. We know what excites the other and carefully time lots of unexpected treats for each other. Often, we flash the same thought. Intense daily diaries and photos of our times together allow us to share our lives and make memories. I think of these things as sensual d/s. edited to reflect... (in reply to OP.. still haven't figured out how this "reply to" function works.)

DesFIP -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 6:55:36 PM)
There isn't much to see in a public scene involving a bottom, a blindfold and various pieces of differently textured cloth. The bottom will certainly melt during this if she's wired for this, the top will certainly be gaining energy from his partner's reactions but a bystander is likely to be bored since there isn't anything to see. Same goes with discussions about it. What can you say? I was blindfolded and slowly touched with various things and then I had a series of amazing orgasms? Yes, it works for the people involved but there isn't anything there to bring about a heated discussion. The stuff that gathers attention either in person or in discussions is the flashy stuff. People simply are attracted to flash.

brat4fun -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 7:12:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brokenmind Wrapping my hand in her hair tighter and tighter until my knuckles grind into the nape of her neck then yanking her head to the side and laying my teeth into the soft flesh… inch by inch biting my way up. Breathing heavy hot breath in her ear and then taking her lips to mine… forcing her teeth apart with my tongue as my free hand buries nails in her ass making her tiptoe against the predicament. -- some call that sensual D/s and others call it prom night. And some call it a good idea to pass along to Sir! melt (Sorry for the hijack!) lil Aidan

leakylee -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 7:31:04 PM)
the PERFECT combination!! sensual can range from toturing me with a violet wand, to lulling me into a loving cacoon. it all fits. alot just depends on the people, the time, and the moment. smooches lee

tazzygirl -> RE: Sensual D/s (9/18/2008 9:51:18 PM)
i find it extremely sensual to kneel at a man's feet... to get him a cup of coffee or dinner.. to clean his house, cook his meals... whatever he may desire i also find it extremely sensual to find myself face down on his bed, one hand in my hair, the other holding a cane also when he lips are tender, his hands softly caressing ~sighs softly with a grin~

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