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One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 10:46:25 AM

lovingpet

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For those of you who kept me company last weekend as I nervously awaited the moment, I just wanted to update again quickly. Why? Cause I'm just such a lucky girl is why!!!

After much recovery time (yeah that up all night stuff caught up with me big time) and many, many long conversations late into the night all week, I don't know that I have really come back down to earth. My emotions have been a veritable mess at least until about Wednesday, when I finally could just settle back into our usual conversations. They have taken on a different life and intensity now and we retrace that night over and over.

As much as I want to remain cautious and proceed sensibly, it is a struggle. We both remind each other of reality and common sense gently when it is needed, but we don't like it (giggle). We are working things out for next time, but it will be a few weeks. I guess neither of us realized that we needed to be prepared to become "obsessed" (only joking....uh.... sort of). We haven't decided what all we want to say publicly at this point, but there will be a post eventually in the Positive Experiences section.

So after all my silly fuzzy musing, is it so wrong to have that dopey smile on my face a full week later???

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 11:01:54 AM

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Congratulations!!!! No, it's not wrong to be deleriously happy with patented New Relationship Energy coursing through your veins. You seem like a great person, and I'm happy for you.

A word of caution: I don't think it's wise to post much about brand new relationships. I've written about experiences I've had when I thought they could help someone, or I wanted advice, but I've tried always to be careful and anonymous. Example: I recently started a thread asking the advice of others about a psychosexual experience I had, and even though I kept the identity of the woman involved anonymous, I asked her permission before posting anything. She decided the next day that she wanted to respond to the thread, and asked me for my permission before she wrote anything.

A good rule of thumb is: until you are comfortable enough to tell your real-life friends that this new guy is your "boyfriend" or "significant other" or whatever, the relationship is still too fragile to be fodder for a message board.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 11:10:11 AM

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No its not loving pet. It has been more than 3 years for me and I am still giddy as a school girl and deliriously happy.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 11:52:30 AM

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Thank you so much for your words of encouragement everyone!

And I wanted to address RedMagic1 specifically. He has encouraged me to post here and is reading along with everything, but I am still careful of intimate details and very personal questions and would seek his approval prior to posting anything substantial. This was wise advice and I will proceed with caution with regard to the boards.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 12:03:54 PM

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I find it really cool you posted an update lp. My advice is enjoy the ride and be as giddy as you can stand! It's cool that you posted about your nerves and your happiness - it's great encouragement when the board can be full of such negative thoughts sometimes. Best karma coming your way, Ya rock for posting.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 12:09:54 PM

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What a fantastic post to read lovingpet. Reading about your happiness brought a smile to my face.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 12:42:28 PM

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very very very happy smile....sail along on your cloud, girl...grins..

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 12:45:50 PM

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Thank you all!!!!!! grinning all the way!

and feel especially good to have met with the kind words of the the.dark! Thank you so much!

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 1:18:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingpet
So after all my silly fuzzy musing, is it so wrong to have that dopey smile on my face a full week later???

Well, I dunno, but not in my book. I'm all about dopey smiles. Congratulations to you and yours pet.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 2:21:15 PM

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It will be normal to ride on the high for a few months, and abnormal to feel exactly the same as you feel in exactly the same way past a year.

Go, have fun, the fact that you both recognize that this is "fast" is good. My caution to everyone is just NOT make a commitment. There's no reason you can't keep doing what you are doing and enjoying what you are enjoying and NOT decide to make some sort of long term commitment at this point.

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RE: One Week Later....... - 8/23/2008 2:35:34 PM

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