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candystripper -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 3:37:21 PM)
Life without laughter would be unbearable. And laughter in bed is the very best! candystripper [sm=pole.gif]

TysGalilah -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 3:39:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper Life without laughter would be unbearable. And laughter in bed is the very best! candystripper [sm=pole.gif] laughter in bed is the very best! Oh ya..I agree....I love that casual playful comfortable laughter in bed...

littlesarbonn -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 3:40:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper Life without laughter would be unbearable. And laughter in bed is the very best! candystripper [sm=pole.gif] I agree, but I wish they'd stop laughing RIGHT AFTER I remove my clothes.

TysGalilah -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 3:49:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper Life without laughter would be unbearable. And laughter in bed is the very best! candystripper [sm=pole.gif] I agree, but I wish they'd stop laughing RIGHT AFTER I remove my clothes. teehee was thinkin' that but didn't say/type it

whiteslavebitch -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 5:04:33 PM)
I have been accused of being too serious in the past, however, humor is very important to me. I could not be in a LTR that did not allow for laughs when appropriate. We both joke around with each other, without it turning disrespectful. We laugh together frequently. None of this has anything to do with the depth of my submission, or the respect I have for MasterK.

DesFIP -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 6:06:03 PM)
Life is rough enough that if you can't be comfortable and laugh with people, then you probably don't love them. And for me, love, a full and abiding love, is essential in the relationship. Besides, if he's having a bad day and I make him laugh, then why isn't that helping him just as much as getting him lunch or rubbing his feet would be? He's a full human being and that means he enjoys laughing too.

Skyfire -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 6:21:20 PM)
Laughter is a wonderful thing, unless it is accompanied by pointing. :) I have seen couples go as far as to dress up as clowns and beat their bottoms with rubber chickens. I have also seen couples that never smile, and communicate with signals and numbers. I could not live like that, but I am a huge goofball. For the OP, I am more disgusted by the way this woman asserted her opinion as the "only way" I would have thanked her for her opinion and then ignored everything she said from that day forward. Your relationship is no one's business but your own. I have also been part of an old school group of dominants, and her behavior would have been looked down upon. If she had a problem she should have brought it to your mistress as protocol dictates. So the next time someone tells you how you should be behaving, refer them to your mistress, and watch them shut up very quickly.

lronitulstahp -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 6:21:45 PM)
According to Some "in the know", i can be a bit silly...and that seems to be a good thing. Who knew?

DarkSteven -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 6:22:39 PM)
Actually, I have wondered about that. I've heard stories of humorless Doms and Tops. But here on CM there seems to be a healthy sense of humor. I once stated in a chat room that I punished my sub by tying her up and then telling her jokes and leaving off the punch lines.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 6:44:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Actually, I have wondered about that. I've heard stories of humorless Doms and Tops. But here on CM there seems to be a healthy sense of humor. I once stated in a chat room that I punished my sub by tying her up and then telling her jokes and leaving off the punch lines. That is one of the most evil and sadistic things I've ever seen on these boards[sm=hardlimit.gif]

kiwisub12 -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 6:54:14 PM)
There is something very sensual about laughing with the person whom you live and love with. If my Sir didn't enjoy my rather weird sense of humour, we wouldn't be still together- he enjoys my sass, and i really don't think i could stop all of it from falling out of my mouth. And - when needed - my Sir can stop me with a look or a word. Its one more way of exerting his dominance - being able to stop me in my tracks. and since usually i am not being very serious, it doesn't hurt my feelings at all.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 7:00:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid? One problem we encounter when getting people used to our household is our very dry, very pervasive humor. It has been our experience that many of the people that we encounter, BDSM or not, really have sad, underdeveloped senses of humor, and find our laughter at one another, with one another, at our servants, with our servants, with our offspring, and at paragons of society completely inappropriate. Therefore, when we find a servant who appreciates our rather bizarre, rather caustic, rather strange sense of humor, we are willing to overlook a multitude of sins -- provide he still knows when to be obedient. chuckles With that in mind, I will share a funny (My daughter first corrupted me with this site): http://www.illwillpress.com/TP22.html Yes, we are a blazingly corrupted, amazingly perverse household -- and... we put the 'sex' in dyslexic! Calla Firestorm

Barbie23 -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 7:41:01 PM)
I agree... Humor does belong in a relationship.. But then doesn't it also depend on the person your with? Like you said, one of your mistresses LOVED to laugh with you.. and it ofended another.. I guess you have to take each person as they come and try to serve them the best way you can.. whether that be with or without humor... Well.. thats what i think anyway....

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 7:47:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn Now, I'm sure it would be easy to take this thread and criticize this young woman, but that's not the purpose of this thread. What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid? But criticizing her would be so fun! :( I'm sorry, but I just learned this "sense of humor" thing recently, so I like to practice it every chance I get. Underneath the D/s dynamic it's still a relationship with two real living (well, hopefully living) people in it... so is it really so wrong to like each other and enjoy each other's company without the play?

NihilusZero -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 8:45:07 PM)
Judging from the responses on a recently locked thread, I think it's safe to say a sense of humor is not a scarce thing on a D/s community website.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 8:47:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero Judging from the responses on a recently locked thread, I think it's safe to say a sense of humor is not a scarce thing on a D/s community website. [sm=threadhijack.gif] for just a moment here... I'm mourning the passing of that thread. May we have a moment of silence for it in all of its glory and remember it the way it was. Okay, now back to the regularly scheduled thread.

kyraofMists -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 8:52:44 PM)
Humour belongs in the appropriate time and place. For the most part, that appropriate time is fairly often. It doesn't impact who has the authority or makes the decisions. Some of his fondest memories are ones where he can't help but laugh because of mine or Alandra's antics. Knight's Kyra

MissIsis -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 8:55:57 PM)
Isn't making me laugh, part of his or her service to me? Life would be pretty sad without laughter. I love surrounding myself with funny, & responsible human beings, submissive or not.

NihilusZero -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 9:00:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissIsis Isn't making me laugh, part of his or her service to me? Life would be pretty sad without laughter. I love surrounding myself with funny, & responsible human beings, submissive or not. This brings up the key point, I think. The other Mistress in the OP seemed to suffer from the usual "projection myopia" problem: because she could not understand how laughter could still be shared in the honored parameters of subservience meant that it could not possibly be so. Just another example of some people trying to shove their 'rulebooks' down others' throats.

VampiresLair -> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? (9/11/2008 9:14:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid? Fox and I joke back and forth pretty commonly. IT is the standing joke that I am the Man of the house, and he is my good little housewife. We say or do things that , when taken however we choose to take them, drive us both into hysterical laughter. We poke fun at friends and mutual aquaintenences often... a certain someone being the butt of many jokes as of late. The only time humor is not apreciated is when I am in a really foul mood, or when we are in a serious scene. That doesnt happen often, on either count. That said, I was just having a snack and handed Fox my bag of popcorn, telling him I was tired of eatting it out of my shirt (I kept dropping it down my sports bra). He stared at the bag, and compared me to a Pez dispenser... and was ratehr surprised that the popcorn fished out of my shirt tasted just like the other stuff. He has been told he isnt allowed to think any more tonight. DV

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