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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/4/2008 1:42:47 PM

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The only time i have ever used my safeword in a scene, was when i discovered a new limit. We were in a scene i was in la la land and She started slapping my nipples with a riding crop. Nothing dangerous or overly painful, but i went from flying in subspace to angry as is scene, is over cut me loose angry. To this day, i cannot handle ny nipples being slapped, pinch them twist them hang weights from them and i'm fine. But i do have a safeword for situations just like that, even a non verbal one for when i'm gagged but have only used it that one time.

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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/4/2008 2:04:06 PM

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I always have a safe word, even if it's just the commonly accepted "red", but, I'm not very good (read very very bad) at using it. I was never taught how, back when I was learning the ropes, and the idea that I could was never really very prominant either. Some things stick, no matter how you try to change them.

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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/4/2008 3:33:37 PM

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If i'm bottoming to someone, the safeword always comes up as an implied idea...mostly the universal RED...or the ever clear "BACK OFF Mother Fucker!" works too......

But seriously..if i'm in a relationship i don't use safewords.....i trust him to know me well enough, be able to read my body language...and then take me where he wishes me to go. I personally enjoy being pushed by my Dominant ( and by myself ) and i'm not keen on the idea of being a "do me" sub.....He's the one in control.
When i have passed my own level of perhaps, good judgement, i expect him to keep me safe and stop a scene.

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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/4/2008 5:30:46 PM

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Ya know I can only think of maybe two times in my entire life I've ever used a safeword with anyone, even casually and in those two instances I can only remember using it once only because I was having a slight health problem and knew it was a good possibility I might need it since I was not healed yet.

Otherwise I rely on good old fashioned communication. If I'm having a problem I trust myself to just say I'm having a problem and state it to the person and let him decide what he should do from there. If I'm with someone even casually who doesn't get that then really it's my own fault for not choosing more wisely who I'm with and the responsibility lies entirely on me.

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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/4/2008 8:11:07 PM

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how attached am i to my safeword? tickle me for a while and find out.

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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/4/2008 8:46:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: msprudence

How attached are YOU to your safeword?

I was pretty attached to my safe word... and still am to some degree........ But I grew out of it around the age of 6..... oh my safe word was............"Mummmmmmmmmmyyyyyyyy"

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RE: How attached are you to your safeword? - 8/5/2008 12:31:25 PM

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We made a safeword shortly after a situation where My Lord went too far and hurt me emotionally, but in truth more for his peace of mind than mine. I have accepted my responsibility in it, as he has, and we both learned. He's incredibly in tune to my body language, and I trust him implicitly. I haven't yet used it. shrug. Probably will never have to.

Of course, I would actually have to remember the damn thing in play, and it took me reading most of this thread to remember it, anyway. I'm guessing it's not going to come to me when I can't remeber my own name, either. :)

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