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Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/17/2005 1:12:58 PM

FelinePersuasion

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I hope to eventually find someone to be sexual with but honestly sex is such a small part they have to want me first. And a lot of doms expect sex as an imiediat right now thingie And any one I'd choose to guide us sexually would have to want us first and not even be about sex.
think I would be sexually subservient if I could enjoy sex, but that's something months maybe year or so off, and most who'd want to"take on and train" someone expect sex to be almost emidiate. They also have the added burden if you will of making sure the mate don't feel like they're trying to take over the mate's number 1 spot

So then if you advertise you hope sex will come sometime you attract all the idiots and trolls but if you say no sex like I have because that's something private and personal that will come up when it's right the playing field so to speak is smaller. I am one big contradiction I confuse myself so much sometimes lol.

So how does one sort through the eventual sex stuff with the no sex right away thing. Has any one else been in the situation where they hope a certain thing will come about eventually, but since it's not what you want people contacting you for you put no.......... And then try to find it later?

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/17/2005 1:19:00 PM

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So how does one sort through the eventual sex stuff with the no sex right away thing. Has any one else been in the situation where they hope a certain thing will come about eventually, but since it's not what you want people contacting you for you put no.......... And then try to find it later?

You really confused me that's for sure.

Just be who you are and find people who share your priorities and expectations. Trust me, you're not the only one.

Be honest and say "I'm looking for a long term relationship, sex inclusive. However, I want to build a relationship and allow the sex to come later."

Your hard part will be finding the men who are REALLY happy with that and want you, and the ones who just say so and will push you on the second date.

But there's plenty of people out there who are completely compatible with what you want in this way.

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/17/2005 2:05:01 PM

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I seem to run people off because I have a bf and they want someone single, but I keep lookin!

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/17/2005 2:18:48 PM

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So how does one sort through the eventual sex stuff with the no sex right away thing. Has any one else been in the situation where they hope a certain thing will come about eventually, but since it's not what you want people contacting you for you put no.......... And then try to find it later?

Are you looking for a play partner with no sex involved? Or a third for your relationship?

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/18/2005 12:23:30 AM

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I want someone to do bdsm with, to guide my sexual growth and then maybe become a third.

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/18/2005 5:52:02 AM

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I want someone to do bdsm with, to guide my sexual growth and then maybe become a third.

And you want to keep your boyfriend too?

It's certainly possible, just not common.

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/18/2005 7:40:13 AM

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I want someone to do bdsm with, to guide my sexual growth and then maybe become a third.

That's simple then. You want a play partner. They are a dime a dozen to find. Merely tell them in the beginning you are not looking for a partner at this time. You just want to experiment and play. "IF" things work out well....you may want to find a third.

I know more play partners out there than I know people in relationships.

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RE: Sometimes I confuse even myself. - 11/18/2005 2:10:02 PM

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yes of course I want to keep my bf LA hehe.

sub4 that does make sense, that way people know right now you just want to enteract on a bdsm ish level then move on to a more complex relationship should interest be

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