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Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 7:26:28 AM   
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my Mistress has found me to be "evasive" at times when answering some of Her questions. She demands i be punished, but wants more ideas. Since Her punishment of me must be online/on cam, She requires me to get more ideas. my great honor to have anyone offer any suggestions. thank you.
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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 7:32:11 AM   
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I used this on my slave last night...it should be reserved for severe punishment. Grind up 8 extra hot peppers, with seeds, then use a mortar and pestle..(or a hammer and a board if you dont have one) to pulverize them into a paste. (keep in mind a blender will not cut them up enough.) add 4 drops olive oil, mix completely.
This should be smeared over the genitals. she can vary the length of time she has it kept on. there are ways to countereffect this burning, mostly with cream.
I reserve this for severe punishment

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 7:55:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave

I used this on my slave last night...it should be reserved for severe punishment. Grind up 8 extra hot peppers, with seeds, then use a mortar and pestle..(or a hammer and a board if you dont have one) to pulverize them into a paste. (keep in mind a blender will not cut them up enough.) add 4 drops olive oil, mix completely.
This should be smeared over the genitals. she can vary the length of time she has it kept on. there are ways to countereffect this burning, mostly with cream.
I reserve this for severe punishment


Severe? Ha i laugh in the face of that being severe.
Its a walk in the park!!
Kidding

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 8:40:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave

I used this on my slave last night...it should be reserved for severe punishment. Grind up 8 extra hot peppers, with seeds, then use a mortar and pestle..(or a hammer and a board if you dont have one) to pulverize them into a paste. (keep in mind a blender will not cut them up enough.) add 4 drops olive oil, mix completely.
This should be smeared over the genitals. she can vary the length of time she has it kept on. there are ways to countereffect this burning, mostly with cream.
I reserve this for severe punishment


Severe? Ha i laugh in the face of that being severe.
Its a walk in the park!!
Kidding


I call it severe as it sometimes causes blistering on the skin,It was on her skin for 5 minutes, the buring sensation lasted about....5 hours afterwards, even with using cream and an oil cutting soap afterwards to stop the burn. ...the downside is that the pain level cannot be directly controlled.
Others may find it mild. I tried it on myself first.........not the most fun I have had.....

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 8:58:02 AM   
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I call it severe as it sometimes causes blistering on the skin,It was on her skin for 5 minutes, the buring sensation lasted about....5 hours afterwards, even with using cream and an oil cutting soap afterwards to stop the burn. ...the downside is that the pain level cannot be directly controlled.
Others may find it mild. I tried it on myself first.........not the most fun I have had...



thanks, i think, for the suggestion. All will be passed along to Ms Destiny. Of course, She can also read them here. Thanks for taking the time to help.

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 4:38:54 PM   
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my Mistress has found me to be "evasive" at times when answering some of Her questions. She demands i be punished, but wants more ideas. Since Her punishment of me must be online/on cam, She requires me to get more ideas. my great honor to have anyone offer any suggestions. thank you.


Hi there.

Are you evasive, and if so, why?  I hope that understanding the answers to both those questions is more important to your Mistress than dishing out a punishment.  Just a thought.

If my boy was being evasive, it could be down to insecurity, fear, concern, tiredness, etc.  I'd want to know the reasons for the evasiveness and see if that was something I could help with.  Of course, it could be downright dishonesty or rudeness, but then, I wouldn't think that punishing him would rectify that either.

Wishing you well x

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 7:01:01 PM   
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Tell her that emotional transparency must be earned and she hasn't earned that level of trust. And require her to write 500 times, "I will not push people when I don't know them well enough to know what is or isn't safe to push".

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/2/2008 11:49:53 PM   
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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 1:19:24 AM   
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Why is she so sort of ideas? Does she work in television?

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 1:34:51 AM   
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Tell her that emotional transparency must be earned and she hasn't earned that level of trust. And require her to write 500 times, "I will not push people when I don't know them well enough to know what is or isn't safe to push".


That's a good start. I do hope she's reading this and isn't as arrogant as the image I get of her has me thinking. Rushing to punish over emotional issues just makes them worse and makes the relationship worse, not better. *rolls eyes*

Anyways, I'm not sure if this is a punishment or reward, but cutting contact for a few days/weeks is a fairly rough punishment on a submissive.

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 3:31:48 AM   
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my Mistress has found me to be "evasive" at times when answering some of Her questions.


Were you actually being evasive, or was she misreading you?

Inquiring minds, etc.....

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 4:31:17 AM   
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   Longdistance relationships are their own "punishment" at times...  They take extra communication and much patience.....sounds like she's lacking in both those areas????

and I agree with DesFip' suggestion and reasoning...
 
 
 
 

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 4:40:36 AM   
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i must say that i agree here.  The worst and most severe punishment that my Dom has given me is to ignore me completely.  W/e too have a long distance relationship but He knows how to really get my attention and show me the error of my ways.  If He is spanking me or something similar i am still at least getting His attention, but if He won't return my calls or when W/e are together, watches TV and ignores me, i feel rotten.

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:10:23 AM   
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my Mistress has "earned" my complete admiration and trust. I do not "require" anything of Her. i am Hers to "push" as She requires. thank you for you opinion.

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:22:26 AM   
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my Mistress has found me to be "evasive" at times when answering some of Her questions.


quote:

ORIGINAL: jtutors
my Mistress has "earned" my complete admiration and trust.


How does that work?

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:24:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

quote:

ORIGINAL: jtutors
my Mistress has found me to be "evasive" at times when answering some of Her questions.


quote:

ORIGINAL: jtutors
my Mistress has "earned" my complete admiration and trust.


How does that work?

C-D


not very well, imho


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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:29:01 AM   
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i'm amazed that anyone would assume that the communications between my Mistress and i lack patience. If that were the case, we would hardly be using this forum. Thank you for your observations, but i do not find my Mistress lacking on any level.

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:33:28 AM   
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i'm amazed that anyone would assume that the communications between my Mistress and i lack patience. If that were the case, we would hardly be using this forum. Thank you for your observations, but i do not find my Mistress lacking on any level.


Riiight. There is no communication issue. Thats why she jumps to punishment for evasive behavior rather than getting to the core issue.


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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:35:28 AM   
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Thank you all for your kind responses to my special subbie jtutors!

Please allow me to explain about the post he made, his “crime”, and Our/our quest for a suitable punishment.


“Evasiveness”:  Have you ever asked someone a question, only to be given a response that has nothing to do with the question at hand?  Or, have you ever asked someone “what time is it?” only to be told how to build a clock?  LOL  This is the kind of evasiveness for which I am seeking punishment suggestions. 


My sub, jtutors, is very important to me.  I care about him.  He makes every attempt to make me happy, and I, in return, seek nothing but happiness for him as well.  With this in mind, I find very little, if any fault with jtutors.  I really have to work to find something to punish him for!  Evasiveness was the only “crime-of-the moment” that I could use as an excuse to give him the punishment he so enjoys receiving!  Therefore, my delimma is, finding a suitable (and perhaps, enjoyable) punishment that can be accomplished at a distance!

Also, please know that I am not interested in harming him, or punishing in the strictest sense of the word.  This was meant to be a part of his punishment assignment.  Our/our conversation about this started with Me saying something like: “Oh you brat!  Now I’ll have to punish you for being such a brat!  You need to as others what might be suitable punishment for your behavior.  Please compile a list and I’ll decide how best to deal with you.”

To MAMandslave:  Thank you for your post.  Although, the hot pepper may be an interesting idea, but not applicable here.

To justLady:  jtutors has always been forthright in his answers regarding feelings or emotions.  The evasive situation occurred during a routine conversation where I asked as simple question, and expected a simple answer that turned out to be excruciatingly long, and not necessarily to the point!  Thank you for your post, as well.

To DesFIP:  I’ve asked jtutors to respond to your post.

To Stella41b: “ Why is she so sort of ideas? Does she work in television?”  LOL :  Thank you for your post and your humor!

To BiteGirl:  I thank you for your post as well!  Cutting off communication with my sub would be punishment for me, as well, however!  I like my j-sub, and want to communicate with him!  He’s an amazing person, and no communication would be punishment for BOTH of us!

To Allondra:  Hopefully, this post will help satisfy your inquiring mind!  Thank you for inquiring!

To Tysgalilah:  The communication between j and myself is ongoing throughout the day.  Hopefully, I’ve never given him any reason not to be open to me, nor has he given me any reason to think that he has been anything less than honest with me.  Further, I have always been able to be open and honest with him.  He puts me on a pedestal which I adore, but I keep one toe touching the ground!  Ty for your post!

To SiennaDiamond:  jtutors is the consummate sub!  I reach to find things for which to “reprimand” him and to me.  His punishments are meant to be “enjoyable” and entertaining to him.  For example, at this very moment, he and I are on voice chat, analyzing the responses to his post.  What a wonderful exercise in not only communication, but also in task completion.  He teaches me more than I teach him….. but I make him blush!  **smiles**

Thanks to all for your responses.  I look forward to hearing more from everyone!
Ms Des

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RE: Long distance punishments - 9/3/2008 6:40:34 AM   
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Ok - call me crazy but... maybe, just maybe... he was evasive cuz he knew you'd "punish" him??? i dunno, if my "punishments" were enjoyable, they wouldn't really be punishments and i'd find myself doing things to piss Him off just so He'd "punish" me. Why not just find things to "do" to him long distance that you both enjoy?? Maybe he could stop doing this purposely to earn "punishment."

*edited because i clearly cannot spell this morning

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