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If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 8:48:09 AM

MissIsis

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As one of the profiles began to pass on the home page here, I read a dominant's profile that said, "If you say no men, it means you are a lesbian, not bisexual."

I can't help it, probably shouldn't say anything, but I really need to set the guy straight, so to speak.

There can be any number of reasons a women's profile says, "No Men." If she lists herself as bisexual & states that on her profile, you guys need to learn to read between the lines. It definitely does not mean she is lesbian. It really means that she has a man already in her life that she wants is fucking & more than likely, he wants to be included, or he wants her or him & her to fuck a woman alone or together & he doesn't want her fucking another guy, nor does he want to fuck another guy.

Also, while I am at it, guys, many of you state that you are searching for a bisexual women, or one who is bi-curious, & that either of these are a plus to you. I think what you fail to realize is that just because someone is bi-sexual, or bi-curious, it doesn't necessarily mean that they want to share their attraction for or with the same sex with you or anyone else. Very often, bi-sexual people have exclusive relationships with either sex, but not necessarily both at the same time. Actually, it may be very rare & highly unlikely that they will, unless you are able to persuade her or coerce her to do so.

Lastly, while I am at it, if you send your submissive woman out looking for another woman to play with you, or her, or both of you, most women are not turned on by the fact that another woman tells us how proficient you are in the love making department. Usually, that is the last thing we want to hear if we are approached by another woman who wants us to be a part of their duo. So telling her to focus on that aspect of you, when discussing bringing another into your relationship, is not going to win you many brownie points with us.

More important, is honesty, character, the ability to easily care for more than one in most ways will get you much farther.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 9:47:34 AM

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Mine says "No Men" too, but do they listen,......NOOOOO!

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 10:00:34 AM

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Too funny! Thanks for making me laugh. That comment made my day just a little bit brighter.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 10:02:32 AM

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It must be the Stetson.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 10:03:42 AM

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i also say no couples in my profile...

just sayin...

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 10:15:55 AM

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I once changed my profile to "no women, or men"... but then these gray guys with huge black eyes started showing up, and all they wanted was anal... (not that I minded.)

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 10:24:24 AM

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What part of 'NO' do men understand?? NONE!!

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 10:26:49 AM

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Even if I can't touch, I like to look.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 11:12:16 AM

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Isis, I have to be impartial.

I haven't read your profile (I don't think, I am sure if I ever did it was not lately) but if you have no Men at the top it could be taken two ways.

In your OP's first line or so I was starting to get the wrong impression. This was subsequently corrected but I suspect the same could happen with any quickie first line.

For you, if you are one to say "no Men" that is fine, but I wouldn't make it the first line. If you are a couple or a ____some, but are only looking for more Women, I think you should say so. People should not have to read between the lines. Reading between the lines can cause problems.

But then you were commenting on another's profile. I would tend to agree that is not a smart thing to put there, because of the reasons you stated. They assumed, but in that case they only made an ass of themself.

If you want to play philanthropist you could mail them advising them of the situation. It's up to you. You could get a nasty reply, or one that says "Know what, you are right, never thought of it that way". You never know.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 11:34:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bipolarber

I once changed my profile to "no women, or men"... but then these gray guys with huge black eyes started showing up, and all they wanted was anal... (not that I minded.)

That would be hot

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 11:41:52 AM

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My profile doesn't say no men anywhere on it. I do agree with you that people should just outright say what they mean when it comes to their profiles & what they are looking for. Being honest & upfront about what people want, when they are putting their profiles together could go a long way to putting those whose interests match into a discussion & some common ground.

However, very often, people don't. When women are looking for submissive females because the suggestion comes from the dominant they are serving, the dominants have often been down that road before. They know the odds of finding a second submissive women if they are honest are rare. They can come up with all sorts of scenario's to get what they want. Very often, the woman is told to not disclose that she is looking because she is really looking for him. He hopes, that if she can find a bi-women, & can get close enough to her, that she will be able to persuade after the fact, the woman to join the two of them. It is a scenario that plays out over & over again on these boards. In a case such as this, in order to please her dominant, the woman will never do anything other than is asked of her regarding this. He has instructed her not to disclose what she is really looking for, because he knows the choices will be limited because most women truely interested in a relationship with only a woman, will pass by the profiles where couples are looking for a third.

I am not saying it can never happen. I am just saying that often, the dominants in question know it is much more difficult when disclosing the truth, to get what they want.

I won't email people with suggestions about their profile. But I don't mind discussing them in the forums. In this case, I come across these beliefs that some dominant men have, quite often.

This opinion, & please, it is only an opinion based on my experiences of before I became a dominant woman.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 11:58:55 AM

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Hey, if you have a photo on your profile and are reasonably attractive people will bombard you regardless of gender, orientation or preferences.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 1:04:42 PM

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I always feel slightly sorry for beautiful women on this site, as they almost always have either in their profile or journal in big bold angry font that they don't want to talk to men. I can't imagine the sheer amount of messages they get, especially from those guys that give guys like me a bad name.

Hell, I'm straight, with not even a hint of bi-curiosity, and I still get emails from the occasional gay man. Can't quite figure it out...

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 1:44:15 PM

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like it or not.... i've got a spam program that sends dick pics to Everyone. so there.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 1:48:02 PM

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If a profile says, ' No Men ', then to me that means no men, that understood, I won't bother making contact as it is clear the profile holder does not wish to receive messages from men.

Which in a way goes against the person, as often I have read posts in these forums, agreed, or would like to have completed the poster on what they have written, go to their profile, to find it says ' no men'. So, I don't bother, expecting my message no matter how nice it is to find it's way into the bulk mail or just get deleted on sight of the pale blue writing, why waste the effort.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 1:53:47 PM

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I don't put "no men" in my profile, because I assume the word "STRAIGHT" under sexual preference would be self-explanatory. But I do get the occassional suggestive email from a guy. It doesn't bother me; it's not that hard to say no thank you. But I find it odd that 95% of those emails are from men listing themselves as straight. I've only had to put two males on ignore when they persisted with moronic comments or disgusting photos. What's funny about the guys that send photos is they are almost always fat, hairy guys in their fifties. If I were gay or bi, I like to think I could do better than that.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 1:58:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Hey, if you have a photo on your profile and are reasonably attractive people will bombard you regardless of gender, orientation or preferences.

really....funny cause i get almost 0 msgs. the ones i get are off the forums. the other ones about 1 a month are from places like nigeria, spain, italy...off the chart places.

why? because my first line which everyone can see explains no men and who i seek.
you dont have to click on full profile to read it. its right there in clear view.

i put it there for a reason...so that people who do skim through profiles that often dont find the line that says "no men" will see it first thing. my email box is almost always empty as a result.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 2:09:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I don't put "no men" in my profile, because I assume the word "STRAIGHT" under sexual preference would be self-explanatory. But I do get the occassional suggestive email from a guy. It doesn't bother me; it's not that hard to say no thank you. But I find it odd that 95% of those emails are from men listing themselves as straight. I've only had to put two males on ignore when they persisted with moronic comments or disgusting photos. What's funny about the guys that send photos is they are almost always fat, hairy guys in their fifties. If I were gay or bi, I like to think I could do better than that.

Yep, there are an awful lot of men out there who will not admit to their feelings. Either that, or your profile must just do something to a guy to turn them ?

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 2:26:52 PM

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i gotta say one thing tho - any bi or straight broads who are only looking for women could do themselves a huge favor by just changing their listed orientation to homo. you'll still get messages from a-hole dudes, but i gotta imagine it would at least cut down on the numbers.

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RE: If her profile says "no men" - 9/8/2008 2:27:09 PM

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The problem with the whole situation in my opinion is that most who send out emails ignoring orientation and such are not interested in paying attention to profile details, but instead are just basically trolling for random email responses. I suppose they feel it's easier and/or more efficient to go this route than to take the time to read profile text. That being said, I highly doubt very many men that troll in this way are going to take the time away from their trolling duties to read this thread, much less say to themselves ,"Wow, what I'm doing must be annoying. I'd better stop."

I suppose what I'm driving at is that, while I do basically agree with what you say MssIsis (wonderful screen name by the way - I love it), I believe you're sort of preaching to the choir here, as I generally find folks who post in the forums have the sense not to be doing this kind of thing in the first place

That is an interesting bit of advise to femsubs looking for a third. Really, I'd never given the logistics of that much thought, so I definitely learned something there.

Edited for stuff and junk...

< Message edited by E2Sweet -- 9/8/2008 2:30:13 PM >

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