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Messala -> Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 7:45:16 AM)
Are there other couples on CM that practice more of a Taken In Hand (TIH) and BDSM "hybrid" relationship than full BDSM? I discovered CM about a year ago and TIH about 8 months ago. I find that I enjoy both lifestyles but lean more to the TIH because its just more practical for my wife & I on a daily basis. But we do have some BDSM sessions that can get quite heated and she certainly enjoys a good spanking. The hybrid of the two relationships work for us - we enjoy our D/s roles, but would probably never go to a fetish party . . . does that make sense? Surely there must other couples here that have a male-led household with discipline sessions at night - I'd love to hear about those experiences

chamberqueen -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 8:54:49 AM)
I think that most of us live a hybrid lifestyle of some type. My marriage was basically TIH with no BDSM. It became unbalanced when the power went to his head and he no longer cared about my fulfillment. Mix in anger management issues, alcoholism, and diabetes that he chose not to control and it became a violent and unhealthy situation. One of the things that I love most about the lifestyle is that each couple in a relationship can choose what works best for them. Labels usually don't have hard and fast definitions but are flexible depending upon your own dynamic.

sunshinedreams -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 9:16:39 AM)
My relationship more resembles TIH, but I have so much fun in the forums here.[:)]

lronitulstahp -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 6:16:18 PM)
D/s for me, compliments TIH. i also emjoy kink, bondage, other elements that make BDSM enjoyable mixed in. Variety truly is the spice of life.

leadership527 -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 6:28:29 PM)
Mostly TIH here.

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 6:29:03 PM)
I googled up this whole Taken In hand business... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taken_in_hand I have to say I disagree with what was wrote about BDSM relationships in this article. Somebody needs to let them know that many people in BDSM lifestyle have Day to Day D/s relationships and it is not all about Scene play as this stupid article suggests. Also, not everybody is into the Ownership aspects in BDSM lifestyles as well. Case in point where somebody has wrote something without actually knowing a lot about BDSM and D/s relationships.

VivaciousSub -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 6:47:07 PM)
I just read that Wiki article today, so I'm laughing to come across this. I thought it was a one-sided load of crap. Whoever the author(s) is/are, clearly haven't spent a whole lot of time around it.

VivaciousSub -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 6:48:17 PM)
Oh, and I was looking more into TIH relationships and came across this website: www.takeninhand.com Has a lot of good stuff on there and I'm enjoying the learning process as assigned by Sir.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/8/2008 8:51:25 PM)
Try using the word "funishment" rather than discipline or punishment.

VioletAshes -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/9/2008 3:00:56 AM)
I am in what I term a Taken in Hand marriage within which we explore a D/s relationship. The two go hand in hand, discipline and submission are very important to me, and to my Husband.

velvetears -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/9/2008 11:42:14 AM)
TIH relationships are not the same as bdsm because in TIH ones the discipline is not suppossed to be enjoyed or done for fun but rather done for a purpose - real punishment. i personally think it's a big facade and they simply don't like to admit they like getting their asses beat and beating asses. JMO

Messala -> RE: Taken In Hand & BDSM (9/9/2008 1:32:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: velvetears TIH relationships are not the same as bdsm because in TIH ones the discipline is not suppossed to be enjoyed or done for fun but rather done for a purpose - real punishment. i personally think it's a big facade and they simply don't like to admit they like getting their asses beat and beating asses. JMO I think it's a mistake to view the relationships as mutually exclusive. As some others have already posted here, the "day-to-day" parts of a relationship may very well be TIH (who here is tied up 24/7?) while other activites are BDSM. Not all punshiment in TIH is serious, much of it is done for "play".

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