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MaamJay -> RE: Is there a connection? (8/20/2008 6:13:43 AM)
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We're somewhere in the middle. Mostly Macro but with a bit of Micro because it's something that He enjoys (and i have found unexpected benefits!). There are general protocols about clothing but there's no way He'd get in my closet and pick out specifics! Since i am the one producing the food, i don't have to ask permission to eat or drink it ... but if i want an extra drink or food, i must ask Him if He wants something too. i must clear arrangements with Him, especially if they involve something i am doing on my own eg going to a craft workshop, or just today, i have arranged flights to Perth for next month to help sort out my mother's things (no she's not died, she's finally agreed to go into care!). i ran the dates past Him before i booked the flights and, had He said, no that doesn't suit pet, i would have changed the dates. The main bit of micro is that i have to ask permission to go to the toilet whenever He is nearby. Started out as a bit of fun control ... has turned out to be very handy as He now has better control over my errant middle-aged bladder than i have! It never ceases to amaze me how He can say "NOT until you are seated on the toilet and counted to 5 (He changes the number!)" and the desperate urge of "i'm gonna let loose" just vanishes! It's not something W/we anticipated, but boy, is it useful!
I really think it's up to each couple to work out for themselves, but certainly too much micro ends up being more work for the D than for the s ... and that seems to defeat the purpose to me!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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