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RE: Is there a connection? - 8/20/2008 5:58:32 AM

slaveluci

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As a Dominant... do you see yourself more as a Macro Manger style or a Micro Manger Style

Master is definitely the Macro style. He does not desire lots of protocol, specific rules and always needing to oversee everything He expects to be done.

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Secondly... do you keep a rule book, guide, journal etc in writing that you maintain for you and your submissive partner(s)

No and He never has. At one point when we still lived 800 miles apart, He had me writing semi-often at LiveJournal concerning some specific issues. He doesn't write or wish me to write now that we are face to face everyday. We just talk about things.

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It is my hypothesis that Micro Managers (to be effective) are more likely to have more written structure than Macro Manger styled Dominants

I believe you are correct. He is a very laid-back Man who desires loose structure and variety and spontaneity. He doesn't like lots of rules in His life whether they apply to Him or me. Along with that, He's not into having written structure either..................luci

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RE: Is there a connection? - 8/20/2008 6:13:43 AM

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We're somewhere in the middle. Mostly Macro but with a bit of Micro because it's something that He enjoys (and i have found unexpected benefits!). There are general protocols about clothing but there's no way He'd get in my closet and pick out specifics! Since i am the one producing the food, i don't have to ask permission to eat or drink it ... but if i want an extra drink or food, i must ask Him if He wants something too. i must clear arrangements with Him, especially if they involve something i am doing on my own eg going to a craft workshop, or just today, i have arranged flights to Perth for next month to help sort out my mother's things (no she's not died, she's finally agreed to go into care!). i ran the dates past Him before i booked the flights and, had He said, no that doesn't suit pet, i would have changed the dates. The main bit of micro is that i have to ask permission to go to the toilet whenever He is nearby. Started out as a bit of fun control ... has turned out to be very handy as He now has better control over my errant middle-aged bladder than i have! It never ceases to amaze me how He can say "NOT until you are seated on the toilet and counted to 5 (He changes the number!)" and the desperate urge of "i'm gonna let loose" just vanishes! It's not something W/we anticipated, but boy, is it useful!

I really think it's up to each couple to work out for themselves, but certainly too much micro ends up being more work for the D than for the s ... and that seems to defeat the purpose to me!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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