whats your take on the domme personna ?.
Over time i have seen a lot of subs who are looking for the great domme to bond with. Most of the time they get cuaght in the hype of the prodomme. Now prodommes have there places that is all find and sugar coated gum drops. Reality is this.
Prodommes have more people that are on their to list to play with then cars on a freeway. Most of them never get emotionally attached to their clients. Most of them love attention and do it for the thrill and gain. a lot of levels. The dynamics of those relationships are very very different some people end up getting hurt so this is my way of show us subs what to watch out for when looking
the narcissistAn all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts. Five (or more) of the following criteria must be met:
Feels grandiose and self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements.)
Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion
Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions)
Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply)
Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favourable priority treatment.
Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations Is "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends
Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others
Arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted
Some of the language in the criteria above is based on or summarized from: American Psychiatric Association. (1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, fourth edition (DSM IV). Washington, DC American Psychiatric Association. The text in italics is based on: Sam Vaknin - Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited. For the exact language of the DSM IV criteria (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) - please refer to the manual itself.
So Subbies there are a lot more reasons why prodommes are a dangerous play ground a lot of them know what is inside of us because they have had ever chance to pratice and understand who we are
My advice is this find the a person who is a domme who is just them selves a person And is a domme because of who they are. Not just a show boat attention fanatic take the time to know someone not all dommes are the same either but if your really wanting that end all be all domme look really hard away from the fashionable media dommes and find a real domme they are out there just as there are doms and subs
Good luck on your search
I picked on the dommes cause they are a lot more pops then doms
whats your take on the domme personna ?
