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WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: How vanilla lol (9/2/2008 7:27:58 AM)
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This is a refreshing post, if anything it expresses D/s without having to turn it into some uber D/s ordeal. Really simple and pure.
Relaxed carefree moments of walking down a side walk together hand in hand, enjoying the sunny day, perhaps even a rainy day. Regardless of what the weather is, you enjoy the beautiful moment.
So much is posted about pain, darkness and S&M that it's not funny. What ironic these things can help on find an even deeper appreciation for the simple, pure and natural things, that many people take for granted in day to day living.
I myself, I'm a pretty sensory orientate kind of guy. I enjoy a walk in the city, a hike in the forest. A bit of an explorer by nature. I enjoy having somebody who's my partner in crime to explore things with, and simply live.
Regardless of the type of relationship it is. Fundamentally, this is part of who and what I am. There are things I enjoy and moments I totally bask in. Often things that many people take for granted in the hussle of day to day life.
For me, even in more extremes of D/s where it's M/s, I want somebody who is able, willing and totally into leaving the house. D/s for me is about something far greater besides kink, sex and hanging around the house engaging in high protocol practices. I have certain desires, wants and needs. Getting out of the house and doing things is part of that.
In many regards, a lot of so called vanilla people keep secluded to their houses and don't venture out very often. I'm not certain what I'm trying to fully express.
I have done things, visited places and explored the areas around me. Adds more contrast to life. To appreciate the sunny days, the rainy days. To simply be as a human being.
Sure Add hot rough kinky sex, and other things into the picture. Still in a a D/s relationship, I am just assured that it's a D/s relationship. Regardless if we are at the beach, a picnic, a park, a bookstore, the mall, a side walk cafe, a coffee shop, an out of the way pub, or wherever. Life is a bit of an adventure, why not get out of the house and enjoy the adventure a little.
I have not use for a relationship partner that whats to stay at home or the house all the time. This is regardless of their orientation (sub,slave,switch or Domme).
I don't know perhaps I'm one of those Heterosexual that have come along and watered down the so called "lifestyle". My cultural roots are not connected with the Gay leather community. I suspect one of my uncles was through. He was an awesom man that passed away this last year.
My uncle, he was full of life, always doing thing, very social person. Ironic he had both his nipples peirced, had some tattoos, and became very involved in the Gay community after his marriage of 15 years went to hell. I don't know if he was Gay or Bisexual. Hell, actually an area of conversation we never got into it.
However, my uncle was a firm believer in one doing things in life that make you happy. He actually bought me a pair of Black Leather pants for Christmas one day. But my uncle knew I was a bit different anyways. He was supportive of my freakisms and of me playing Rock-n-Roll music and doing things I enjoyed in life.
In the last couple of years, I came out of the closest and told my mom, that I'm into BDSM and this crazy madness. She was very accepting and understanding of it. I had thought about talking with my uncle some. Because I suspected he was tied into BDSM in the Gay Leather or similar sub-culture. There were a lot of ear markings there. Things that well, people in our family saw, but nobody gave him a hard time about. There is something that is to be said for the Quality of a person and the Quality of life that they are living. Along with it comes respect.
None the less, this uncle was my most favorite uncle out them all. Him and had some really great conversations regarding life, without getting into BDSM and kink. It was about life and living. There are still things he said to me, that echo in my mind to this day.
I'm sitting here thing about a BBQ, him standing there with his shirt off, nipple rings dangling, the beautiful tattoo work. He was very comfortable with himself and who is was. I do want to make it clear, that he did not dress all crazy on a day to day basis. He did not walk around with the Leather Look 24/7, if anything he dressed very normal and well in day to day living.
I never pried into his relationships with so called guys that had lived with him. Roommates? Partners? Really it made no difference to me. My Uncle was my uncle. He was not thrusting his Kink and Sexual and relationship practices down anybodys throat or running around trying to show the world how much and this that or another thing he was.
I tend to believe in having a well rounded life and experiences. Perhaps to somebody out there, this might make me pretty vanilla. But my life has been anything but ordinary, boring, dull, and rather diverse and well... well off the beaten path of things.
Even my vanilla life has not been really all the vanilla and boring. I've not lived life as if I was having missionary sex while browsing the bookshops and such. Instead, full of excietment at exploring, checking things out, trying out interesting flavors of coffee. Meeting new people, talking about anything and everything. Trying to keep an open mind and enjoy things, Find Amazing amounts of small beauty in the sublime at times.
The only thing have to offer anybody in my own defense is that I'm a DOM and damn it, I'm going to leave my life as I so please, if you don't like it, kiss my fucking ass. People trying to push me around and tell me what I should do, end up with a rude awakening. LOL...
I try to take time out for those people I encounter, that are a little down and out. A simple conversation, try to share with them some positive thoughts, advice, even get them to see the truth that they already know. I try to do these things for whatever reason at times. Perhaps you say, I have my moments of being a White Knight. So what I have a White Knight Streak to my personality. I know I have helped other people along my adventure in this beautiful and fucked up world.
I'm not perfect, and I ain't always right, but I'll take my time to live, I'll take my time to stop for a moment, take a deep breath in and enjoy the moments. There is a slice of me that is a bit of a humanitarian. I'm not a complete sadistic bastard. OK, so I'm a little bit off the beaten path. I'm an Aquarious, how else should any self respecting Aquarious behave, beside being the odd balls that we are.
Enjoy the moments while they are here. Even if they all go to hell in the end, you can always find them again, with somebody else, somebody new.
Enjoy everything in the here and now, appreciate what you have now. What tomorrow brings in the end, who the hell really knows. I don't own a crystal ball, but I feel more like I do own a Crazy 8 ball. We all ask ourselves question and find amazing smart ass vauge answers inside ourselves, just like that Crazy 8 ball, that's what made Crazy 8 balls so popular after all, because of the truth in the answers.
Have a beautiful day, afternoon or night.
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