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OrionTheWolf -> RE: if you could create the perfect woman/man (8/7/2008 12:46:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach
While I can understand that sentiment to an extent, Orion, I don't know of many people (myself included) who would want someone that thinks they need any sort of Serious improvement. If you're looking for someone to "improve" then you've got a case of White Knight syndrome - or you don't want a Person, you want a blow up doll whom you can program to suit yourself.
I like to teach. I like to share my knowledge. Those that know me on a personal level, become improved in some way. That is their words, not mine.
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I know what you're thinking - that it's the cliched "fat chick" copout - but it's not a copout, it's honest opinion. I don't get into relationships with people whom I think I can "fix" their flaws. Nor do I want a relationship - ever again - with someone to whom I represent something they consider "fixable to their specifications" or "good enough to work on." That doesn't cut it, and it makes for an absolutely Loathsome basis of a relationship. It is doomed for disappointment and failure - and I don't bother with things that I know Prior To Starting are going to fail. It's not worth the time, when you already know it's going to fail. The person who Allows themselves to go into a relationship - Knowing that the person intends from the get-go to "improve" them - is desperate and has such a low self worth as to need serious psychological help on a Professional level. Honestly I PITY anyone who has so little self worth that they resort to allowing themselves to be "improved" to suit someone other than themselves.
You read alot more into things than what is there, don't ya?
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I don't want Mr Perfect. I don't believe that Perfection exists. We sabotage ourselves and make ourselves miserable by Thinking that - somewhere out there, we just haven't found it yet - Mr or Ms Perfection in Human Form is somehow just waiting for us. Relationships form, and Last, because we love DESPITE someone's flaws - or perhaps Because of those flaws. Rather than looking for someone who is "perfect" I would much prefer someone who has "flaws" I can live with and perhaps even find amusing.
Ah now something that actually pertains to the OP.
I agree that a lot of what makes us unique, some may see as flaws, and those should stay there so that we remain unique. I also believe that we can improve ourselves everyday, even if it is just reading comprehension we work on.
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