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RE: Kinky Sex - 8/31/2008 6:22:06 PM

LittleWench

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I am going to need time to wrap my head around this one..
You mean after an hour of play you werent dripping wet and begging to be fucked?
Now I am confused.
Kyst

Ah, difference between so aroused that you are begging to be fucked, and having an orgasm. For me an orgasm usually comes from extensive clitoral stimulation (traditionally considered to be foreplay), so after a flogging and a fucking I was asked if I had cum, which prompted the conversation that followed about foreplay.

I don't think I am over thinking it, it was just a light hearted thread starter that was caused by the giggles my Owner and I had one day in bed, and I was curious on different opinions on the topic. :)

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RE: Kinky Sex - 8/31/2008 6:27:57 PM

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LOL glad you clarified it. I tried all day and couldnt come up with anything. For me, clitoral stimulation is fabulous for sex. But I can cum two-three strokes into penetration if my mate had stimulated me for a hour or more with bdsm play.
It is the impalement upon the cock that shoves me into an orgasm. <g> Many, if he doesn't also cum soon after.
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I am going to need time to wrap my head around this one..
You mean after an hour of play you werent dripping wet and begging to be fucked?
Now I am confused.
Kyst

For me an orgasm usually comes from extensive clitoral stimulation (traditionally considered to be foreplay),

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RE: Kinky Sex - 8/31/2008 7:14:29 PM

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I'm in agreement with those who have talked about mindset.
When Daddy and I make love it is usually pretty vanilla. Me on top, him on top, whatever. Sex is an essential part of what we do. Orgasm is not always an option for me, if Daddy wants to punish me. But being spanked, or having Daddy use me for his footrest, or having to be very very still are all sexual, all extremely arousing. What is kinky is what is going on in our heads, who we are together, and what we do before, during and after lovemaking. I was talking to him today about the house we want to build together. I was telling him that I want there to be a little bedroom in it with a white canopy bed so he can slip into it at night and put his hand over my mouth and we can do naughty, secret things together. I watched his pupils dilate as I told him this, and heard his breathing quicken. I guess this must be kinky, because it would probably disgust most of the vanilla folk, to want to play this kind of game. But one girl's disgust is another girl's heaven....this is kink.

hope this sounds coherent. I know I'm rambling a bit, had a big glass of wine tonight!

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RE: Kinky Sex - 8/31/2008 8:47:38 PM

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So how do you do it, how do you have kinky sex?

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This question stems from a something I asked my Owner recently (What does a sub feel if all they get is vanilla sex, which evolved into, what is the definition of kinky sex?)

If foreplay is considered to be sex, can BDSM activities be considered foreplay? (After one session with my Owner which ended with sex I mentioned he hadn't spent much time on foreplay he raised an eyebrow and said "I just spent more than an hour flogging you...")

Many Dommes will say (especially professionals) that dominating another and the tools used to do so, whips, bonds, chains etc have nothing to do with sex. So now I am confused...

If sex is what happens after the scene and it's regular missionary, was the scene foreplay and the sex vanilla?

If we restrict the definition of sex to intercourse, how do you make intercourse kinky? Gag's, ropes, etc are one way but they would become routine and then by their familiarity not kinky any more.

So how do you do it, how do you have kinky sex?

Just a lighthearted conversation starter from between the sheets :)

Ya know...that was a HELL of a lot of work to get to: "So how do you do it, how do you have kinky sex?"

I just wanna say...you worked damned hard for that...and I applaud you.

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RE: Kinky Sex - 9/1/2008 1:54:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: LittleWench

This question stems from a something I asked my Owner recently (What does a sub feel if all they get is vanilla sex, which evolved into, what is the definition of kinky sex?)

If foreplay is considered to be sex, can BDSM activities be considered foreplay? (After one session with my Owner which ended with sex I mentioned he hadn't spent much time on foreplay he raised an eyebrow and said "I just spent more than an hour flogging you...")

Many Dommes will say (especially professionals) that dominating another and the tools used to do so, whips, bonds, chains etc have nothing to do with sex. So now I am confused...

If sex is what happens after the scene and it's regular missionary, was the scene foreplay and the sex vanilla?

If we restrict the definition of sex to intercourse, how do you make intercourse kinky? Gag's, ropes, etc are one way but they would become routine and then by their familiarity not kinky any more.

So how do you do it, how do you have kinky sex?

Just a lighthearted conversation starter from between the sheets :)

We don't draw any distinction between bdsm and sex and no distinction between bdsm/sex in the bedroom and out of the bedroom.
A look can mean cum wherever and whenever. It just takes practice but practice makes perfect.....

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RE: Kinky Sex - 9/1/2008 7:52:27 AM

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Actually I've always considered missionary to be the epitome of a maledom/femsub sex. Think about it; the woman is held down, pinned in place as it were, by the man's weight and height. He controls the force of the strokes and the frequency. Everything about it is controlled by the man. And if that isn't pure D/s in a maledom/femsub relationship, then I don't know what is.

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RE: Kinky Sex - 9/1/2008 8:52:30 AM

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Damn that was hot. I miss sex.
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; the woman is held down, pinned in place as it were, by the man's weight and height. He controls the force of the strokes and the frequency. Everything about it is controlled by the man.

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