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RE: Let me absorb your pain. - 8/6/2008 3:09:27 PM

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In another thread I had posted this thought....

"Master, please I am here to absorb your anger and pain, please hurt me.. use me as an outlet to your pain, so that it releases you from the demons within"...

I discovered this mind blowing concept a long time again, when somebody offered their body for me to physically take out my pain and anger at the moment. At first this threw my mind for a loop, why anybody sane would literally offer themselves to somebody in a not so pleasent state of mind.

However, they wanted to literally absorb and become the outlet for my hurt and anger at the time.

call this a form of a sub/slave being a sort of emotional sin eater.

Anyways, I have not seen or read any threads on this topic yet. I'm interested in thoughts, perspectives and those who have engaged in S&M with this specific intent. Be it a one time event, on rare occasions or more frequently.

I'm unterested hearing from those who have offered themselves in this manner. Those who have had somebody offer themselves like this to. Those who actually engage in doing this.

MasterK is under a lot of stress lately. Beating my ass helps relieve that stress. We would be playing anyway, so I find it perfectly acceptable to be of service in that way.

I would be happy to serve him in this way anytime he needed stress relief.

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RE: Let me absorb your pain. - 8/6/2008 3:47:47 PM

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"Master, please I am here to absorb your anger and pain, please hurt me.. use me as an outlet to your pain, so that it releases you from the demons within"...

I'm unterested hearing from those who have offered themselves in this manner. Those who have had somebody offer themselves like this to. Those who actually engage in doing this.

I've offered. but, he said "no" ..

A good thing too. It really does look noble on the outside doesn't it? Full of love and self-sacrifice? But is it?

Or do you just want to get kinky while your Master is pissed? No actually I am just kidding... I am sure that is not what would be on your mind.

But to offer yourself as a stand-in for the object that is the focus of of your Master's anguish or anger or what-you-will is to offer to become something that in all probability does not deserve to be martyred like that. When I hurt Mine it is with loving hands. If Mine offered herself to me this way, I think I would be very hurt. It would be like her asking me to make love to my own weakness, which, when you think about it is a really cruel thing to say to someone. And I think there would be no way to tell her that because the sacrifice in itself is beautiful enough not to mar it by making her feel guilty on top of feeling impotent (which obviously is why she offered herself, since she could see no other way to alleviate the pain other than to act as a sponge for it)... and that would only hurt more.

My strong advice... Don't do that.

Offer you passion, not your willingness to stand-in for . It might yeild the same results, but at least it will not be linked to the pain and anger. Does that make sense to anyone but me?

I think my motivation had little to do with my willingness to be beaten and more to do with the fact that it hurts me already to see him struggling or holding his emotions in when I know what he really wants ( and perhaps even needs) to do is cry or vent or purge. He is so strong...but we all know we have weak moments.. I am allowed to show and release mine...when does he get that luxury?? soft smile
so it came from a strangely soft place in my heart, the offer.

does that make sense?

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RE: Let me absorb your pain. - 8/6/2008 4:41:52 PM

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I think my motivation had little to do with my willingness to be beaten and more to do with the fact that it hurts me already to see him struggling or holding his emotions in when I know what he really wants ( and perhaps even needs) to do is cry or vent or purge. He is so strong...but we all know we have weak moments.. I am allowed to show and release mine...when does he get that luxury?? soft smile
so it came from a strangely soft place in my heart, the offer.

does that make sense?

Absolutely. I really was joking when I made the kink crack. Later on I described the actual motivation for making the offer was a sense of wanting to alleviate the pain and not knowing any other way to do it. I do understand where it comes from, and the sense of purpose and nobility that you express in making such an offer. I pride myself on a sense of empathy. Imagining myself anothers place and feeling what motivates them comes as naturally to me as breathing. But then that is why I advise against makeing the offer again. I do know what it means to make it but the flip side is not as pretty.

I have no delusions that violence borne of anger and frustraion and pain is anything more than what it really is... an expression of impotence... of weakness. One feels unable (or unwilling) to effect the change necessary so instead they lash out in a destructive way. It is not a solution. It will not make the cause of the pain go away. Those who engage in this sort of behavior are not expressing power, but rather powerlessness. Worse, if the behavior is cathartic, then it can become addictive and that is where the real problem starts. I do not simply think this sort of practice is unhealthy, I know it. I am certain of it. I do not mean to make your offer into something less. I know what it means from your standpoint, and the sentiment is beautiful. It is just flawed.

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RE: Let me absorb your pain. - 8/6/2008 5:52:39 PM

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"Master, please I am here to absorb your anger and pain, please hurt me.. use me as an outlet to your pain, so that it releases you from the demons within"...

I discovered this mind blowing concept a long time again, when somebody offered their body for me to physically take out my pain and anger at the moment. At first this threw my mind for a loop, why anybody sane would literally offer themselves to somebody in a not so pleasent state of mind.

People makes sacrifices like this day in and day out. They may not manifest quite so graphically as your example, but think for a moment how many wives actually want to listen to the office politics of her husbands work place, night after night? How many mothers actually enjoy those bloody play centres with a million screaming brats running around in their stickiness? How many fathers actually want to spend Saturday morning at the swimming bath? Or week nights listening to the wife moaning about the ironing pile, or the neighbours or something equally as trite?

I know I am going camping again this weekend! I hate it, detest it, with passion. I come home dirty, unkempt and totally freaked out. But I do it with a smile and a glimmer of hope that there will be something I can enjoy, and yes I am sane, and yes I love my Sir and will do what he asks, not just because he is my Sir, but also because of human nature that makes want to please and give to others.

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