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OttersSwim -> Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 10:37:40 AM)

"My father says that almost the whole world is asleep.
Everybody you know. Everybody you see. Everybody you talk to.
He says that only a few people are awake and they live in a state of constant total amazement."

This is a quote from Joe vs. the Volcano and is one of my favorite life quotes.

I am coming to believe that active participation in BDSM can really contribute to a person being "awake" and seeing and experiencing the world in ways that most never will.  It approaches and even pushes edges on both sides and can (in my still very newbie opinion) be a very stimulating factor in a person's life contributing to that clear eyed sense of the world and how wonderful it all is and can be.

Or maybe it's just the NRE...  [:D]

I also believe very much in the Thoreau saying:

Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.

So do you agree?

How has BDSM aided you in living your life fully "awake" and "singing your song"?
Think back to your life before BDSM...how are you different now...how are you better?
And is it still there for you, or has it subsided with time and have you sunk back into slumber with it?



velvetears -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 10:44:07 AM)

Being "awake", as your quote illustrates, means being fully engaged in the moment, living every second of it and with all your senses soaking up everything around you.  i don't think people into bdsm have the corner market on that aspect of life.  Find your passion in life, find a cause you believe in, fall in love, suffer a tradgety where you almost lost someone or something dear to you, give birth to a child, (list is endless) and life tends to take on a clarity it did not have before.  



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 10:56:22 AM)

Is this what they mean by subfrenzy?

Glad you are having fun, OttersSwim!  It's been a long time since I felt that excited about pretty much anything.



persephonee -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 11:13:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Is this what they mean by subfrenzy?

Glad you are having fun, OttersSwim!  It's been a long time since I felt that excited about pretty much anything.


Lady H~

Awww....comeon...even someone so long lived in the community can surely appreciate how her life has been forever changed by WIITWD....please?? If thats an honest assessment of how you are viewing your life lately, i hope its temporary and brought on by some passing issue in your life.

i can not possibly be in sub frenzy...i dont have the stamina...im old. But i can see where my perception of things in life is more crisp, bright this year. But then, coming from the stance that i held and still hold of being as true to myself as i can possibly be, and coming from the gay community into this one, i have been living an open book sort of life for a long while. It changes a person to be out about themselves and to face the risk of being somehow ostracised or punished for what or who or how they believe. Even if someone is only out and proud on the boards or something, at least for that time a person is being true to themselves.

So in answer to otter...yes, i can see clearly now, the rain has gone.

i have an active social life, tons of new friends to explore and explore with, new avenues for learning and growth online and RT, examples of success both here on these boards and in RT. i can see others...like coworkers...who are unhappy and bored and i just know that if only they would snap out of it for a moment, they would see brighter colors, imagine impossible things and be hopeful....On a bad day, i look at them and think of their dire need for some good old fashioned OTK...and that just sparks a whole new set of thoughts into motion that brightens my day again.

Come to find out....grass is greener over here...and its not the psychadelics.



OttersSwim -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 11:14:00 AM)

Without doubt, LadyHibiscus, I am a bit of a freak right now and I hope you all will be patient with me as I do the "Gosh", "Golly" and "Jeepers" dance for the next weeks/months/...hopefully years!  This experience is among the most profound things I have yet encountered.  It is just so right for me.

I wish for you all of the excitement and energy I am feeling right now.  It is heady and I appear to have plenty to spare!  [;)]



badlilthang -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 11:23:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

Without doubt, LadyHibiscus, I am a bit of a freak right now and I hope you all will be patient with me as I do the "Gosh", "Golly" and "Jeepers" dance for the next weeks/months/...hopefully years!  This experience is among the most profound things I have yet encountered.  It is just so right for me.

I wish for you all of the excitement and energy I am feeling right now.  It is heady and I appear to have plenty to spare!  [;)]



Just seeing your posts make me smile big....*L*....so go on with the "Gosh" and "Golly" and "Jeeepers"...hell...if bad moods are rubbing off...i am very sure such a sunshiney attitude you show here - will rub off on us...and i hope - a lot....we need more smiles in the world***



Dnomyar -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 11:24:40 AM)

Mmmm LH why don't I believe that.



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 11:28:19 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

So do you agree?

How has BDSM aided you in living your life fully "awake" and "singing your song"?
Think back to your life before BDSM...how are you different now...how are you better?
And is it still there for you, or has it subsided with time and have you sunk back into slumber with it?



I've lived my entire life 'awake'. It has been both the most amazing and the most challenging experience I can imagine. Being awake has resulted in asking the 'wrong' questions, and living the 'wrong' goals -- I have lived on the fringes of "polite society", and yet have never wanted for friendship, companionship, and have even thrived in the mainstream world.

Being awake is living. It is being genuinely oneself, without apology, and without anxiety. It is accepting fear as the beloved sister of challenge and risk, and embracing all three as you embrace your own freedom and seek out your greatest potential.

BDSM does not encompass my 'awakeness' and awareness, but it is part of my expression of my genuine self, and so it is integral to my life. It allows me to express things that would be more difficult to express in the mainstream... not impossible, but more difficult. For me, it is a pleasant choice of my awareness to have this option.

Calla Firestorm




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 11:28:56 AM)

Awww, I am not meaning to be a downer!!  Otter, I am really glad for you, I remember when things were shiny new and exciting!!  Feel free to share, I AM enjoying it---and honestly, I cannot imagine my life without kink.  I would sooner give up......CHEESE!!!

(Well maybe not ALL cheese....  maybe just the hard cheeses, like caciocavallo.  But you get what I mean!)



CreativeDominant -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 12:23:33 PM)

My life has been a state of constant amazement ever since I noticed that girls were different than guys.

I always tell my female ums that the crease that runs down the middle of my forehead is from dealing with them and the other women in my life...you know, because of that constant state of going "Huhhhhhhhhhhhhhh????" when trying to figure their views on things.  [;)]

Yes, BDSM has awakened me to certain things within myself, just as D/s has.  In fewer ways, it has made me more observant of the world at large but the world itself...if you pay attention...will do a pretty good job of keeping you amazed on many levels.



OttersSwim -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 1:19:22 PM)

mmm...you make me hungry with all this talk of cheese!  I love it!

Calla, your description is poetic. :)



DesFIP -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 1:51:12 PM)

No, it's just the newness doing it to you. Nobody lives 24/7 totally immersed in the wonder of living. If you did, you wouldn't get anything else done. When I write out a grocery list, I'm not totally amazed by the fact that milk exists, I just write down milk, cream cheese, chicken tenders etc. There is nothing awesome about it, nor would I want there to be.

The moments when things are wonderful and precious mean that much because they do stand out from the mundane. If I was awestruck all the time, nothing in particular would capture my heart. When things do, they are special. And just as much as I have wonderful d/s moments to treasure, I equally treasure us laughing while playing miniature golf claiming that each other was cheating (we had a weird several games where the scorekeeper always won), just as much as I treasure one moment last week when getting my son on the bus I suddenly needed to hug him because he's almost grown up.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 2:04:00 PM)

I understand where you are coming from - i am there myself. After being in the life with my Sir for 2 1/2 years, there are times when i look at my Sir with grateful amazement - still reeling from the idea that i can live with a man and be so happy!

And i am still having the times when i walk outside and see Orion in the sky and gave a quiet celestial moment!  Wow - if i keep having "moments" I'll be gee golly wizz myself - and have Sir look at me with bemusement in his face.  [:D]



LadyPact -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 2:40:26 PM)

I always enjoy reading things like this.  Who doesn't remember seeing the world  with new eyes?

I'm not sure I agree with the movie quote however.  I think that a lot of people see things this way on various interests.  For us, it just happens to be BDSM.  That's kind of why we're all here.  Still, there are other things out there that can bring on this same feeling for other people.  I've said it numerous times on these boards.  I'll bet that people who are skydiving enthusiasts think the rest of us are missing out on the best part of life.  That we'll never know the thrill of the jump.  Never experience the things they feel and the views they see.  The rest of us just don't know what we're missing.  The thing is, in their eyes, they are absolutely right.

It's the same for a lot of things.  Whether that's BDSM, or skydiving, or raising um's, or how the world looks entirely different when riding the back of a horse.  I think a lot of people have something in their life that make them feel like they are really living.  At least, I hope they do.  No, they probably won't hold on to that  height of excitement in every waking moment of every single day, but it's still in there.  It's that thing that makes all of the other mundane, day to day tasks in life worthwhile.

All I can say is, whatever that thing is for you, live it to the fullest.   Take the opportunities to have those moments of fascination and wonder, and really enjoy every sensation connected with them.  Whatever it is that opens your eyes, makes your heart beat, and speaks to your soul, allow yourself to seize the day.  At some point in life, when there are more days behind you than you have in front of you, I think you'll be glad you did.




pinnipedster -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 2:43:23 PM)

"It is not death that a man should fear; but he should fear never beginning to live." 
--Marcus Aurelius



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 3:49:05 PM)

I prefer the Auntie Mame version- Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death.  Does NRE change over time?  Yes.  Will you be in the same place in the same way in five years as you are now?  Hopefully not.  But further up and farther in does not mean numbness- there is massive joy and delight to be found in the everyday.



daddysliloneds -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 5:08:55 PM)

i would never attribute bdsm for my constant and total amazement with life and the things around me; i would attribute stupidity of others for most of it, though[;)]

i tend to look at things with the wild-eyed wonder of a child, and that fact, in an of itself is what keeps me constantly and totally amazed and being able to live my life fully awake.



azropedntied -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 5:12:33 PM)

otter enjoy the ride ! ^ 5 



awakenednj -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 5:21:49 PM)

2 things woke me up the idea that life is good. The first was my daughters birth. Suddenly there was a joy I had never thought possible. For 10 months I was happy with myself, my life and my daughter just as it was. This was the first time in my life I could ever say that.

And then another unexpected joy. Master found me. Showed me why I had been searching so hard.. and that nothing was wrong with me, I was just looking in the wrong places. And he cares for me.. .He just does... in a way that is totally foreign and exactly how I needed

3 years ago I firmly believed that there was no such thing as joy or love.. at least I wasn't allowed any. Now I know so much of both that I think I'll overflow. Total constant amazement? Yes. That I am alive and happy to be so. That I am cared for, and am capable of caring for another. I've got leftovers.. and a lot of fear... but I am alive to feel it.



natasha66 -> RE: Constant Total Amazement... (9/15/2008 6:32:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinnipedster

"It is not death that a man should fear; but he should fear never beginning to live." 
--Marcus Aurelius


Agreed.



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